to give our nanny fish fingers whilst DH and I eat Waitrose Organic Salmon?

[MarieFromStMoritz]

I am laughing at myself posting this, not sure why...

Anyway, I recently decided that we were going to get healthy. DH is overweight and has high blood pressure and I am overweight, pregnant and at risk of pre-eclampsia. So I have been trying to stick with protein and a salad for dinner and healthy food throughout the day.

I was at Waitrose this morning, and I saw these salmon fillets. I thought they would go well with a nice salad and some boiled potatoes. However, they were really, really expensive. We live overseas and Waitrose is even more expensive than it is in the UK. So I bought fish fingers for DS and just could not bring myself to buy another salmon fillet for my nanny, so thought she could have fish fingers like DS (she has no health issues and is young and slim).

The thing is, by the time I got home, I felt very guilty. She is an adult after all, and I felt that we were treating her like a child giving her fish fingers. Also it suggests that she is not really good enough for the salmon fillet.

I am aware that I am probably overthinking this, but I am just wondering what everyone else would do. Money is tight. Right now, I am probably going to give her the salmon fillet and I'll have the fingers, but I don't know. Would it BU to give her the fish fingers?

Maybe cut the salmon fillet in half and have half each, you could always say they were the last 2, or there were 2 reduced or something like that!!

You should've had fish fingers for everyone, if money is that tight the salmon was really a bit of an extravangance.

A more sensible compromise is to split the salmon fillet into 4 and everyone have a fish finger too (no reason for DS not to get the salmon)

I understand why you would not want to buy a third if it's very expensive, but yes, I think YABU. It's mean and definitely looks like you don't think she's important enough to be eating the same food as the "adults"

Why not each have half a salmon and a couple of fish fingers

Yeah, good idea. I won't give DS the salmon though, because I worry about bones.

Do you all eat together?

You could ask her - personally I loathe salmon and would much prefer the fish fingers .

No *SauvignonBlanche, we are always asking her to join us at the table, but she would rather eat in her room.

I understood that au-pairs were to be treated 'as part of the family' (the trade-ff for low pay). When your grown up ds comes to visit, will you serve him fish fingers whilst you eat salmon? Probably not.

Well I'm a nanny, and I don't like salmon so would be unimpressed if I got some. I do however like fishfingers! Sorry, that's no help. I personally wouldn't care if I was bought something else than the parents, I don't eat with the parents and prefer it that way! Is she live-in? I've never been bought anything specifically for me, I just take what I need and leave anything fancy or expensive!

Maybe I'll just give DH the salmon and me, DS and the nanny can have fish fingers. Then they'll be another salmon for another day.

But salmon us a really good source of fish oil. Can't you just check his for bones

What a brilliant mn thread title though

Thank you sairygamp. It is very Mumsnet, isn't it?

No wonder you laughed when you typed the OP.

What a mumsnettian dilemma. To be honest I would cook something completely different for your DS and nanny - like a bowl of pasta or something, so it looks as if you are just eating something completely different, rather than naice fish for you and DH, and pleb fish for the children and the staff.

God I really, really fancy a fishfinger sandwich now.

...rather than naice fish for you and DH, and pleb fish for the children and the staff.

Fish fingers, couple of slices of cheap white bread and butter, some salad cream - food of the gods, I'd choose this over salmon every time.

GetOrf! You're back in uniform! How's you?

Building on GetOrf's suggestion, OP, could you use the salmon in pasta dish, and all eat the same thing? Though, now I think about it, pasta probably not in your diet plan for you and DH is it? As you were...

Re worrying about fish bones, I bought some very nice taste the difference (sainsbury's posh stuff) fishfingers for lunch for me, DS and DH and mine had an enormous bone in it. Glad I had cut up DS's for him.

If it had been a fish filet at least I would have been expecting bones and would have checked carefully before giving yo DS.

Give the crappy boring blah salmon to the nanny and DS, and you and DP feast on fishfinger sandwiches.

poledra hello!

I would suggest you have the salmon on a day she is visiting friend/family and you all have fish fingers with salad which is still a healthy option.
This brings back bad memories for me and would hate to think someone else is been treated differently because they are paid help. Nobody knows tomorrow hence treat everybody nicely regardless od the suitation or circumstance

What is wrong with mumsnet?

With a thread title like that HOW can it not have kicked off already?