To be furious about dd's hair cut?

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7 year old dd went to play at a friends house yesterday. Dd had long bum length hair but when she got dropped home friends mum (a hairdresser) had cut dd's hair into a shoulder length bob! I didn't see the mum as she just dropped dd at the door and she came in on her own. I am so upset dd had never had her hair cut it was lovely, I know I can't do any thing about it now and dd is happy with her new hair style. AIBU to think friends mum should have spoken to me about this first?

Yanbu!!!!

Phone her.... Now!! Demand an explanation

YANBU! I would by furious too

Did your DD want her hair cut?

YANBU. How strange. Did your DD want it done?

YANBU at all, I would be furious and would probably have rung and given of by now. Did your DD say how this came about?

have her daughter back over for tea and tattoo her! 3)

I'd be beyond what a cheek!

Even if your DD wanted her hair cut the other Mum should have been on the phone to you checking first!

Phone? I'd be round there right now,asking what the deal was.

Was there some sort of hair related disaster (gum/self-cut/tangled brush) that themum hasn't told you about?

Whaaaaaaat??!
I am

I would be angry, and I would contact the other mum and let her know my feelings. What a fahcking liberty!!

Catsmamma's idea is good.

... maybe a nice piercing to go with the tattoo?

It is your DDs hair, not yours.
Your DD is happy.
Let it go.

Yes, the other mother should have phoned you first but in all honesty, it is your daughter's hair.

Who in their right mind thinks its ok to cut someone else's child's hair?

Is this woman normal in other ways?

omg, YANBU at ALL!!! How dare she cut your child's hair without your permission. You should speak to her as soon as you can and tell her she really overstepped the mark. I'm amazed at the cheek of some people!!

She was so wrong to cut it before checking with you!!

She's 7 yes not 17?

soup at 7? Really?

Not unreasonable to be shocked at someone else making decision to cut your dd's hair.

I'm assuming though that your dd asked for her hair to be cut? And she really likes it? Does it look good?

I do think really that at 7 a child should be able to have her hair cut if she wants (on proviso that the cut is a sensible one that would meet school approval etc etc).

I'm not sure what to suggest about where you go from here. My reaction would be to leave it but then that's prob because am not mad keen on long long hair and don't really mind how dd's hair is so long as is easy to look after and looks decent. Also am a wuss when it comes to confrontation!

Ask her why she cut your dd's hair, see if she has an explanation.

Did DD ask to have it cut? I'd try and find that out before going in all guns blazing.

Its hair, It'll grow back.

Surely op knows her dd feelings on this by now...

Soupdragon - I wholeheartedly disagree. You do not lop off a child's hair unless you gave birth to them.
It's the rule. The rule is so ingrained, it need never even be uttered.
Just NO!

I'm genuinely struggling to believe this

Agree with soupdragon about a 7 year old being able to decide whether she wants long hair or bob. It is her hair. And it will grow if she changes her mind and wants it long again.

Plus how fab not to have to faff with slides/bobbles and less worry about dreaded nits too.

Dd said her and her friend asked the mum to cut their hair. They both had it done. Dd is very pleased with her new hair style. I just feel so sad about it. What can I say to the mum? I don't want an argument I don't like confrontation.