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To have been more annoyed at DP than the couple ripping the piss out of us?

195 replies

GNationalSucks · 14/04/2012 18:43

This issue spreads throughtout the entire day so bear with me please.

DP and I had been very busy all day and hadn't had time to eat. We were driving past a McDonalds and I asked him if he fancied grabbing a burger. He agreed. We go through the drive-thru and I ask for a big mac meal and DP says he wants a chicken sandwich meal which costs £2.19. I order both and DP says "I'll sort out what I owe you when we get back to your house". I was like " Hmm don't worry about it, I'm buying". He didn't respond which I thought was rather rude but anyway!!

Later in the day we're in Asda and I have a conveyor belt of stuff heading to the cashier. DP puts a few things on the end of it, hands me a £5 note and says "that's for the stuff, you owe me 50p". Shock I laugh assuming he's joking, turns out he isn't - I look at the stuff he's got and it can't cost more than £3 so I ask "why 50p?? that stuff doesn't come to £4.50" and he says "no, its to cover my side of the Mcdonalds earlier." At this point I see the couple in front of us catch each other's eyes and smirk without saying a word. It's obvious they were laughing at us.

I said "I bought the lunch, I told you at the time" so he says "oh did you?? oh right!! cool, well you owe me more than 50p then! (Shock) here let me work this out ... " the cashier then smirks and the man in front shakes his head. All 3 of them are ripping the piss out of us. I snap "Just sort it out later for gods sake".

We had a row about it when we got back to the car. I feel he showed us up and he does this a lot. When we got out for "2 meals for £10" things he'll try and work out exactly how much I need to contribute in front of the waitress. He's done it on buses, pubs, everything. One time we were in a bar and I'd bought the last round. We went to the bar and looked expectantly at him and he said quite aggressively "oh no! it's YOUR round!". que - a group of blokes start laughing at him. I calmly point out "err no, it isn't" to which he replies "Of course it is!!" when he realises his mistake he points out that as I drank a coke on my last round I should make up the difference or some shite that I didn't fully understand at the time.

Anyway, past issues aside, was I being unreasonable to be more annoyed at him making a laughing stock of us in asda than be annoyed at the people laughing?

OP posts:
SuePurblyBusinesslike · 14/04/2012 18:45

I could under no circumstances have sex with that man.

RandomMess · 14/04/2012 18:46

Hmmm Yanbu

Do you really so a long term future with someone so anal over money?

Debeez · 14/04/2012 18:47

Stands to applaud Sue* *

GNationalSucks · 14/04/2012 18:48

The thing is he genuinly doesn't see what he's doing wrong. Like when we buy a take-away or whatever, if it comes to £11.50 and he asks how much he owes me I'll say "it was about a tenner, just give me a fiver towards it". He wouldn't, he'd ask for £5.75 towards it. He says I'm just as bad but I'm not! I'd never ask someone for 50p change.

OP posts:
AKissIsNotAContract · 14/04/2012 18:48

They were laughing at him, not you. What a cock.

I would have to dump him, tightness is not attractive.

doormat · 14/04/2012 18:48

g i have to agree with sue...he sounds disgusting to belittle you like that and it doesnt matter whether it is at home/public or in asda...two words spring to mind////GET RID

Yama · 14/04/2012 18:48

I agree with SuePurbly. Very, very, very unattractive quaility is meaness.

gettinghappy · 14/04/2012 18:48

WHAAAAAT!!! I thinkm maybe you should remove the 'D' from the DP...........

If he's so measly about a few pennies pity help you further down the line...

musttidyupmusttidyup · 14/04/2012 18:49

Being a tight wad does not a good husband make.
Poor you. Are you serious about him?

ShitBallsNassholes · 14/04/2012 18:49

Agree with Sue, what an asshole, no way I could be involved with a penny pincher like that, he'd drive me insane.

MrFunnytheEasterBunny · 14/04/2012 18:50

I agree with sue and akiss, you are a better woman than I am for putting up with that!!!

cocoachannel · 14/04/2012 18:50

When we go out for "2 meals for £10" things he'll try and work out exactly how much I need to contribute

I could under no circumstances have sex with that man...

GNationalSucks · 14/04/2012 18:50

See if someone had bought you your dinner, would you really then say that the same person "owed you more" later in the day when faced with a till dilemma Hmm

OP posts:
SauvignonBlanche · 14/04/2012 18:50

I'd run for the hills.

Kayano · 14/04/2012 18:50

I hate
People
Like this

My ex SIL, BIL me, DH and SIL and BIL kids went out once.

We paid for the cinema and it cost loads
We
Then went for a meal where we all paid for our own. We divvied up the bill equal parts for ease and me and DH put in half despite not having kids. Paid more than we should for ease and then generosity...

Then SIL says to DH 'oh your starter cost 50p more than mine so you owe me 50p! And I'm not leaving a tip as it was nasty.' Hmm after she ate it all grr

So we then had to put in more tip as it was nice!

It was so embarrassing for her and I'm not the type to forget shit like that so it was brought up a lot lol

Chubfuddler · 14/04/2012 18:51

How is this person a partner in life? Do you live together?

Helltotheno · 14/04/2012 18:51

OP honestly, take a long hard look at this situation. Don't you think you could do better?

LaurieFairyCake · 14/04/2012 18:51

This is all ok if you're 15.

If you're not he needs to agree not to discuss money in public as what you're describing is a cringe worthy conversation for adults.

Dinosaurhunter · 14/04/2012 18:51

You have got to be joking !

eatyouwithaspoon · 14/04/2012 18:51

sounds a right catch you got there

LentillyFart · 14/04/2012 18:51

And you'd seriously consider spending the rest of your life dealing with this?

bagelmonkey · 14/04/2012 18:53

If he's like this over the small things, it will only get worse. Get out now.

cutegorilla · 14/04/2012 18:53

YA sooooooooooooooooooooo NBU. He sounds unbearable.

SauvignonBlanche · 14/04/2012 18:54

How long have you been together OP?

RachelWalsh · 14/04/2012 18:54

I can't bear mean, stingy people. What Sue said.

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