wibu to dress dd in a bridesmaid dress for my friends wedding when she is not,in fact, a bridesmaid?

[leftmymistletoeatthedoor]

Dd is 17m.

One of my oldest friends is getting married next month. She's only having her sister as a bridesmaid, I think due to costs etc but not sure.

She isn't have any little bridesmaids if that makes a difference.

My mum wants to buy her a dress like this but I'm not sure if it'll seem a bit odd. Ill not be wearing a dress btw and her dad and brother who is 5 will be in kilts.

What do you reckon? Dd doesn't have much hair bless her so I'd like her to wear something girly so people don't think she's a boy

think I would go for a plain dress in a coordinating colour to the kilts and buy a ribbon in tartan to match to tie round the waist with a big bow, cute.

Do it! And get yourself something nice to wear too

I think that's very bridesmaidy and possibly not that comfortable with all that itchy net petticoat stuff.

If your mum is paying :) then I'd go for something like this ...
www.ilovegorgeous.co.uk/index.php/babies/dresses/baby-daisy-dress-shell-pink.html

Off to look at dresses again. am secretly please my threads had such a responce

Off to look at dresses again. am secretly pleased my threads had such a responce

Someone did do this at my wedding but it didn't bother me at all. Very distant relative brought her little girl (about 6 I think) in a very bridesmaidy dress. I had 4 little bridesmaids anyway (would probably have asked the little girl except the family relationship is v.complex so wouldn't really have been appropriate) so it was obvious that she wasn't wedding party. Little girl seemed to have a fab time, had a gorgeous dress on and everyone was happy. In the photos, she just looks like a little girl in a lovely dress.

That said, I wouldn't do it and would go for one of the many other beautiful dresses linked to on here. I'm taking my DD to a wedding in July and have already been looking at some of the flowery ones.

Actually, I don't think it's the bride you have to worry about, it's everyone else. I had a good friend wear red to our wedding (tradionally a 'no no' as it's supposed to be the groom's mistress' colour ) anyway, she called me before hand to check I wouldn't mind and not being a bridezilla I said no problem, a fabulous dress should be worn. However, several older guests made comments and there was loud tutting. She felt akward because of it, even though I did'nt mind/say anything.

It's more 'guestzillas' or 'motherofbridezillas' you have to worry about, who think you are trying to upstage the bride (not that anyone could)

It's not about upstaging the bride, but i didn't have any little bridesmaids at my wedding. If a child had turned up in a BM dress, it would have really pissed off all the members of my family who offered their kids services and made it very uncomfortable indeed.

but f a child arrived in such a dress, they still wouldn't be a bridesmaid so why would ths piss them off? The dress doesn't mean the child is a bridesmaid.

*if

Because they would believe that I had done some secret deal with the parent to have a secret flowergirl.

Oh god I shouldn't be allowed to go to weddings - I wore red to a friends wedding!

Can I just say I honestly wouldn't have cared if someone had done this at my wedding, we only had one wee boy because we were the first by a long way to settle down.

YANBU. She's a baby. It's not like she'll be mincing up the aisle as you shove a posy of roses in her hand!

You can put her in a cream frock if you bloody well like!

hides posy of roses

OP, the question to ask yourself is: Do I want my DD to wear a bridesmaid dress to this wedding?

if the child is not a bridesmaid then it is not a bridesmaids dress.

If I say "Oh I am a witch you know!" Just because I've put a pointy hat on...it doesn't mean I AM one.

A secret flower girl?!? Hahahaha!
I can't stop laughing at this!

We have a bridesmaid dress handed down to us. Having read this thread, I'm really glad I haven't allowed our DD to wear it for subsequent weddings

When we got married, we didn't have bridesmaids because I was so concerned about upsetting people who might have liked to be asked. With hindsight I really wish we'd said that any child who would like to be a bridesmaid was welcome to join in. It might have been fun!

That is such a great idea redwine!

No! Too bridesmaidy. Twould be bad form.

redwine - No its not! Went to a wedding with 7 very young bridesmaids. Although they looked cute, the walk down the aisle/service was severely disrupted by so many very young bridesmaids. Would be fine with slightly older ones.

at my wedding i wouldn't care.

if you like the dress as the B2B

At my sister's wedding, lots of the little ones came in bridesmaid/pageboy type outfits. Her friend's niece even had a mini version of the actual (grown-up) bridesmaids' dresses and one little girl came in a white frock and tiara. They all looked gorgeous and had great fun trying on the bridal party's veil/shoes/top hats etc during the reception. No-one batted an eyelid or thought anything other than how lovely they all looked and how happy they were.

Never knee that about red! I'm having my bridesmaids in red for my do next year!!

knee? knew of course.

Something to do with a baby crawling round the bed trying to fall off!