to think this is unfair by the nursery and to feel hard done by?

[choceyes]

Well I know I probably am being unreasonable so this is more of moan that anythign I guess.

My work nursery that both my DCs go to has about 3/4 staff training days a year. Last year whilst I was on maternitly leave with DD, I sent DS 2 days a week thur and Fri. The inset days always fell on a friday, so I lost about 3 (i think)of them (also the extra bank holiday on kate and wills wedding day fell on a friday too). I thought well fair enough, they have to do the inset days sometimes and friday is their quitest day, so it will inconvinience the least amount of parents.
I am back at work now and DCs go Mon-Wed, as I work on those days.
I was asking about christmas closure and they told me that they have an inset day on Tuesday Jan 3!

Luckily my DH is a teacher and doesn't have to go back till the 5th so can look atfter them both. BUT, why should he have to? Yet again I'm paying good money for TWO DCs to lose out on a nursery day, and a resting day for DH that he really really needs. He has a very stressful job as a teacher, comes home and does household chores till about 9 and never a break in the weekend as we have 2 small DCs and he deserves the 2 days of rest he thought he was going to have.

We don't have any other type of childcare as both sets of parents live miles away so we are either at work or with the children who are 3yrs and 14 months, and very hard work.

As I said I know nurseyr is not doing this to spite me and theres nothing I can do about it, but nevertheless AIBU to feel a bit put out by this?

"wannabe - well yes , being just on milkfeeds at 18 months (extreme case of course) is not making the baby unhappy is it? provided it's what the baby wants??" well, being on chocolate for all his meals wouldn't make my child unhappy, doesn't mean it's in his best interests though does it?

Nothing wrong with breastfeeding a child into toddlerhood - nothing at all. But as part of a balanced diet, which clearly your child is not getting.

And yes, crying for a couple of nights will make your baby a bit unhappy. Not as unhappy though as she will be when she has serious food issues growing up.

Far too many contradictions to know what to believe. In terms of the DH he has gone from someone who does not get a break -oh but he goes out in the evenings(thought he was doing housework until 9pm every night -wtf does he do???), gets weekends to himself every month, gets weekends away, is not trusted to look after the children on his own -but does in the Summer ,has not got time to brush his teeth in the morning -really? Who knows what the truth is? No time to do DIY (at the weekend when you look after the kids maybe?).
Thinks he is too young to be a Dad (he's not) and needs an extra days rest after spending Christmas at home. FFS -I would love to spend more time with my kids but work long hours and travel a lot and only get the usual annual holiday entitlement. Running back from a night out because one had threw up - if you really feel he needs his downtime away from the children why call him? Just get on with it.
If you want to go out -get a babysitter (BIL myseriously pitches up at University mid-thread and mid term -and he could look after 2 for 3 hours -he really could!)
Sleep - try to be a bit more disciplined. Most issues can be cracked in a few days (I am sure some cannot be so accept this disclaimer). Kids like sleep -maybe your DS would not be 'all over his sister' if he got a bit more.
Feeding -not an expert so no comment apart from a healthy ,active child of 18 months needs a balanced diet.
Adopt some common sense.
And if the Nursery charges -suck it up and get on with it. It was in the contract you signed when you agreed to let them care for your children.
And stop moaning -your kids owe you nothing, you had them ,you look after them. If you really wanted a break you know you could arrange it.
Maybe go on a parenting course so you can figure out where it is all going to pot.

Why is it "only natural" for her to have more milk on the days she is with you?

"duckdogers - i have explanined the discrepancy before if you read the whole thread."

I have the whole thread thanks choceyes and it still makes no sense - you have not explained the "discrepancy".

I have come to this thread very late. I have read the thread but apologies if this has already been mentioned. Did you say that your ds was now 3? If so, will he not be getting his 15 hours of funded nursery time in the New Year? Maybe you could use the money saved to get a cleaner in once a week to help with the housework or a handyman to sort out your kitchen bit by bit? Or to put your ds or both children in for some extra hours?
I think that you need to put your foot down with your dh about lie ins at the weekend. A bit of cbeebies on a saturday or Sunday morning will not hurt anyone - and when it's your turn to get up with the children you can relax or mumsnet do some tidying up while they watch tv.

No, the discrepancy isn't explained...the op is too busy telling us how fan-fucking-tastic she, her DH and her lovely circle of friends are. I can't help wondering if her garden is so rosy, why the thought of her DH having to look after her DC for 1 extra day is causing her to have such a meltdown

Damn. Cross posted badly here. I'm off back to arts and crafts.