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To have been more annoyed at DP than the couple ripping the piss out of us?

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GNationalSucks · 14/04/2012 18:43

This issue spreads throughtout the entire day so bear with me please.

DP and I had been very busy all day and hadn't had time to eat. We were driving past a McDonalds and I asked him if he fancied grabbing a burger. He agreed. We go through the drive-thru and I ask for a big mac meal and DP says he wants a chicken sandwich meal which costs £2.19. I order both and DP says "I'll sort out what I owe you when we get back to your house". I was like " Hmm don't worry about it, I'm buying". He didn't respond which I thought was rather rude but anyway!!

Later in the day we're in Asda and I have a conveyor belt of stuff heading to the cashier. DP puts a few things on the end of it, hands me a £5 note and says "that's for the stuff, you owe me 50p". Shock I laugh assuming he's joking, turns out he isn't - I look at the stuff he's got and it can't cost more than £3 so I ask "why 50p?? that stuff doesn't come to £4.50" and he says "no, its to cover my side of the Mcdonalds earlier." At this point I see the couple in front of us catch each other's eyes and smirk without saying a word. It's obvious they were laughing at us.

I said "I bought the lunch, I told you at the time" so he says "oh did you?? oh right!! cool, well you owe me more than 50p then! (Shock) here let me work this out ... " the cashier then smirks and the man in front shakes his head. All 3 of them are ripping the piss out of us. I snap "Just sort it out later for gods sake".

We had a row about it when we got back to the car. I feel he showed us up and he does this a lot. When we got out for "2 meals for £10" things he'll try and work out exactly how much I need to contribute in front of the waitress. He's done it on buses, pubs, everything. One time we were in a bar and I'd bought the last round. We went to the bar and looked expectantly at him and he said quite aggressively "oh no! it's YOUR round!". que - a group of blokes start laughing at him. I calmly point out "err no, it isn't" to which he replies "Of course it is!!" when he realises his mistake he points out that as I drank a coke on my last round I should make up the difference or some shite that I didn't fully understand at the time.

Anyway, past issues aside, was I being unreasonable to be more annoyed at him making a laughing stock of us in asda than be annoyed at the people laughing?

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paulapantsdown · 14/04/2012 19:13

madhouse - my freinds sister did this .. called her at work one day to tell her that my friend owed her half the cost of a stamp for sympathy card posted from of them, and actually took the 37p off her

when we were teenagers all living at home, my mum would ask whoever was free to run to the corner for milk/teabags whatever - we were all working little jobs and were waited on hand on foot by our mum, but my younger brother was always the only one who put the hand out for the money from her

both of these people are still losers who have no friends

issimma · 14/04/2012 19:13

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AKissIsNotAContract · 14/04/2012 19:13

So why are you with him? What are his good points?

cocoachannel · 14/04/2012 19:13

Completely agree Hecate.

Pumpster · 14/04/2012 19:14

I'm not so sure he is mean, more very anal! How is the rest of the relationship?

RandomMess · 14/04/2012 19:14

If you find his behaviour that embarrassing then you need to move on. He doesn't sound socially competent in a few ways.

SauvignonBlanche · 14/04/2012 19:14

I thought exactly the same Hectate Sad

claudedebussy · 14/04/2012 19:15

VERY unattractive trait.

JustHecate · 14/04/2012 19:16

He is also 39! He's a year older than me. oh it would be funny if it was him! - chances are next to zero, of course.

He's in the east midlands.

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GNationalSucks · 14/04/2012 19:17

Other times he's great, he drove me all over looking for a new car last week, he'll go and see films he doesn't want to see just so that I can see them, he comes to my house and sorts out my fence (thats always blowing down in the wind) and cuts my grass and picks me stuff up from the car boot sales he goes to - he's just sorted out all my insurance/car documents out because I couldn't be arsed don't know what to do.

So in other ways he is good, but he's SO embarrassing when out in public and he doesn't seem to realise that he isn't acting normal!

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margerykemp · 14/04/2012 19:18

Just dump him for crying out loud!

ArtVandelay · 14/04/2012 19:18

Speculating on the man's state of mind aside: I just don't think you are suited. He embarrasses you and you sound like you are bothered about what people think of you. There's nothing wrong with that, but if it was true love you wouldn't notice. Move on and find your (hate this phrase but it will have to do) 'true love'.

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GNationalSucks · 14/04/2012 19:19

btw he's also asked me for half the cost of a postage stamp before today. I laughed at him and said "don't be so ridiculous you tight arse" and he replied "right! don't you ever ask me for change again!" - so of course the next time he owed he £7 he says "Oh I thought we didn't give change now?" Hmm

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WeShouldOpenABar · 14/04/2012 19:20

there is really nothing worse than meanness i find it sooo unattractive, one girl i knew was famous for it and after a holiday with a lot of stingy instances she got phased out of the group , no one could take it anymore

But on the other hand i think its telling that after so few months your noticing what other peoples reaction is to him and arent focused on him

I was embarrassed by a old boyfriend , I cared what people thought of him , he didnt it was my issue and it wasnt fair on him he deserved better

ImperialBlether · 14/04/2012 19:20

I agree with you, Hecate. Dreadful. I always worry that someone with a very young child who's autistic will be crying thinking that's what her child will be like.

OP, this bloke is dreadful. He's completely tight. I think the reason he thinks you're tight is that tight people always think everyone else is tight - they are in a constant battle with the world, thinking that they are about to be ripped off.

I wouldn't stay with him and as for sleeping with him... Please tell us who pays for the condoms? Or do you have to be on the pill as it's free?

You are 30 - it's very important who you are involved with now. This is not the man.

MrMiyagi · 14/04/2012 19:22

The "dump him" brigade are out in full force I see.

cocoachannel · 14/04/2012 19:23

Would you date a woman who behaved like this then MrM?

claudedebussy · 14/04/2012 19:24

how about some constructive advice then MrMiyagi?

Gapants · 14/04/2012 19:25

Oh god, run run for the hills, and do not look back

NiniLegsInTheAir · 14/04/2012 19:25

And this is another voice to the 'dump him' brigade. My husband is very much like this, and trust me it doesn't get better, it gets worse. And once you're married and have a kid, it takes it to a whole new level and escape is nigh on impossible. My advice - get out while you still can.

ArtVandelay · 14/04/2012 19:25

Yes MrMiyagi - Saturday night is Dump Brigade marching practice. We were full uniform and carry weapons.

ArtVandelay · 14/04/2012 19:26

Wear - sarcasm works better when you can spell, sorry Blush

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GNationalSucks · 14/04/2012 19:26

We got halves on the condoms.

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JustHecate · 14/04/2012 19:26

Yup. If someone is mean and this bothers you and you are embarrassed by them, it's not worth tying yourself to them. Be in a relationship that makes you happy. Don't waste your life trying to sustain a relationship that doesn't.

We're not talking 20 years and 5 kids and leave the bastard cos he left the milk out of the fridge.

There is no point forcing yourself to continue in a relationship that does not make you happy. There's no point developing a new relationship if from day one the person is not right for you, or you have concerns or reservations, or something about their personality disturbs you.

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GNationalSucks · 14/04/2012 19:27

go

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