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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be fed up of always feeling poor even though my husband earns above the national average?

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alwayspoor · 30/10/2011 22:45

I am a SAHM, live in east anglia. HOuse prices are massive, we have a house up north that we can't sell (need to be near London for DHs job) and a mortgage. We've got 3 dc's. Struggling to by decent food on top of all the bills.

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Original poster
alwayspoor · 30/10/2011 22:46

And rent here plus all basic bills on this and unsold house.

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loopylou6 · 30/10/2011 22:47

Oh poor you Hmm

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alwayspoor · 30/10/2011 22:48

V loopy

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AbbyAbsinthe · 30/10/2011 22:48

When you say decent food, do you mean food from Marks & Spencer or Waitrose? Or enough food?

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alwayspoor · 30/10/2011 22:49

Right enough food but not great quality ie 2 chicken breasts between 5 of us.

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madonnawhore · 30/10/2011 22:49
loopylou6 · 30/10/2011 22:50

Grin abbey. I suspect she means caving snurk.

IneedAbetterNickname · 30/10/2011 22:51

are you renting out other house?

CheeseyZitLover · 30/10/2011 22:51

Why the sarcasm ? People on ok wages can be skint too.

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alwayspoor · 30/10/2011 22:51

Ok so we have a house we can't sell, massive rent, all the bills on rented house puls basic bills on rented house. Are you a bit dim madonna?

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loopylou6 · 30/10/2011 22:52

caviar (sp?) I'm clearly too poor to know the correct spelling.

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alwayspoor · 30/10/2011 22:52

No not renting out the house yet hoping to sell it.

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squeakyfreakytoy · 30/10/2011 22:53

Its a crap market for selling, so renting would surely be a much more sensible option for the next year or so.

IneedAbetterNickname · 30/10/2011 22:53

Could you not rent it out until it sells?

madonnawhore · 30/10/2011 22:54

I'm on a very good wage yet am somehow skint all the time too. Everyone's in the same boat.

I think it was the "oh we're so poor, but have two houses and my husband earns loads" that's got people's backs up.

OP, how old are the DCs? If you're in real dire straits, could you work?

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alwayspoor · 30/10/2011 22:54

Yes we are going to try and rent it soon, just holding on for a buyer.

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worraliberty · 30/10/2011 22:54

I don't get the sarcasm either?

I'm a SAHM and I live in a London Borough

My DH earns above the Nat average wage and if it wasn't for the fact I was lucky enough to get a mortgage when I was 25yrs old (almost 17yrs ago) there's no way we could afford for me to be a SAHM.

Mortgages and rents are ridiculous nowadays.

CheeseyZitLover · 30/10/2011 22:55

Yes i'd consider renting for a while to ease the pressure for a bit, the market's shite at the mo

loopylou6 · 30/10/2011 22:55

Would like a 'like' button for madonnas post

madonnawhore · 30/10/2011 22:55

No, not dim at all. You're the one who started the thread. If you don't like the responses you've had, maybe you should have worded your post better.

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alwayspoor · 30/10/2011 22:56

madonna I didn't say DH was on a great wage. Hmm My oldest is 9, youngest 2. If I work my DH will subsidise the childcare so as a family pot we wom't be any better off. ITs great having two houses, one you can't use Hmm

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cantspel · 30/10/2011 22:57

It is not so easy to just rent out a house with a mortgage on it. For a start your mortgage company need to give permission and will often put up the interest rate you will be paying. You then need all the safety certificates. This will all cost before you have even got a sniff of any rent money.

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alwayspoor · 30/10/2011 22:57

Maybe you shouldn't be so quick to judge, Yes yada yada its AIBU.

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alwayspoor · 30/10/2011 22:57

^

Aimed at Madge

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MrsPeterDoherty · 30/10/2011 22:59

Go back up north then