to give our nanny fish fingers whilst DH and I eat Waitrose Organic Salmon?

[MarieFromStMoritz]

I am laughing at myself posting this, not sure why...

Anyway, I recently decided that we were going to get healthy. DH is overweight and has high blood pressure and I am overweight, pregnant and at risk of pre-eclampsia. So I have been trying to stick with protein and a salad for dinner and healthy food throughout the day.

I was at Waitrose this morning, and I saw these salmon fillets. I thought they would go well with a nice salad and some boiled potatoes. However, they were really, really expensive. We live overseas and Waitrose is even more expensive than it is in the UK. So I bought fish fingers for DS and just could not bring myself to buy another salmon fillet for my nanny, so thought she could have fish fingers like DS (she has no health issues and is young and slim).

The thing is, by the time I got home, I felt very guilty. She is an adult after all, and I felt that we were treating her like a child giving her fish fingers. Also it suggests that she is not really good enough for the salmon fillet.

I am aware that I am probably overthinking this, but I am just wondering what everyone else would do. Money is tight. Right now, I am probably going to give her the salmon fillet and I'll have the fingers, but I don't know. Would it BU to give her the fish fingers?

The nanny will say "Fishfingers are delicious Marie, that's no problem at all"

She might say that but I bet my bottom dollar that won't be what she is thinking!

For the posters who asked, we live in a country where there is no part-time childcare. If both parents work, then you need to employ a live-in nanny.

As for why I am shopping in Waitrose, I wrote my car off 2 weeks ago, so I can only go to the local shopping centre which has a Waitrose. It is currently 100 degrees out there.

If I was her I would say, oh well if you are sure you don't mind, salmon fillets please

YABU, sorry.

As someone else commented, if you and dh are having expensive salmon together, that;s one thing - but to buy her a budget version of same is insulting. Just plan for ds and her to have pasta or something.

Yeah, DS does not eat pasta. He'll eat sushi, it's not that he doesn't like fish, but I won't give him salmon because I worry about bones.

I'm gonna give her the expensive salmon, aren't I?

Ok, not pasta then.

Oh, need to know where there is both a Waitrose & 100degs - sounds like heaven!

YABU to give your DC fish fingers while you eat organic salmon.

There are rarely bones in Salmon ime - we have it once a week ( thanks to Tesco, see above) and can't recall ever finding bones.

IT'S THE BONES!

I say YANBU, OP. Give her what you like - she's an employee, not a house guest, and it's not like you're giving her mouldy bread and water. But I suspect the majority view here will disagree

make them all into salmon fishcakes, you can pad nanny and ds' out with more potato and you can have more salmon in yours, therefore its the best of both worlds. You were going to have potato anyway so its not as if you are adding anything else to it!

There you I have sorted your problem OP - perhaps this sounds good to me!

It is really easy to see if there are bones in fillets of salmon. You can literally take a flake at a time & check for bones. Only takes one minute to check off enough for a small child to eat & then you can give your DS can enjoy the salmon too.

Ooh, they look nice

You'll let him eat sushi, which I am pretty sure small children aren't suppose to eat, but you worry about bones in salmon?

Ooohkaaay

Not all sushi contains raw fish, Tee.

True. I still think you're a bit loony. And as a certified loon? I know from loony.

muffinflop, mmm lovely mayo. I'll have to get a pack and try it.

i think go with the make it into fishcakes idea!

and why arent small children supposed to eat sushi! mine love it and i am pretty sure plenty of children around the world eat it!

I give my DCs fresh salmon about twice a week and hardly ever found a bone in them. I take the salmon flakes apart (they fall apart very easily) and you can see cleary if there are bones in it, 9/10 there isn't. Neither of mine have had salmon bone related injuries!

If you are all eating together then you should all eat the same, otherwise it would be really odd.

as PoohBear says
salmon fishcakes one day - easy to make and lovely
fish fingers another day

all family eating healthily together

tbh I would think it depends if you eat at the same table or not - I often eat with DS but eat something different from him and then when we had a nanny she had a choice - eat my food, DS food or her own weirdy concoctions!

Such a MN dilemma

by "at the same table" I am not suggesting that nanny sits somewhere on her own, a lower table perhaps
but if she and DS ate together earlier and you and DH ate later/ or she ate in her room as you said then different food seems less odd

I don't really understand the practicalities here.

How does the nanny know what is her food and what is your food?

Do you have a separate "nanny" section of the fridge which you stock up? Do you leave her dinner out for her every day?

I would have thought that all your food would be communal/shared with the nanny unless you specifically say that X is being saved for birthday lunch or something.