To HATE pop in visitors?

[Eggrules]

Family friend of in-laws has just left.

Egg Towers is in the middle of Operation Spring Clean. OH cleaning the car on the drive with DS. I was in the kitchen and had emptied the cupboards out. Been on the go since early morning but the house was a complete tip . Offered drinks, chatted and then left OH to it.

HINT: if nobody answered the phone then they are busy/out.

I always pre-arrange visits with parents, best friends etc. I enjoy having people over but my nearest and dearest know I hate pop in visitors. I think it is very rude to gatecrash and invite yourself over and expect a red carpet.

What am I missing?

You've missed nothing. Random pop-in-ers are the devil's handservants and should all be shot.

Me too. I think it's so bloody rude, why would you assume that someone would want you to visit them?? I thinks it's inconsiderate and arrogant actually

It's incredibly rude to just turn up on the off chance. YANBU.

YADNBU!! Hate it are you reading this MIL?

You are all mean. Imagine what life would be like without them. Or is it that you don't like them. They don't come with benefits?

YANBU. I expect people to call before a visit. I could be shagging doing anything.

Nope not a pop in myself but our family home and relations and freinds were and it is one thing I miss now. Are you all southerners?

Luckily I don't know anybody who would do this!

YANBU but then I am massively antisocial anyway :o I just hate it because it always seems to be just as we are going out or about to have a meal and they expect you to put your plans aside to have a chat. Worse is when the ILs call ahead to say they are coming, so we wait in, then they turn up 3 hours later DH and I are now agreed that if it's inconvenient, we say so, and if they don't turn up within 30 minutes we carry on as though they aren't coming.

It's not bloody mean. You should have the right to say if it suits or not. All is takes is a call to say is it ok to pop in in half an hour. Drives me mental!

Autumn MIL did that last weekend She has a key to our house and when we didn't answer the door she just let herself in. DH and I were

Oh i thought it was just mean I get a bit twitchy with pop ins I thought i was just weird i cant settle untill they leave Im a bit antisocial though ,

I hate it because people always do it when house is a tip! We were out in the garden today so made a point of locking all doors and "forgetting" to take phone outside.

me dunno why i said mean

Close family and best friends are welcome to pop in because they know if I'm busy they will be left on the door step or ignored once in the house they entertain themselves and muck in.

But people we are not so close to have before now, been told 'I'm sorry you can't come in atm.' And have waved them off.

If it's inconveinient, it's not your fault! They should call first.

*inconvenient

AKMD Take the bloody key back now! Give it to a mate and make sure they know it's only for emergencies.

lol AKMD did she twig??!!

I don't mind if it's close family like either set of parents or my sister/nephew or one of my closest friends. anyone else would get right on my nerves. I really hate it when people do this when you have little kids and are at home, as if you have nothing better to do than just sit about drinking tea all day,,,

I think so. Dh threw some clothes on and got her out of the house sharpish... She has a key for a very good reason that I won't go into here though so I'm not going to take it from her but after last weekend I don't think she will do that again!

My parents love a pop in caller, but their house is always pristine and they have always got a ten course dinner available, seemingly with no effort.

Our house, on the other hand, is usually in chaos and we might only have Pringles on offer, so I hate an unannounced visitor.

I am a Southerner and OH is a Northener - IMO it's a bit of a Northern thing as he's always suggesting we do it and the idea of it makes me cringe.

Thank gawd AKMD

Cupid stunt neighbour has lit another fire and I have brought my lovely white towels in to wash again. No more tidying up.

He rang and then just turned up because we didn't answer the phone. Front door was open. I think he envisioned a cheeky beer and bbq and invited himself.

I don't like them. I don't mind short notice visits (eg a call to say 'can we pop over in half an hour?') but not unannounced ones. My house is a tip and I'm usually sitting with my bump out and no trousers on. I don't want to entertain people who want to drop in. That doesn't make me horrible or mean I don't like these people, I just want to choose when I get to play hostess and when I can slob out freely uninterrupted in my own home.

Oh im scottish so a northerner just a bit antisocial with Popins I would gladly meet anybody for a coffee and a chat just let me know first