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AIBU?

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.....to be upset and pissed off with DH's reaction over sexy dress up

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 21:18

So.....pre kids we were at it like rabbits, lots of role play, lots of dress up.

3 kids in 5 years later and it's all about poo and sleep habits.

I thought...we're staying in new year's eve so wht not make the most of it. I put all the kids to bed and came down for dinner in a school girl's outfit, fishnets and heels.....and he just laughed! I didn't feel sexy - just felt like an idiot.

We had a row over dinner about something else but no doubt triggered by how I felt about his reaction.

AIBU?

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DoMeDon · 31/12/2011 22:11

X-post with everyone - home - that was a low blow to D0G - at least she's getting some.

RomanChristingle · 31/12/2011 22:12

If it was just about the sexy outfit then any short skirt/sexy clothes would do. If a man likes his partner to dress up as a school girl then he gets off fantasising about schoolgirls. Whether you find that ok or not is up to you I suppose.

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:14

It was nothing to do with the theme ( aka schoolgirl) ...I think more the shock of seeing me dressed up and sexy agsin. He would probably have also laughed if I came down in lingerie or a french maid.

As for DH growing out of the schoolgirl fetish...I think not judging by his taste in porn! ( but I don't want to start another thread on porn...just too boring and I enjoy it too)

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ToothbrushThief · 31/12/2011 22:15

Is it possible that pre children it reminded him of being a teenager but post children he has a perspective of a father?? hence the different reaction?

Chubfuddler · 31/12/2011 22:15

No I don't think there is any complexity to the issue. Being sexually excited by representations of schoolgirls is decidely nasty.

LovesBloominChristmas · 31/12/2011 22:15

Homealone1 digs deeper!

ToothbrushThief · 31/12/2011 22:15

oh okay - x post

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ElectricSoftParade · 31/12/2011 22:18

Could it not just mean that the DH's wife has dressed up in whatever to give them, the adults having a relationship, a bit of a thrill.

best not mention, no, really best just not mention it

dirty vicar

ashamed and slinks away

OP, hope you are ok.

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:19

DOG I don't mean to offend anyone...it's just that the world is made up of different people and that's what makes it so beautiful

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Chubfuddler · 31/12/2011 22:19

Vicars are over 18 too.

RomanChristingle · 31/12/2011 22:19

Do you enjoy watching schoolboys op?

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:20

would like to know a lot more about dirty vicar

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:21

roman do you know the meaning of the word rhetorical?

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D0G · 31/12/2011 22:22

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Chubfuddler · 31/12/2011 22:24

Please put it in off the beaten track if you do.

ElectricSoftParade · 31/12/2011 22:24

I obviously have my thoughts on dressing up. Have done it and had a nice time Grin. Have done it and been knocked back [not so nice].

I really don't think that "dressing up" for your partner is a step too far. Unless you already have the feeling your partner is more into something than you are or is not "normal" or legal.

I just don't think every man or woman who does this is necessarily hiding certain "desires". Actually, I sincerely hope not.

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:25

I kissed a girl and I liked it

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MrsMicawber · 31/12/2011 22:25

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ElectricSoftParade · 31/12/2011 22:25

The dirty vicar stays silent. It's the best way Grin

MrsMicawber · 31/12/2011 22:26

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ElectricSoftParade · 31/12/2011 22:26

Mrs Saucy minx!

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