To tell you about my fcking inlaw bollockses

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Im not doing it again. so i don't know what i'm going to say or do next year exactly, but im not doing xmas again.

listen to this

about three weeks ago sil was kinda saying how her house was too small (they are moving in januaryto a bigger rented place which is what we were talking about) we always alternate xmas dinner - this year it's their year and she said this exactly ' i don't know how we are going to fit everyone in here' so i said
' well you can always have it at ours - lbut let me know soon as the oven is broken and we will get it fixed if you are'

LAST THURSDAY sil was at my house and said '.....well when we are eating here on xmas day....'
'erm...we are having xmas day at my house?' says i?
' well...yes you offeed'
'oh ok' you cook the meat and roasters and i'll do the rest then as i haven';t got a cooker

so that's the scene

its not an unusual scene this - oh no - this is one of many benign neglect, thoughtless, passive aggressive incidents that i am sure ..nay positive all lie in some sibling insecurity - which in itself is laughable as PIL overtly favour BIL in the THE most awful shows of favouritsim that would make you gag - you wouldn't believe it if it was on tv. you really couldn't make this shit up

so xmas day.
lets do the thoughtless gifts and non gifts.

i buy mil vouchers for her fave store
fil whiskey
bil - some man smellies - nowt much tbh
sil - perfume

bils dsd aged 18 some smellies
sil/bil son aged 10 - a rocket science thing - a real rocket that you can set off

they buy me the cheapest regifted smelly set that was clearly not new
dh a t-shirt

my three kids 22 and twins 18 - nothing - not even a box of £2.20 roses

mil and fil buys dh and me nothing
buys my ldest son - nothing
biys the twins - a box of roses each

my eldest son for some reason is too old to have £2.50 spent on him at xmas

in and of itsself in an isolated incident one could brush it off - but this is 22 years of thoughtlessness.

so thoughtless and inconsiderate are they towards my children that my children REFUSED to spend xmas day with them - they are all adults and two have left home now, so they made their choices and
...i then spent xmas dinner and night without my childrenbecuase my inlaws are so fucking mean and clearly favouritise bils children

so out of two couples two of my children got one box of chocolates each after they declared they were having xmas dinner at my house the last minute

..............it gets better

no ones reading this at this point but i have to write it down becuae i hate them

DD and her partner went to partners family for xmas dinner, i said that i would drive them.

sil had previously said that they were coming to mine about 2pm

dd then asked me to pick up her partners mum on the way - the trip was further than i had thought it was going to be and took ages.

i arrived home at 2.30 - through no fault of my own

i then walked in to the whole family sat down to xmas day dinner without me

they came early and even dh didn't say 'hold on lets wait'

by this time i am fuming, pissed off , hurt andd angry.

then
then
then
the men

oh you wont believe the mysoginy -
the men play the wii
sil hints and hints
her daughter says shes bored
the mil says nothing
i have a go - but try and talk to the girls to keep them company - be a good host and all that

after this going on for literally hours

i take sil in kitchen, we sit on kitchen side and pour ourselves a drink and put the radio on

as soon as bil cottons on - fuck me he's all 'ooh were going now' quell surprise
cos sil can't have a good time

fuck them

theres no question or response needed to this tome of sprew ridden vitriol

That is the absolute worst Christmas in-laws post I've seen. How you held it together I have no idea. Look on the bright side, SIL will have her bigger house next year so she'll have plenty of space to host PILs, especially as you won't be there.

And next year the inlaws can munch on chocs from Custardo and chat about the unusual flavour.

dh and i ended up having a huge row and i was sobbing all night

dh's excuse was that as well as his family doing the constant moaning that they do, that everything was cooked and that it would have spoiled or gone cold

and after all, i wasn't there to help him dish up and pull together the xmas dinner for 9 people becuase i was off in the car for over 90 mins

so we came to an impasse - i can see that it would hae been difficult for him to put xmas dinner on hold becuase of the moaning fuckers and the mash would have gone to mush etc

sidge - awesome - i wish i could do that

Oh bollox - a roast dinner is the easiest thing to keep 'on hold'~

Mind you - poor OP - you've taken it in good spirit really - this has been quict a chuckle of a thread - you can look back and just think 'worrah bunch of tossers' and dine out on the whole horrible experience for years

So they gave him the same moaning that they gave you? No wonder he checked out when you arrived. Still, he should have supported you better, he just past the same shit onto you.

Bottom line is that your inlaws were the problem. Get him onside now to not having them next year!

im going to have to just say im not doing xmas next year

dh will die

literally DIE.

we were supposed to be going on holiday with them next year too...

f-u-c-k-t-h-a-t-

Let him. He'll live.

What a bunch of useless thoughtless cunts. Next year, a holiday with your kids, doing exactly as you please.
And if DH dies, one less to think about.

Holiday?
with ILS?

Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh!

Are you Saint Custard?????

hehe Gay40

I think Custardo will die if she goes on holiday with them (or perhaps all inlaws will die instead?)

You need to stop spending time with these cunts and put your family first. I don't know why you would put them before your own children.

Your DH needs to man up

Aw.

Just have DP, DC & their partners next year. Say there's not enough room for them. Fuckers.

FIRST of all
thank you all - for reading that really long post

thank you for putting into perspective something that could just be in law moaning

it was bad and you hae confirmed it

DH said that xmas day is supposed to be about other people and although he accepted some of the things i said abotu his parents - the presents etc, that essentially it was ok to ignore me and leave me sat at the back of the room with sil and neice becuase xmas is about what other people want not what we want

anyway - im not arguing with dh anymore - i hate xmas i might just fuck off on my own with a book for a weekend

i need to find a mumsnetter willing to leave it all behind and sindulge in social smoking for two days whilst we pass out in a totally non classy way on a beach somewhere very hot

Jeeez custy thats real shit. Why put up with it, be strong.

Christmas is not about "other" people. It's about family and people you actually give a stuff about, enjoying your company.

You are too damn nice to them and they will shit all over you, because you have let them.

i#'m a huge lettuce who doesn't like confrontation, but i am going to have to sort this out over the coming months.

Do what I did to my old perverted twat of an ex-boss. Buy them a Cadbury Spira. Have a piss in toilet. Wipe Spira around the loo bowl then out put back on desk. Let twat/twats eat said Spira. However don't tell anyone otherwise you may be sacked disowned.

Custy you can tell them all to fuck off next year.

You organised the MN Christmas meet up- you can do anything!

Tell 'em, fuck 'em and have a great Christmas 2012.

If not, you're welcome at mine any time

Right, next year you

Spend it with your kids
Buy sil/bil/mil/fil fuck all
although do buy your nephew something
Dont bloody well spend any xmas's with them again

What runningwilde said, but cut the plug off the Wii anyway to be on the safe side.

Custy I'm willing to indulge on a beach somewhere with you. Anywhere, anytime.

aww xxxxxxx cheers blathers

thanks everyone, i won't really say anything, but i'll think really really mean things