to think its a bit rude

[3brokentoes]

for bride and groom to ask for money as a wedding present?

We have been invited to a wedding (My mums friends who we dont really know very well). The invitation states "We do not need anything for the house as we have all the pots and pans and everything else we will ever need. We would like monetary donations to have a fantastic honeymoon".

I have never heard of this before. Is this the norm these days? How much money would be acceptable?

It's infra dig to ask for anything. The couple are choosing to marry; they are inviting people to their wedding to celebrate. Why does that mean they can ask for stuff? If very close family and friends choose to give something - whether that is money or household items - that's something different. I've been married twice and would not have dreamed of asking my guests for gifts, still less directing them as to what they should buy. In fact, specifically asked people not to buy gifts. That didn't prevent extremely kind and generous relatives getting together to buy us dining room furniture, an apple tree, some excellent knives, a lovely photo frame...sorry, sounding like the Generation Game here, but yswim.

I just don't understand your issue! FYI i'm not married, I have been to 2 friends weddings in last year, we are in our mid-late 20's and I am happy to give money. All their friends were happy to as well. Must be a generational thing perhaps? If you don't like it don't go. They don't have to invite you for their "happy" day if you are going to have a cats bum mouth. If you were going to spend £20 on a gift, then what's the difference? A lot of young people do have houses and things for inside their houses, doesn't mean they don't deserve a "wish them well gift" mumofone...that's a bit sour grapes.

Rude and unnecessary .

My friend did not need anything at all when they got married .

They asked for money - and donated every single penny to charity .

Bully for them. They'll definitely go to heaven.

Ariel I need to clean my laptop screen because of you!

It's rude.

Very rude indeed.