I don't think single parents should date

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And I am one myself.

I had DS1 at 20 - I did date and subsequently married DS2's Dad and gained a wonderful DSD who is still with me.

I split up with DS2's Dad and kept all 3 kids.

Since then I have worked, looked after the kids, messed about with the dog, tried to keep the house and garden OK-ish.

I don't think the kids would appreciate a new face around. I do not know how I could incorporate it into our lives.

I worry about kids who have "Mum's boyfriend" around the house - without a CRB check, who is in your house with your kids?

This thread is 4 yrs old!!
Also completely unreasonable. I wouldn't have had 20 yrs with wonderful DH 2 , my lovely sons, and my DS would have missed out of having a step father.

There was nothing 'dangerous' about it. Why on earth would I introduce them to an unsafe man? Why is a CRB check better than my judgement? I trust my judgement far more than any check.

People should take no notice of the doom makers. Your children will be much happier as adults if they know you have your own life.

ZOMBIE ALERT for those who haven't noticed.

saying that statistically it is the most dangerous thing you can do does not equate to 'every woman who brings an unrelated male into their home is putting their child in direct danger.'

In general, I feel step-parenting is seen as a positive and IMO it rarely is.

everyone deserves to be happy so yes they should date but i dont agree with women who introduce their children to their new partner straight away i think atleast a year or so then introduce.
Like what the singer ciara is doing is so wrong

oh its an old thread lol

hi op, your opinion is backed up by studies done in this area -didn't keep notes on what i read and so check this for yourself. Anyway, i decided the same as you for the same reasons. I'm sure we're not the only ones! .

I'm so sad :( I was unable to message the OP to ask if she is still single!

My ExH left me a single parent to our 8 year old daughter.

I was all of 36 years old. Certainly not old enough to put on a nun's habit and never have sex again.

I was also very broody, I wanted more DC, but Ex had not.

I met DP and fell pregnant very quickly with DD2, then DS. He is still here nearly 11 years later. I do not think DD1 was traumatised by my having had a BF.

Get. To. Fuck. My partner committed suicide when our ds was seven months old and left me as a young single mother. I have worked damn hard to do the best by my son who is a wonderful child. I have dated men, it has never got to the stage where I would let them meet ds, as I need to be sure something is long term. Stupud woman, thinking you can talk for all of us. I know what is best for me and my child.

Shit, zombie thread. I'm now embarrassed...