Elfenor
"Larry the fact that women get joy and fulfilment from pregnancy and children as well (if it's wanted) in now way lessens the fact that they have enabled the men they're with, to enjoy the saem, so your point is irrelevant."
I find it amazing how I enable my wife to have sexual pleasure. And I enable her to eat delicious meals when we go out to good restaurants. The fact that I myself want to do both and enjoy them too is entirely irrelevant. I think she should be totally grateful for my selfless behaviour. (haha)
Parenthood is something two adults embark upon. For nine months, the woman has to make a sacrifice. That is biology. You are not going to change that, at least not soon, however many theoretical treatises on feminism you may read. And, realistically, we, as men ,should not be absurdly grateful for the fact that evolution/fate/god (take your pick) designed women one way and men another. And, to be honest, most women would have no desire to miss pregnancy and birth, anyway.
"And if you can't tell the difference between an imperfect man who can sometimes be a bit of an arse but is basically OK, and an abusive entitled git, that's not my fault."
There are some threads on here where men are clearly abusive entitled gits, merely from what an OP has written. However, they are few and far between. Most of the threads leave room for doubt. In my view, this is one of those. Without more information, we cannot tell whether the OP's husband is an abusive entitled git or a young, not very well educated and maybe not very sensitive, man who is struggling to adjust to the birth of his first child. Most men are not nice all the time, nor are most women. When someone posts, it is normally because they are going through a hard time. It is not necessarily a fair picture of her partner in full.
I know a lot of women who have got in their partner's face at times. They have also sulked at times. They are also wonderful mothers to their children and wives to their husbands, most of the time. If they were men and their partners posted here in times of frustration, they would be termed abusers and behaving in an entitled manner and assuming a privilege that they did not deserve.
Real people are not perfect. Goes for men and women. Get over yourself.
And, if you actually read carefully my advice to the OP (who is no longer here), it is a careful combination of strongly saying what is or is not acceptable, combined with finding a modus operandi for continuing their relationship, which seems to be what she would like to do.