To be furious about dd's hair cut?

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7 year old dd went to play at a friends house yesterday. Dd had long bum length hair but when she got dropped home friends mum (a hairdresser) had cut dd's hair into a shoulder length bob! I didn't see the mum as she just dropped dd at the door and she came in on her own. I am so upset dd had never had her hair cut it was lovely, I know I can't do any thing about it now and dd is happy with her new hair style. AIBU to think friends mum should have spoken to me about this first?

Is it not odd that she didn't come to the door? Suggests that she already realises what she did was out of order and wanted to avoid you?

I refer to them as 'my' and not MY.

You wouldn't put their wishes first if they were harmful but there is no good reason for making a DD have long hair when she wants it short.

I did not see any MY on posts but guess so long I could have missed it so sorry exotic I get where you coming from.

They crop up as in 'my DC my rules' which is rubbish- only in your own home.

Good lord, is this still rumbling on? I thought it was all over days ago, when the OP talked to the haircutterer and it was decided that she was indeed U, but misguided rather than malicious, that the haircut was rather nice and that the OP was happy with it (if not with when, how and where it happened)?

wrt dropping and going; tis the norm on our street as there's never anywhere to park and it's a narrow road. Drop-off parent beeps, I wave from an upstairs window to confirm receipt, drop-off parent then has to zip off for fear off delaying the bus behind them. Nothing strange there at all; any news gets exchanged when you see the parent next, or on the phone if pressing.