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.....to be upset and pissed off with DH's reaction over sexy dress up

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 21:18

So.....pre kids we were at it like rabbits, lots of role play, lots of dress up.

3 kids in 5 years later and it's all about poo and sleep habits.

I thought...we're staying in new year's eve so wht not make the most of it. I put all the kids to bed and came down for dinner in a school girl's outfit, fishnets and heels.....and he just laughed! I didn't feel sexy - just felt like an idiot.

We had a row over dinner about something else but no doubt triggered by how I felt about his reaction.

AIBU?

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MrsMicawber · 31/12/2011 22:42

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DoMeDon · 31/12/2011 22:43

home - YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE MENTIONING PAEDOS. I think most of us nay sayers just feel sick at the idea of a school girl fantasy. You, yourself, baulked at the idea of a school boy fantasy. You are chatting shite me dearie. Lay off the snow balls there's a good girl.

also YABU , that's YABU unless you aren't getting the message. Next time - talk to your DH about your plans for the eve - 'Oooh Mr homealone1 I fancy a damn good rogering tonight, shall I crack out the lube and grease up the butt plug or are you all set?'

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:43

precious Smile

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secretary · 31/12/2011 22:45

No I didn't

DoMeDon · 31/12/2011 22:46

secretery - what is the fantasy then? I think you'll find the reality is fucking the wife - in his head it would be the schoolgirl, non?

RomanChristingle · 31/12/2011 22:47

You don't have to be a paedophile to like schoolgirls as paedophiles are interested in pre-pubescent kids and they could possibly be 16 but you would have to be a perv. I take it your dh is a fair bit older than 16 as he has a 5 yo dd with you.
School girl and 'barely legal' porn is known to use very young looking 'actors' even though the more reputable sites only employ 18 yos. They know the demand of the people that use it and they want 18 yos that look 14 no 18 yos that look 25. Anyone who is into this kind of shit is disgusting imo.

ZXEightyMum · 31/12/2011 22:47

Jesus since when were schoolgirls / children allowed to wear heels and fishnets?

Schoolgirl-style is surely a broad term to describe slightly-slutty seduction-wear. I agree that it is misplaced, nasty and bad but it is.

If OP had come downstairs wearing, I dunno, an actual school logo-ed polo-top, P.E shorts and knee-length socks or mittens on a string and a bobble hat with everything embroidered with her initials for extra erotic frisson then yes - very wrong and her husband would be entitled to react with horror.

secretary · 31/12/2011 22:48

I don't know really...and I'm into it too [shameface], and I don't know really how to explain it. I will give it some thought [soberly] and ask the fella.

squeakytoy · 31/12/2011 22:49

A woman in a school uniform is still a WOMAN in a school uniform.. if she wanted to dress up as a fecking giraffe it doesnt mean the bloke would want to go and shag an actual giraffe!

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:49

I love the fact that this thread has turned into a debate about the rights and wrongs of school girl fantasies! If I had started off with nurse instead of school girl this thread would have taken a completely different twist but that's the beauty of MN

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ZXEightyMum · 31/12/2011 22:50

Giraffe Porn Grin

squeakytoy · 31/12/2011 22:51

OP, as soon as I saw your first post I could predict how this would go! Grin

DoMeDon · 31/12/2011 22:51

No - it's a sluuty version of school wear. We wore basically the slutty outfits on sale (white shirt, short pleated skirt, knee high socks, a tie, and a cardi) - bunches and freckles, models own. Some people sex it up with fish nets - it is a child uniform with fish nets - yuk

BandOMothers · 31/12/2011 22:52

Yak at schoolgirl outfit.

YABU why dress up as a child for sex??? Confused Angry

ZXEightyMum · 31/12/2011 22:52

I'm not sure about that OP. My cousin is very outwardly straight-laced and my DD once came running excitedly down the stairs at her house breathless with excitement that she had found a real nurses costume all made of shiny (wipe-clean) rubbery stuff.

I still have difficulty meeting her eye.

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BandOMothers · 31/12/2011 22:53

homealone why would you pander to some men's desire to fuck young girls??? Gross.

DoMeDon · 31/12/2011 22:53

i woul aslo say yuk if a man fucked his wife when dressed as a giraffe.

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:53

squeaky very well put

ZX your post made me LOL and also wake up my 3 yr old in my lap who has woken up to be with me!

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RomanChristingle · 31/12/2011 22:54

It is the fact that it is school uniform themed that is yuk.
I know I used to roll up my waist band and wear high heels as a teen. I daresay there were sweaty pervs that used to get off on it too.

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homealone1 · 31/12/2011 22:58

im sorry - what was the question

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DoMeDon · 31/12/2011 22:58

Run out of steam this one - there is no answer