To think that 3 kids, and planning a 4th, in a tiny 2 bedroomed house is a bit much?

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AIBU?

Someone I know had her third child 6 months ago; they live in a tiny house, literally a kitchen and living room downstairs, and 2 small bedrooms and a bathroom upstairs. The older 2 children share a bedroom and there is just enough room for a bunk bed and all their stuff, and the baby is still in with them, the cot is at the end of their bed and they cannot walk round past their bed past the cot, they have to climb over the bed to get out of the room.

Now they are planning baby #4 and have no intention of moving, as their rent is cheap but I honestly cannot see where they are going to fit baby #4. Their home is understandably cluttered on every surface with their stuff, got knows where another baby's stuff will go, let alone where it will sleep.

I'm not one for being adament every child should have its own room etc but I do think being crammed into a house like sardines isn't a good idea either. I think they are on a council/HA housing list but have been told they are very low priority as they have a roof over their heads.

peoplesprincess children can be interesting, bright, funny etc etc but still behave well and have discipline.
My DS would fall in to the 'interesting' category, very popular kid, never a dull moment when he's around and at times you could describe him as a little tyke but when it comes to things like bedtime, eating and manners he is a little angel!
I'd suggest a bribary reward system, that really worked for DS.

Bless you both for your advice, but trust me- it'd* take more than a few stickers or bed-swapping to get the Legend That Is Persephone to behave.

*I just need to find what the "would" is yet.

My three share. There are pros and cons.

Pros - they are very close and play together all the time. No one shuts them selves away in our flat. The room is huge and they have a walk in wardrobe so there is space to play.

Cons - DD1 is 7 and is starting to want some quiet time to herself. She has a very easygoing nature but gets very upset if the few items she considers hers, are messed with. The mess- the older they get the more stuff they accumulate and I am an expert on IKea storage solutions. It's hard to have kids round to play. Young people seem to get sniffy about it ( the older generation seem to think it's normal)

So on balance I hope we can move next year so DD1 can have get own little room.

A1980- you are confusing the level of overcrowding which makes you legally homeless with the level which will get you more points on a waiting list or determine what size of house you will be allocated. DCs over 16 will be allocated 1 bedroom each and over 10s of different genders won't be allocated a house where they would have to share. Under 2s don't count at all because they are expected to share with parents.
But there is no law saying you have to be under these limits.

I meant in this posts context though. It doesn't sound as if the OP's friend has children over 16. Ergo a 4th baby wont make her a housing priority as under 2's dont count. They'll have two babies under 2 that wont count.