to feel snubbed by lack of invitation?

[IveGotTightsOlderThanYouLove]

It's a good friend's hen do in a couple of weeks' time. It'll cost me around £200 to attend (a LOT of money for me!).

Out of the twelve or so people invited to the hen, two of us aren't invited to the wedding reception. On the email list to organise the hen, they're all discussing what they're wearing for the wedding (I think only I and the other woman know that we're not invited).

Over the past year or so I've helped my friend and her fiancee out a few times when they've been stuck and seem to be a bit of a first-port-of-call for them. We've known each other for about five years.

For the reception, they've hired a hall and a DJ, so numbers aren't overly-restricted.

So am I being over-sensitive, or is this a snub?

[MarthasHarbour]

[hshock] at corrie

so is the cost £160? and how charming of your friend to invite you because they need to cover costs [hhmm]

oooo but go on - PM the OP then-tell all of us what is going on

[hwink]

[kipperandtiger]

Go on, corriefan and Tights - do PM each other to see if it's the same outing!! (But if it is you really wonder about HO and Bridezilla asking someone's friend to a hen outing now to cover costs!!) Only if you two are happy to be a little daring and walk on the wild side.........

[corriefan]

Well it's only £140 plus train so prob not same, just a coincidence! The main event has an a? historical theme, did yours tights?

[ZonkedOut]

It might be £140 because the other person who dropped out paid in full, subsidizing everyone else!

Probably just a coincidence, but fun to think otherwise.

[MrsDreadfullyMorbidMausoleum]

Corriefan - I bet that last minute invite left you feeling all warm and fuzzy too didn't it?

Bloody hell, the nerve of people! FWIW I had a very dull nice drink in a few pubs. I even bought the drinks! [soft centred emoticon]

[corriefan]

Ha ha! I don't mind, I don't know the bride that well, I'm friends with a friend of hers and I wouldn't have expected an invitation to anything, it was an off chance invitation and I declined, it's too much at the mo! I have to say though from what I do know of bride I can't see her being as egotistic as the OP's ex friend, though an engagement ring does seem to send some women deranged!

[TheOriginalFAB]

Huge coincidence or corrie is having a giggle.

[corriefan]

No I'm not just having a giggle, I have been invited on a hen weekend! Not saying it is the same one, I'm sure there are plenty being organised up and down the country!

[Booandpops]

this thread is awesome!!
Im a wedding photographer and cant belive the cheek of the bride!!!
my basic package is £800, never spent that on a wedding pressie in my life on anyone, not even my brother.

Luckly all my friends are married and Ive done them a really cheap deal and given them a canvas as a wedding gift or similar. They have been really grateful and none expected a freebie of £800 or more!!!

Disclaimer-these are friends but not best friends-I'd do those weddings for free.

Your well rid OP-well done![hsmile]

[kipperandtiger]

I agree with Booandpops - logic says that if a woman contemplate spending £200 on a hen do (or making her friends spend that on her), she has no right to consider being a cheapskate and asking ANY photographer to do an entire wedding for free. Discount maybe, free is just taking the pi**. It's a lot of money, and frankly, if they were your friends, you'd want to give them legitimate business and pay them, not rob them.

[kipperandtiger]

*contemplates

[Aloha31]

Any updates op?!

[Eggrules]

I'd love to hear what else happened too