Gah! Bloody sodding school!

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Dd1 informs me this morning she is doing gardening tis morning and needs suitable footwear. "Where was your letter?" I wail. She assures me there was no letter and they were only told yesterday. A phone call to the school confirms there was indeed no letter.

Now with a normal child this would not be a problem. You could just go into their wardrobe and get their wellies out, yes? But dd1 is not a normal child. She refuses to wear wellies, trainers, boots other than suede, faux fur lined fuggs, tracksuits or joggers, hoodies and many other things. Basically if it's not skinny jeans and fuggs forget about it, she ain't wearing it.

I have had several last minute requests from the school recently asking for tracksuits and trainers, sensible footwear etc. each time I have phoned to explain that dd1 does not have these things to hand because she refuses to wear them so in future we need notice to go and buy them.

So after having to run to town and back with money I do not have to buy wellies she will not wear, so she can sulk at the side of the allotment about having to wear wellies, while her friends have fun WIBU to write to the school and request that we have at least 2 weeks notice if they need dd1 have anything other than the aforemention skinny jeans, stupidly expensive jumpers and fuggs? We will need 1 day to go and buy the things and 13 days to convince dd1 that you cannot actually die of embarrassment

Well AIBU? AM I?

Thank you muddy!

I think pictish is right. Children do need some boundaries to feel secure. I remember when I was about 10, a girl at school was teasing me and a friend because we had 'hairy legs'. I explained that my mum would not allow me to do hair removal yet, she thought I was too young. The girl's expression changed and she looked rather sad and said 'well in my house I'm allowed to do anything, nobody cares if I'm too young'

If you keep giving in to the clothes demands then your dd won't even have the chance to hide behind mum's rules as a way to get out of (such early!) peer pressure demands.

In my family I tend to be accused of permissive parenting by the way, but my kids know there are some times they have to conform to what is expected at school and in certain places and not make a fuss. Otherwise you'll always rub people the wrong way all the time.