wibu to dress dd in a bridesmaid dress for my friends wedding when she is not,in fact, a bridesmaid?

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Dd is 17m.

One of my oldest friends is getting married next month. She's only having her sister as a bridesmaid, I think due to costs etc but not sure.

She isn't have any little bridesmaids if that makes a difference.

My mum wants to buy her a dress like this but I'm not sure if it'll seem a bit odd. Ill not be wearing a dress btw and her dad and brother who is 5 will be in kilts.

What do you reckon? Dd doesn't have much hair bless her so I'd like her to wear something girly so people don't think she's a boy

Nooooooo

Buy a pretty dress from monsoon or something in pale pink or lilac, NOT a bridesmaid dress, I was super laid back and this would have pissed even me off

Yule - I do really like that dress.

5inthebed - I love the first one but they don't seem to do 18-24m. I think the second is maybe too bright.I don't like the third bvut the fourth is a possibility.

I wouldn't however by annoyed or upset to see a little toddler in that style of dress at all. On a little one it'd just look like many other party dresses really anyway. But maybe avoid white/cream/ivory incase the bride is the type to get a bit uppity.

I wouldnt have been at all bothered if a friends daughter had turned up to my wedding in that dress, I think its very pretty and as long as you dont make her carry a pomander she wont look like a bridesmaid. I think people who get upset about such things are Bridezillas.

Hulababy I LOVE that first Ted Baker dress. Its gorgeous.

Also, I'd love a dress with a tartan element to it but can't find anything nice.

Ask her what her colour scheme is, and avoid anything in those shades, as well as white or ivory. Sorted.

Those Ted Baker ones are beaut though Hula. I'd wear them! Might be a tad tight though.

Tell your mum no thanks.

If DD needs a special dress for the wedding then TK Maxx have some gorgeous summer dresses in at the moment, they're under £20 and can be worn all spring/summer instead of the one your DM wants to waste spend £50 which will probably be worn once then left in a wardrobe.

Well I'm hoping she'll get 2 wears out of it because we have a wedding in JUne to go to.

My mum was very annoyed that I hadn't asked my youngest niece to be bridesmaid (very small wedding and I only wanted one grown-up bridesmaid). She bought her a bridesmaid dress to wear on the day and kept referring to her as a 'flower girl'. I thought it was slightly odd but it didn't spoil my day at all.

what is the difference between bridesmaid dress and party dress? the dress in the link looks like dresses you can get for around £30 around here that kids wear for all sorts of occasions, birthday parties, eid, diwali, xmas, my dd wore one for a golden wedding anniversary

Would this be too bridesmaidy still? I think so probably - in pink not ivory.

I didn't have any bridesmaids for our Wedding... and Niece was desperate to wear a 'bridesmaidy' dress (copyright Workshy) Niece wore full-on 'bridesmaidy' dress, so what...?

Hope you and family have a lovely time at friend's wedding OP.

Like þhis

YADBU - I'd not be that happy about that. It's clearly intended to be a bridesmaid dress. Stick to something a bit less, you know, weddingy.

Gosh, I had just been going to start a thread like this. Is this too bridesmaidy for a four year old? In a way, it just looks like a party dress, but...

www.ebay.co.uk/itm/P197-32-Wedding-Flower-Girls-Pageant-Party-Dress-7Years-/160745536880?pt=Girl_s_Clothing&hash=item256d2e3d70

tbh if it wasn't white it would be fine. I wore party dresses like that to bday parties when I was that age and a bit older. I think the whole what women can wear to weddings even toddlers, is a bit ott to be honest. A male todler in a little suit wouldn't be accused of dressing like a groom.

Hmm, it is too bridesmaidy, i think. Will probably go for this.

my.ebay.co.uk/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?MyEbay&gbh=1&CurrentPage=MyeBayWon&ssPageName=STRK:ME:LNLK:MEWNX

I think you'd be mad to put a toddler in a white/cream dress unless you had to. Something patterned to hide the stains ......

If it's one of your oldest friends why don't you just ask her? Email her a link to the dress, ask her if it would freak her out. Problem solved.

The Pansy print one Hulababy linked to is gorgeous, IMO

I would just ask your friend what she thinks, she might be happy for your dd to wear it.

If you want to be really cunning, email her with a less bridesmaidy one as well, say you just don't know, which does she prefer? And then she has a polite way of saying no to the bridesmaid one.