Was it that odd, or is MiL overracting?

[Midnightmoon]

Had some bad news today and I was very upset the 2 older Dcs where on play dates. So it was just me, Dh and Dd2. Dd2 was asleep when it happened so it was just me and Dh. We curled up on the sofa and after crying all over him I fell asleep on him.
Was woken up an hour later by MIL who just lets herself in. She walked in and saw me still asleep on Dh at this point. She immediately jumped into a lecture on how this should not be done at all and using my Dh as a bed was direspectful towards him. Dh said he didn't mind and said she shouldn't of woken me up. (This is because I haven't been sleeping alot recently but MIL doesn't know this and if I'd of known she was coming I'd of tried to stay awake) MiL wasn't happy at this and asked where the Dcs where. Told her the 2 Dcs where out with their friends. She said I was awful mother and what if something had happened to the Dcs while i was asleep and they needed taking care of. I said that Dh would of woken me up plus Dh could of taken care of them otherwise. MiL pulled a face and then walked upstairs woke Dd2 , came down told me I needed to 'get cleaning' rather than laze around sleeping all day.
Dh got grumpy at this told her to leave and that she didn't know what I did for my family and that if it wasn't for me there was not way he would be able to do it all, she then left.
So was it that odd or am I the only one who has a very comfy Dh. :o

She overreacted and she shouldn't have let herself into your house! Why does she have a key?

I think I'd be relieving MIL of her key very quickly. Who on earth does she think she is??

What? Is she for real?

Get that key back right now!

she is very very U. You have done nothing wrong.

She sounds like a nightmare, glad your DH was quick to put her right!

Is this a wind-up? She seriously needs to butt out.

I'm glad your DH stood up for you and told her to catch a grip.

Is falling asleep on ones DH not just a nice side-effect of being cosy and snuggling up to him? Seriously, she needs to bugger off.

Wow -what a cow. Why does she let yourself into your home, have a go at you and think it within her rights to go and wake up your kid because you're supposedly not a great mum?

Her grandmother skills need working on. Worrying that you felt that if you'd known she was coming you'd have stayed awake. Why?

Sorry for your bad news.

Yanbu at all. Your DH sounds great

She sound horrific. What business is it of hers if you have an afternoon snooze - even if there was no underlying reason? Cuddling up to a loved one and falling asleep on them shows intimacy not disrespect. I would insist she return her key and also telephone before she came over. I would also tell her to mind her own fucking business about cleaning the house.

How rude! She sounds jealous to me.

Gawd she's abusing the key. Revoke privileges immediately!

She has a key cause we went on holiday and asked her to check up on the house. When Dh went to get it back she said he didn't have to have it back and she would keep it incase we go on holiday again. When Dh insisted she give it back she said No because she liked having it so that if we got locked out she would be the hero. Dh just left it. We may have to try and get it back again.

YANBU - get that key off her ASAP and feel free to say it's because you don't want her walking in on you two again.

Get. Key. Back.

That's all.

What you do is absolutely none of her business. Well done your dh for banishing her.

X post, if she won't give it back, change the locks.

Change the locks and don't tell her.

Whaaaaat? She sounds mad as a box of frogs. Get your key back!

Sorry you had bad news.

Get one of those chains for over the door and that'll really piss her off.

Insist she give it back and tell her if she doesn't you will have the locks changed. Alternatively just have the locks changed without telling her and wait for her to try to let herself in, and then laugh in her awful face through the window!

Buy a new lock at B&Q. Change lock.

Change the locks. mail her a photocopy of the definition of "privacy".

Wow. "Overreacted" suggests you'd done something wrong and she just went to far in reacting to it.

But you haven't done anything even remotely wrong. And her behaviour was outrageous from start to finish.

And she called you disrespectful.

WTAF?? Everyone falls asleep on their OH - it's lovely.

Your MIL is insane and horrible. Remove the key from her and tell never to comment on your relationship with you DH, you parenting skills, your sleep patterns or your life ever again.

I have rage on your behalf OP.

YADNBU she was definately overreacting.

Even without the bad news meaning you wanted your DH's support more so than usual, she was still overreacting. What's wrong with the odd snuggle here and there. There is something so reassuring about snuggling up with DH or DC's.

She sounds so like my MiL who always sneaks in and catches me just when I sit down with DD for a quick cuddle. Always have a lecture from her. I am compared to my SiL who is amazingly active/fit and keeps the house spotless but spends less time with her LO's. I am vice versa.

Wish it was a wind up, me and Dh just have interesting families.

Yes Dh is great :o Though no-one tell him I said that can't have it go to his head