to give our nanny fish fingers whilst DH and I eat Waitrose Organic Salmon?

[MarieFromStMoritz]

I am laughing at myself posting this, not sure why...

Anyway, I recently decided that we were going to get healthy. DH is overweight and has high blood pressure and I am overweight, pregnant and at risk of pre-eclampsia. So I have been trying to stick with protein and a salad for dinner and healthy food throughout the day.

I was at Waitrose this morning, and I saw these salmon fillets. I thought they would go well with a nice salad and some boiled potatoes. However, they were really, really expensive. We live overseas and Waitrose is even more expensive than it is in the UK. So I bought fish fingers for DS and just could not bring myself to buy another salmon fillet for my nanny, so thought she could have fish fingers like DS (she has no health issues and is young and slim).

The thing is, by the time I got home, I felt very guilty. She is an adult after all, and I felt that we were treating her like a child giving her fish fingers. Also it suggests that she is not really good enough for the salmon fillet.

I am aware that I am probably overthinking this, but I am just wondering what everyone else would do. Money is tight. Right now, I am probably going to give her the salmon fillet and I'll have the fingers, but I don't know. Would it BU to give her the fish fingers?

Get salmon from Tesco - it's 4 packs of 2 fillets for £12

I'd have both salmon fillets and give DH, DS and the nanny fishfingers.

Salmon is quite a fatty fish. You're doing them all a favour, honest

How can you afford a nanny when you can't even afford 2 extra salmon fillets? Genuine question.

can you not give nanny and ds their tea,,,and make a candlelit dinner for you and dh..

I am assuming this is a joke?

You could tell the nanny if she wants salmon then she knows what to do, while handing her a fishing rod.

Do you all eat together?

If DS and the nanny eat early, and you and DP later, I don't think its an issue if there are two different meals. The nanny is having the "early" meal option, which is fish fingers.

Fish fingers are yummy. I can't see how anyone could possibly have an issue with fish fingers!

at the middle class dilemma....

I love Mumsnet.

do you know what, if the nanny is lovely I would simply say to her "oh I feel a wally, without really thinking I bought you and DS fish fingers, then I felt like a right idiot for treating you like one of the children! Do you mind fish fingers or would you like a salmon fillet? I love either, so it makes no difference to me either way"

The nanny will say "Fishfingers are delicious Marie, that's no problem at all"

First to whoever brought up au pairs the OP has a nanny. Totally different.

I'd get round it by putting fish fingers on the menu for lunch and salmon for dinner.
When I was nannying I usually at the same as my charges but rarely ate dinner en famille though.

I would be thinking the same thing about your son OP! Isn't HE good enough for salmon too??

And I much prefer salmon to fish fingers. I wouldn't eat fish fingers personally unless served up to me, when I would to be polite.

I never understand it when people give their kids the poor quality food and eat good stuff themselves. What's that all about?

Never mind the staff I'm sure you could ask your nanny, she may even say 'fish fingers please ma'am'.

I never understand why adults give their kids other food they not having. Like salmon/fish fingers never mind nanny poor kids how come they cannot have salmon ?? But totally U regarding nanny

I also don't understand why people would risk annoying their nanny over a couple of pounds? This is the person who spends a lot of your time with your DS. Surely it makes sense for your nanny to be happy with how you treat her?

I like the way OP has strategically mentioned Waitrose too. Just so there's no danger of us thinking she was in Aldi or Lidl

OP, you've said money is tight yet you have a nanny and you shop in waitrose. If you shopped in a cheaper shop there would be much more in the budget to buy decent food for your nanny too!

Exactly imnotmymum. An acquaintance's dds had serious eating issues because she would cook them 'beige' tea and while they were eating it prepare the supper for dp and her, usually involving strong tasty cooking smells.

What must that be like - smelling strong cooking smells and eating tasteless pap?

Hexagonal - OP is clearly loving this upstairs downstairs scenario in her home.

Not sure if YABU but am now making myself, ds and his friend a fish finger sandwich thanks to this thread! ;)

It is a joke isn't it? The OP wanted us all to get hysterical and rant at her.

I've never has a fish finger sandwich.:( Should I feel deprived?

Are putting salad cream or ketchup on it?

Mayonnaise totem!

Am still and pleb fish

If you are sitting down together to have a family meal, then everyone should be offered the same.
If you eat separately, then it matters less. I asked the aupairs in my house what they liked to eat & then bought that kind of food for them. I expected them to eat with my DCs, if I wasn't there & asked that they should eat the same food, so I'd always check they were ok with what I was pre-preparing for tea time.

I don't ever recall them asking for salmon fillets. It was usually diet coke, cereal and low fat yoghurts!
If money is tight, you can frozen salmon fillets in a big back from Aldi, at a fraction of the price you pay for 2 fresh fillets in Waitrose!

You know you are!