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Original poster

to want to sleep with this married man?

507 replies

pumpkincarver · 22/12/2011 22:09

so. Met a wonderful guy, married, no kids. Am on the verge to start an affair, a fling (I'm not sure what yet) with him. I've never felt such strong attraction towards anyone else, hence my strong desire to go ahead.

I'm separated and single.
Am wondering how this rates on Mumsnet's grand moral scale.
Opinions appreciated, and no offence will be taken : )

OP posts:
MrsTerryPratchett · 22/12/2011 22:10

If he wants to, he can leave his wife. Job done.

GoingForGoalWeight · 22/12/2011 22:10
Biscuit
WorraLiberty · 22/12/2011 22:10

I don't know about MN's moral scale

But personally I wouldn't want to get involved with a man who has so little respect for his wife and marriage.

namechangerbat · 22/12/2011 22:11

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MyChildDoesntNeedSleepAtXmas · 22/12/2011 22:11
Biscuit
HoneyandHaycorns · 22/12/2011 22:11

Have you got your flame-proof suit ready?

HeidiKat · 22/12/2011 22:13

You would be unreasonable to have an affair with him, if he feels the same about you and is unhappy in his marriage he needs to leave his wife before starting a relationship with you. If he is not particularly unhappy in his marriage but is just a philandering prick who wants to have his cake and eat it he will not make you happy long term, steer well clear and find a single man.

splashymcsplash · 22/12/2011 22:13

Why are you asking? You know its wrong.

You also must know that he must be a pricked to do this to his wife, and would have no qualms doing the same to you.

fanniadams · 22/12/2011 22:13

He's not really all that wondeful... He's about to cheat on his wife! YA really BU.

slavetofilofax · 22/12/2011 22:13

Tell him you don't share men and you will shag him when you know you aren't getting someone elses leftovers.

PinkPeanuts · 22/12/2011 22:14

Screw the Mumsnet "Moral Scale", where the hell is yours??

coccyx · 22/12/2011 22:15

What a catch he must be!
put yourself in the wifes position.
Merry bloody Christmas

FabbyChic · 22/12/2011 22:15

So other than you he is shagging his wife, so when you suck his cock you are also sucking off any of her residue juices? Nice.

If you like sharing.

FirTreeMitTheKrog · 22/12/2011 22:15

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hiddenhome · 22/12/2011 22:16

Charge him to sleep with you, then you'll be doubly happy Grin

Cherriesarelovely · 22/12/2011 22:16

Wrong on so many levels.

Would you want someone to do that to you?

How could you possibly trust this man when you know he is decieving his wife?

Find someone single like yourself or wait until this man leaves his wife.

ChildofIsis · 22/12/2011 22:16

From the point of view of the cheated wife I would say that you betray all women when you sleep with a married man.
If you both want to be together have some self control and wait for him to leave his wife.

perceptionreality · 22/12/2011 22:16

Don't do it. He'll never really be yours. It will get messy. Find someone who's single ffs

NormanTebbit · 22/12/2011 22:16

He sounds lovely Hmm

Got the travelodge booked?

Sidge · 22/12/2011 22:17

Go for it.

If you find liars, cheats and adulterers attractive then why not?

But remember how you met him because that's how you'll lose him.

MyChildDoesntNeedSleepAtXmas · 22/12/2011 22:17

I'd like to know if many single men would go after a married woman

Why are so many women so desperate? Confused

MudAndGlitter · 22/12/2011 22:17

Grin fabby!

Biscuit OP you know you are in the wrong

scrappydoodah · 22/12/2011 22:18

You have no respect. Not even for yourself.

LaurieFairyCake · 22/12/2011 22:18

Go for it ! - she probably doesn't understand him like you do.

And in five years time you won't be on here complaining after having children that he cheated on you.

Oh no sirree, not you. Not in any way.

Hmm a pig just flew past........

hatesponge · 22/12/2011 22:18

What's the situation with his wife? Are they married in name only, or are they to all intents and purposes a happy very much together couple?

I think that makes a difference to the answer tbh, it's not always black & white.