to give our nanny fish fingers whilst DH and I eat Waitrose Organic Salmon?

[MarieFromStMoritz]

I am laughing at myself posting this, not sure why...

Anyway, I recently decided that we were going to get healthy. DH is overweight and has high blood pressure and I am overweight, pregnant and at risk of pre-eclampsia. So I have been trying to stick with protein and a salad for dinner and healthy food throughout the day.

I was at Waitrose this morning, and I saw these salmon fillets. I thought they would go well with a nice salad and some boiled potatoes. However, they were really, really expensive. We live overseas and Waitrose is even more expensive than it is in the UK. So I bought fish fingers for DS and just could not bring myself to buy another salmon fillet for my nanny, so thought she could have fish fingers like DS (she has no health issues and is young and slim).

The thing is, by the time I got home, I felt very guilty. She is an adult after all, and I felt that we were treating her like a child giving her fish fingers. Also it suggests that she is not really good enough for the salmon fillet.

I am aware that I am probably overthinking this, but I am just wondering what everyone else would do. Money is tight. Right now, I am probably going to give her the salmon fillet and I'll have the fingers, but I don't know. Would it BU to give her the fish fingers?

I would be utterly furious if my nanny behaved like this.

We always eat the same thing, minipie. It's just that DH and I are trying to lose some weight. I am high-risk for pre-eclampsia and my DH has blood pressure problems and we both need to lose weight. I thought the salmon fillets would make a nice healthy low-fat supper. I am trying to stick to just protein (ie meat, fish) and salad for me and DH, but if I have to buy this for the whole family, we just couldn't afford it. Meat and fish are so expensive here.

Sod it - I think I'll just abandon the healthy eating plan

I can't believe people are suggesting giving the clearly superior fish to the help. Whatever will she expect next, hot water to bathe in, use of the indoor loo? You need to keep them feeling downtrodden otherwise they get ideas above their station and become a nightmare to handle :P

arf @ Hully - do you mean if she fed you fish fingers?!

You don't have to abandon the healthy eating at all. Just add lots of vegetables (you must have some form of local vegetation available?) do baked potatos with ratatouille, use aubergine if you can instead of meat, lentils instead of meat. don't use lots of cheese, see if you can make fishfingers yourself with cheaper fish etc.

There are lots of things you can do to eat healthily without breaking the bank, I know it is more expensive BUT it doesn't need to be overly expensive, and check the frozen section for salmon fillets they are quite nice from waitrose and not too pricey.

All down to how its cooked, bake and steam rather than fry.

Or try this as a salad here and give ds fish fingers. Ask the nanny though if she likes salmon before you go to the trouble of doing what you are possibly doing as it would be a real shame to muck about with the salmon if you don't have to!

Noooo, a healthy eating plan is good, I think you just need to do a bit more research.

Salmon is NOT low-fat, neither are lots of meats.

Stick to chicken, white fishes, sardines and such.

You could also try googling 'hypertension diets' (there are lots I think, my FIL is on one)

I do think it's a bit unreasonable to serve up separate meals for people, better to stick to cheaper meals that everyone can enjoy.

It's difficult with my DH PoohBearsHole. I would be quite happy being vegetarian, but not him. He also works hard and for long hours, so expects something quite substantial when he gets home.

i am desperately trying to get him onboard for the healthy eating thing. I worry so much about him not living long enough to see the kids grow up.

What's wrong with fish cakes and salad? - sorted!

Add a chicken breast to all of the above

I have now told dh if he wants more substantial he can do it himself so sometime he likes a bit of vegetarian as it means he dosn't have to cook it.

Fishcakes are a good way of making expensive fish go further :)

Not all meat can be expensive surely if you going low carb chicken is cheap everywhere is it not ?? Also the salmon does not have to be organic and although you wrote car off is there not a taxi/bus/sending Nanny out/DH on way home/online option to shop somewhere cheaper?

Is she really the nanny or the maid? I bought 4 steaks which we consider as a bit of a luxury. Put them in the freezer and went on holiday. Came back and the maid had scoffed all four, never even got a sniff of the bloody expensive, special occasion steaks which we would have shared with her anyway. Let her eat fish fingers, only joking before I get flamed.

Suprised that you feed your nanny!

Anyway, I am asking for this thread to be deleted. It was a genuine dilemma, but was also meant to be a bit light-hearted. Shame it turned so nasty.

For what it's worth, I am giving the salmon to the nanny. I'll just have salad. Sorted.

Really?

You were surprised?

Really?

Where is the nastiness, I haven't seen any?

Don't just have salad, make the fishcakes or a salmon salad by flaking it in after you have cooked and serve with potatos.

There are only a couple of tongue in cheek posts as you made it quite clear in you OP that you weren't trying to be mean.

If you feel worried start a thread in another topic about healthy eating cheaply with meat too, there are lots of things that we can help you out with over there and less sarcasm too

On the other thread Hully.

I don't understand why you'd buy better food for yourself than for your child.

Ah.

Well, perhaps it was a teensy bit ill-thought through...

Yes the other thread is pretty mean-spirited. Don't blame you OP.

Marie, lesson learned - you have to be very careful or/and thick skinned starting a thread like this about your nanny/maid especially with the topic.

I don't understand why you would expect a differwnt reaction tbh, you start a thread saying you and your DH have to eat organic, expensive salmon as you are trying to eat healthily but DS and nanny get fish fingers, what did you think people would say???

I don't usually, lisaro. It's just that my doctor is worried about my health as I am high-risk for pre-eclampsia. My DH also has high blood pressure, so I started us on a healthy eating plan today. He doesn't eat lamb, I don't eat chicken, he doesn't like anything veggie, it's a nightmare