Im not doing it again. so i don't know what i'm going to say or do next year exactly, but im not doing xmas again.
listen to this
about three weeks ago sil was kinda saying how her house was too small (they are moving in januaryto a bigger rented place which is what we were talking about) we always alternate xmas dinner - this year it's their year and she said this exactly ' i don't know how we are going to fit everyone in here' so i said
' well you can always have it at ours - lbut let me know soon as the oven is broken and we will get it fixed if you are'
LAST THURSDAY sil was at my house and said '.....well when we are eating here on xmas day....'
'erm...we are having xmas day at my house?' says i?
' well...yes you offeed'
'oh ok' you cook the meat and roasters and i'll do the rest then as i haven';t got a cooker
so that's the scene
its not an unusual scene this - oh no - this is one of many benign neglect, thoughtless, passive aggressive incidents that i am sure ..nay positive all lie in some sibling insecurity - which in itself is laughable as PIL overtly favour BIL in the THE most awful shows of favouritsim that would make you gag - you wouldn't believe it if it was on tv. you really couldn't make this shit up
so xmas day.
lets do the thoughtless gifts and non gifts.
i buy mil vouchers for her fave store
fil whiskey
bil - some man smellies - nowt much tbh
sil - perfume
bils dsd aged 18 some smellies
sil/bil son aged 10 - a rocket science thing - a real rocket that you can set off
they buy me the cheapest regifted smelly set that was clearly not new
dh a t-shirt
my three kids 22 and twins 18 - nothing - not even a box of £2.20 roses
mil and fil buys dh and me nothing
buys my ldest son - nothing
biys the twins - a box of roses each
my eldest son for some reason is too old to have £2.50 spent on him at xmas
in and of itsself in an isolated incident one could brush it off - but this is 22 years of thoughtlessness.
so thoughtless and inconsiderate are they towards my children that my children REFUSED to spend xmas day with them - they are all adults and two have left home now, so they made their choices and
...i then spent xmas dinner and night without my childrenbecuase my inlaws are so fucking mean and clearly favouritise bils children
so out of two couples two of my children got one box of chocolates each after they declared they were having xmas dinner at my house the last minute
..............it gets better
no ones reading this at this point but i have to write it down becuae i hate them
DD and her partner went to partners family for xmas dinner, i said that i would drive them.
sil had previously said that they were coming to mine about 2pm
dd then asked me to pick up her partners mum on the way - the trip was further than i had thought it was going to be and took ages.
i arrived home at 2.30 - through no fault of my own
i then walked in to the whole family sat down to xmas day dinner without me
they came early and even dh didn't say 'hold on lets wait'
by this time i am fuming, pissed off , hurt andd angry.
then
then
then
the men
oh you wont believe the mysoginy -
the men play the wii
sil hints and hints
her daughter says shes bored
the mil says nothing
i have a go - but try and talk to the girls to keep them company - be a good host and all that
after this going on for literally hours
i take sil in kitchen, we sit on kitchen side and pour ourselves a drink and put the radio on
as soon as bil cottons on - fuck me he's all 'ooh were going now' quell surprise
cos sil can't have a good time
fuck them
theres no question or response needed to this tome of sprew ridden vitriol