To have expected my son to have been fed?

[AngelWreakinHavoc]

I wont blab on I will get straight to the point!

My ds (15) stayed at his friends house for the weekend, Friday night till Sunday night. All the time he was there he was not fed, no breakfast,lunch,tea, a snack NOTHING!

I made sure he ate friday before he went there but he asked for something to eat later on and was told he would have to buy his own food. At first in discussion with my OH we thought 'oh dear they must be skint and have no food in' then I thought well they either should have said he couldnt stay or shared food equally (I have done it many times fed loads of kids with very little food).

THEN......My ds told me, friday night they had a chinese and saturday night they had an indian, It beggers belief, My ds friends Dad drove them to the indian ordered food for the family then took my ds to the shop to get himself a microwave curry.Over the weekend all he had was 2 micro meals and a bought sandwich Luckily my ds had £10 with him which I presumed he would be spending on sweets probably a 4 pack (general stuff a 15yr old boy would buy).

I would not dream of having anyone stay at my house and not feed them or aibu?

YANBU

I forgot to add I was away from saturday morning till sunday 6pm when i picked him up so I know my ds would have felt bad to call me to get him BUT if I knew he was hungry I would have come back :(

YANBU!

I would be furious!

No YANBU. That is very bad.

They sound stingy and rude beyond belief.

I'm surprised his friend either didn't take his parents to task about it or share his portion with your DS.

What does your DS think about the way his friend/parents behaved?

What an absolutely horrible way to treat your DS! I would be having words myself....It's almost a form of child cruelty

You feed kids, I feed kids - others think that a 15 year old can feed himself - his mate (not his mates parents) invited him over - some people are just like that.

That is TERRIBLE. and quite bizarre. I do remember being shocked when I was about six or seven and at a friends house playing, they all went for supper but I was asked to wait upstairs until they had finished !.. My mother would feed anyone who turned up, and if the meal wasn't enough to go round we would be told "FHB" (family hold back) so that the guest would have a reasonable plateful. Had they invited him for the whole weekend?

Seriously?! that is beyond odd.

perhaps they didn't want him for the weekend
is he round there a lot?
I'd tell him to stay away from the who;e family tbh

Yanbu. How awful for ds! Guests should always be offered the same. Same as if there were 4 cakes and 5 ppl the guest would get it even if I had to miss out.

YANBU. Absolutely appalling from those Parents .I think I would feel a red mist descending if he was my ds and a phone call complaining about his treatment would be in order.

Did the parents know he was staying all weekend? I would have expected them to feed him, but equally (maybe I'm wrong, my DD is only 2yo and it's a long time since I was 15) for the whole weekend I'd expect the visiting child to at least offer to pay towards meals out or takeaways.

YANBU

If the parents weren't planning on feeding your DS then this should have bee mentioned beforehand - and you could have given them some ££ to pay for the takeaways..

15 is still a child and they were the adults in charge of him for that weekend.

I am totally speechless tbh.
Ordering 2 takeaways and telling your ds he had to buy his own, well what can you say.

Agentzigzag raises a good point, what did his friend say about it all?

That's one of the weirdest things I've every read on MN. How utterly bizarre. I guess your ds won't be going there again?

Yadnbu

Had he even been invited to stay, because that's such odd behaviour.

Wow..........that is really, really strange. Rude and strange

Fuxking hell, that's just mean, and weird.

How odd

:-O regardless of age I'd still feed a child.

It might depend really on whether they had invited him for the weekend, or you had asked if he could stay over as you were going away. If I asked for my child to stay over anywhere, I always make sure I press some money on the parent, or on the child - enough to cover anything, and I'd always ask if they were going out or going to be eating out so I could give them money to cover my son. That said this has only been twice, but I wouldn't feel right otherwise.

If they invited your son over for the weekend then they are definitely being VERY unreasonable.

Don't let him go back there, ever. Please.