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.....to be upset and pissed off with DH's reaction over sexy dress up

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 21:18

So.....pre kids we were at it like rabbits, lots of role play, lots of dress up.

3 kids in 5 years later and it's all about poo and sleep habits.

I thought...we're staying in new year's eve so wht not make the most of it. I put all the kids to bed and came down for dinner in a school girl's outfit, fishnets and heels.....and he just laughed! I didn't feel sexy - just felt like an idiot.

We had a row over dinner about something else but no doubt triggered by how I felt about his reaction.

AIBU?

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:26

electric weere you gagged?

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Chubfuddler · 31/12/2011 22:26

Dressing up as a child is a step too far. It's worse if they like it.

MrsMicawber · 31/12/2011 22:27

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SlinkingOutsideInSocks · 31/12/2011 22:28

Good on you for making the effort and it's a shame he laughed.

But... Grin Of all the outfits guaranteed to usher in Mr Floppy, I'd say that was the one, under the circumstances. I mean, if you haven't done this in ages due to kids and life getting in the way, etc, etc, then schoolgirl really, really wasn't the way forward, right?

Out of all the outfits guaranteed to get a laugh instead of a phwoar, that was the one. Who the hell wants to be reminded of school kids when you're knee-deep in the little sods day-in, day-out?!

So, in summary, YABU. Try summat else next time.

secretary · 31/12/2011 22:28

It isn't dressing up AS a child though is it? It's OP or whoever being themselves but in a different way.

RomanChristingle · 31/12/2011 22:28

So I take it it would be unthinkable for you to fantasise about schoolboys but men fantasising about schoolgirls is fine?

ElectricSoftParade · 31/12/2011 22:29

I could not tell you

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:29

club has anyone ever told you there is a HUGE difference between thought and behaviour?

It's what we do and say that counts - not what we feel and think.

MN - I'm pissed AND i LOVE YOU!

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LeBOF · 31/12/2011 22:30

Ok, leaving the actual outfit to one side (it obviously offends a lot of people for understandable reasons), I still see your point about being disappointed that you basically dressed up for sex and got rejected. That's hurtful. But I have to say that I agree with NotDavidTennant: you didn't set the mood first, so it might as well have been a Mr Blobby outfit. Too left-field, out of nowhere.

RomanChristingle · 31/12/2011 22:32

So it's ok and normal to get turned on thinking about schoolgirls so long as you don't act on those feelings? Does that go for minors too - and animals?(more rhetorical q's for you).
If you want to imagine whoever you are fucking is a school girl you are either a school boy or a pervert.

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:33

[disclaimer - I am a bit pissed

I also like being tied up...does that make me a victim and an embarrassment to feminism?

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ElectricSoftParade · 31/12/2011 22:33

Roman my reply was not to you.

But, but, but it isn't fantasising. The partner has the real, live woman with him. I do understand what you are saying and I would be horrified if I even thought DH wanted to have sex with an underage girl.

I just think, in the context of an adult relationship, you can explore different ideas. Some work, some don't.

ElectricSoftParade · 31/12/2011 22:35

I meant the being

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:36

There seems to be a real collective lack of imagination going on here about the virtues of role play and fantasy and correlating that with real life.

STOP PRESS......YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE A PAEDOPHILE TO ENJOY A SCHOOLGIRL FANTASY

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LeBOF · 31/12/2011 22:37

If you are a bit pissed, I'd caution you against banging on about your private sex fantasy stuff right now- it won't end well, and you'll just compound your feeling of embarrassment.

Step. Away.

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:38

But I'm not embarassed....

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RomanChristingle · 31/12/2011 22:39

Of course it's fantasising - he does have a woman with him but he wants her to dress like a schoolgirl - why d'you think that is?
I have no problem with fantasies/dressing up etc. Naughty nurses, French maids, firemen whatever but dressing as a schoolgirl is vile.

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:39

No DOG it's not

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secretary · 31/12/2011 22:41

The fantasy isn't of fucking A girl. It's fucking the wife. She just happens to be dressed in a particular way.

preciousmuch · 31/12/2011 22:41

OP not sure about your sentiments but I'm keen to know: did you keep your uniform on during your argument? Did u have bunches and drawn on freckles?
I know some women in their 40s who love to dress as 'sexy schoolgirls' on a night out. it seems gross to me...

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