AIBU to be thoroughly pissed off by DH's 'stupidity'?

[luciadilammermoor]

Set the scene: this is the man who loses wallets, keys, passports (3 to date), forgets parts of his suits in hotels, leaves washbags behind when going on holiday etc etc etc. I am fed up of reminding him so have stopped = even more disasters.

He's taken the DC to their Saturday club this morning: after an hour, he phones me this morning to ask me for the car breakdown contact details because he's put unleaded petrol in our diesel car, which now won't start.

While none of this affects me (yet...I may have to go and pick them all up, but they could get the train home...), AIBU to react with a huge sigh and to be utterly fucked off with him that he can't seem to remember a quarter of the things I have to in daily life?

This could be bloody expensive to fix and his reaction is just 'I'll deal with it, stop getting cross, don't criticise me' and to hang up on me. I do lose respect for him when he does this.

Go on, don't hold back, AIBU on this?

That is a really really good idea

this would drive me crazy. he sounds careless and like he couldn't be bothered. i would have lamped him with the frozen leg of lamb by now.

lucia - your dh sounds dyspraxic.
ive linked to sites which could help over the last few pages. good luck.

Thanks Vicar have been out so have just looked at it now. I really can't see anything which describes him other than the traits I'm moaning about on this thread.

He's very organised & together for stuff he wants to do, I do think he struggles managing the DC though, he can be fairly ineffectual with them.

I don't think this is dyspraxia or that there is a physiological/pyschological reason, I think he's being a bad-tempered and fairly cack-handed arse about these things AND not concentrating on stuff. Suspect some of it is about not having a filter in his brain which tunes out the tuneless humming, repeated old jokes and constant toddler shouting of 'car' and 'vroom' from the back seat.

The carelessness is also as he doesn't look at a problem in the home and work back from the desired solution, he just figuratively 'hits it with a hammer' and expects it to work. Easily pissed off too, expects everything at the weekend to be about relaxing/minimal hassle as he's been at work all week: he's started moaning about taking the dds to birthday parties, saying that it ruins the weekend etc. I don't say yes to all iinvites but FGS, they're 7 & 4, this is prime birthday party time, yes, it's boring but they love it: he can hardly book parties with them when they're 14.

It is a little like having a 4th dc. Will stop now on this thread. Too much whinging on my part. Thanks to everyone.

Not whinging but venting.
I think many can sympathise with this sort of stuff. It's doing something half-heartedly/badly/resentfully to make the point that actually, you think Someone Else should be doing it...

hey - whinge away! i think sometimes it s all i do on MN. i like a good whinge, me.

"It's doing something half-heartedly/badly/resentfully to make the point that actually, you think Someone Else should be doing it..."
Spot on. Hence the anger it generates.