To think some women don't like other women because they are pretty?

[RainbowSheep]

I really struggled with this at school, girls didn't like me much and I could never work out why, looking back it is because I was very pretty (I'm not syaing I'm better than anyone else or the most beautiful woman in the world btw). I did have some very good girlfriends but was never accepted into groups of girls. I found this a lot throughout my life and it used to really get me down.

I have noticed it reared it's head at the school gates again, it has taken me a good few years to be accepted by the other mums, being shy doesn't help either.

AIBU to think this is something that often women (obvioulsy not all women!) don't like other women who they think are pretty??

Are you sure they don't like you because you are pretty?
Could it be your vanity or arrogance that puts them off?

YANBU i wouldnt say im a knockout but i have big boobs and some women have been outwardly nasty to me if i wear something low cut or clingy.

Yanbu - women can be very jealous.

Yes. There are. I think that there are people who are jealous of people that they see as having something they don't have. Sometimes that can be looks, sometimes that can be money, or a nice figure, or a posh car, or a brilliant relationship, or whatever.

It's natural to be envious of people who have things you don't have, or to admire someone and wish you were like them, or had what they had. The trouble comes when you don't use that to inspire you to do your best to make your own life what you want it to be, but instead choose to hate the person who has what you don't have. That's when you get the nastiness.

I don't dislike pretty women.
I tend to like women less if they know/think they are pretty. They tend to be vain and arrogant too!

YANBU I think you have a point, I've enountered similar in the past although i wouldnt say i was 'very pretty'
However, I'd don a flameproof suit now if I were you

YANBU. This does happen. I certainly don't dislike very pretty women but I'm certainly wary of them.
Why? I honestly couldn't tell you. My own insecurities I think.

I'm overweight and ugly and people still dont speak to me at the school gate so thats your theory gone out the window.........ha ha, joking (but i am overweight)

I think its quite low down on the long list of why women dislike other women, tbh.

I should say people can be very jealous!

Women are often jealous of a natural looker, yes.

I would imagine your shyness has slightly more to do with how approachable you are than the length of your eyelashes.

The other mum's at school don't talk to me much either. It might be because I'm pretty, or it might be because I'm a rude anti-social cunt who glares at people and occasionally smells of sick.

I don't really think so. If you flirt with other women's partners, I can see that gets people's hackles up, but I think most studies have found that good-looking people are generally popular and that other folk seek their company and often rate them as funnier and more intelligent than they are, they do better in job interviews, get more sympathy etc etc. I don't think it's really feasible to argue that it's any sort of disadvantage in life.

I'm sure there are some women who don't like other women because they feel lesser in some way or another. That's not just looks - it could be wit, intelligence, clothes.

Personally, I'm attracted to people who are attractive - and that includes looks, warmth, sense of humour and lots of indefinable attributes

I think the fact that you are shy is probably more of an issue than being too pretty. Confident friendly people make friends no matter how they look.

Pretty sure studies have shown that attractive looking kids are more popular. Can't believe people are paid to study such things but there you go.

YANBU. I've always gotten on better with men than women, and most women seem to think this makes me a whore. No, it just makes me intolerant to some of the whiney, pathetic bitching that goes on around the female community.

Sisterhood? Pah.

Esta3GG - I'm not vain or arrogant

Jenny yes the big boobs thing, I've been made to feel very uncomfortable by other women's stares if I dare to wear anything that doesn't hide the bad boys away.

I absolutely loathe anyone pretty. But that's 'cos I'm a minger.

Once again, I post and Hecate has already said it better

darn you Hecate

Maybe some women dislike others because of prettiness, or some other random physical feature. But if people are consistently deciding to dislike you, I very much doubt it's because of something like that.

Could you ask a friend her honest opinion on th first impression you make?

Yabu

I'm fucking gorgeous and everybody loves me

This will sound awful, but I'm more drawn to pretty women.

What Hecate said.

I tend to bond quicker with the lively chatty people, whether they are pretty or not...

don't hate me, jamie

I agree with LeBof - good lookers definitely have the advantage....and it's an advantage that they haven't really earned as such. It's just sheer luck.

But yeah lookers are treated better on a very surface level, they get more jobs, their pick of men/women, are more popular etc etc