wibu to dress dd in a bridesmaid dress for my friends wedding when she is not,in fact, a bridesmaid?

[leftmymistletoeatthedoor]

Dd is 17m.

One of my oldest friends is getting married next month. She's only having her sister as a bridesmaid, I think due to costs etc but not sure.

She isn't have any little bridesmaids if that makes a difference.

My mum wants to buy her a dress like this but I'm not sure if it'll seem a bit odd. Ill not be wearing a dress btw and her dad and brother who is 5 will be in kilts.

What do you reckon? Dd doesn't have much hair bless her so I'd like her to wear something girly so people don't think she's a boy

totally wrong to turn up as bridemaid loads of girly dresses about or just wear what she comfy in not all girls like frills

Love the idea of Guestzillas. My MIL has worn white to other people's weddings before (not mine), she is absolutely lovely and there's no malice involved which is why I've never said anything, I'd hate to see her crestfallen. But it does look a bit odd and people do take a second glance.

Still think anything goes for kids though.

You see I wouldn't worry about an adult guest wearing white as long as it doesn't look like a wedding dress.

Is your mum trying to drop a very heavy hint to someone else in the family because she wants them to get married as well?

"...and just look at Leftmy's little girl in her pretty dress, wouldn't she make you a beautiful bridesmaid get married before I die goddamnit if you were to set the date..."

It would seem petty if the bride was offended or upset in any way by a little girl's dress! You never know though, even normally reasonable people can be a bit funny about wedding-related stuff.

Personally I think it seems unnecessary and a bit too much for a 1 year old. And might look a bit like you/your mum have some weird agenda. I'd just put her in something 'nice' but more comfortable and practical that she won't trip over or ruin if she spills something!

I'm still laughing about the idea of a little 'secret bridesmaid'. That is the silliest notion!

what exactly is this 'agenda'? To make it appear that the child is in the wedding party? Why should it matter? The bride knows who is and isn't in the wedding party. Even if a 17 mo in a bridesmaid dress snuck into a wedding photo of ours, I'd just think, oh! How adorable! I wouldn't care at all if 'others' asked about it or thought it weird. It's a child, looking sweet.

I do have a friend, though, who cried about a dog being in the corner of one of her photos (probably outing myself here). FFS! Edit it out if it bothers you that much. We would have laughed and loved it :)

Oh I know it's all extremely silly, and I wouldn't care either! But people can sometimes be extra-sensitive and quick to take offence on these occasions. And given that it doesn't look a very practical or comfortable outfit for a baby/toddler anyway, I'd personally wouldn't choose it.

(I'd love to have my dogs in my wedding photos :))

Whose dog was it ha ha !! you did mean crying with laughter

I'm going to buy a party dress and be done with it. She isn't the most 'delicate' girl in the world shall we say?!

Yes take your dog alone wearing a bridesmaids dress. And if you don't have a dog, borrow one.

Or even better two dogs - 1 in brides dress another in groom's suit. You could even suggest on the day that the vicar/registrar gives the dogs a quick blessing

I am laughing out loud soo funny thats the way to do secret bridesmaid sounds like a programme on bbc 3

at 'secret bridesmaid' on BBC3

And the dog in the dress!

No! She was crying actual tears! About a dog in the corner because the photo would have otherwise been perfect . I pointed out it was a cute dog. I was not popular with that opinion. :)

cannot stop laughing it was a cute dog ha ha ha !!!! cannot breath

yes someone with a hidden agenda to get their precious dog into the wedding party!

oh my! What would people think? She'll get all sorts of questions about whether or not the dog was in the wedding and it will just spoil the whole thing!

Next week secret bridesmaid is his ex girlfriend ... Kerry Katona presenting

If I was the bride I wouldn't mind :)

really !!! ok then ex girlfriend and their ex dog ...

I wouldn't mind, if I was the bride. Actually, I'd have loved a little secret bridesmaid.

I don't have a dog. I have a cat though, wibu to dress her in something from here and make sure she's in all the photos ??

Yes!! It is a tacky looking dress. Find something classier ffs

pot kettle

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If you send the cat in that people will surely whisper and think "why on earth has she dressed her cat like a bridesmaid?" you may even get looks. And that will just be the end of the world.

Your evil agenda to enter a secret bridesmaid will fail!

Honestly! The notion of a secret deal with the bride for a secret bridesmaid! I pmsl every time!

But she's a CAT. That means it'll be ok won't it? Yes? Good.