... to think this couple are extracting the urine?

[PreviouslyonLost]

I work mainly part-time, DH works off-shore. Two DC, no family nearby to help out but we manage. Our eldest DC is due to start Primary School and will only be in until noon for several weeks. To accommodate this I have used the majority of my annual leave or ensured that DH is home. Another couple who live locally and whose eldest DC will be starting school at the same time are now dropping heavy hints that we should help them out by collecting and looking after their child (This would be from noon until @5pm/or 3.30pm until @5pm when going in for full-days).

There has been no direct request (yet) but lots of 'it'll all work itself out' and 'we're all in the same boat' type comments . The DW of the couple has also commented to me that they could 'drop off their DC in the mornings' at another neighbour's house - a neighbour that otherwise they do not associate with or even speak to but who is a friend of mine.

The other couple are both Primary School teachers and have been off for the Summer Holidays (47 days) ...... so .... AIBU to think that the week before school term resumes in NOT the time to start thinking about childcare, far less make assumptions that other people should take up the slack?

OMFG - I can't believe she would belittle the very people she's planning on asking to look after her DC. What the actual fuck???

Yes, POL, what did you say when she made those comments????

[speechless]

I love this thread. PoL, you're nuts an a lovely way

Salmotrutta My expression said it all...it really did...to 'simple' and 'religion' comments. They came out of left-field, My Balls do not extend to multi-tasking yet and I was focussing on being brave over childcare issue. ODW knows I would find these comments beyond the pale. Clearly, desperate times call for desperate measures...she was out of her depth for once and resorted to using that shite as an excuse. No emoticon available to show my disgust.

I think "lunch break" is a euphemism for "afternoon off"
Although I'm surprised her school will let her!

Im loving this thread!!
What do you do for childcare POL if your OH is away for work and you have to work?
You say in you OP that you have no relatives near but manage?

@ Warthog: I think BallsofSteel had her threads deleted (or were in Chat & died a natural death). Anyway, they were about inlaws that expected heaven & earth moved for them and blamed BoS when it didn't.

The electric car thing I can't find link, but may be in MN classics... it was a lady who drove an electric car & school's alpha mum wanted it banned from going anywhere near the school (all on public roads), drummed up a petition against it and all (unsuccessful).

aha now i remember! something about ballsofsteel il's wanting her to fetch from the airport at silly hours or some such?

also remember the electric car but didn't read how it ended.

the world is peppered with morons.

I've been lurking but just remember my mum used to tell me about this one friend I had when I was 5, who would appear on our doorstep at 9am and cheerfully announce "My mum says I can stay till 5!". I can't believe I've never actually asked her what she did about it! Probably sent the kid home, but what if no one had been there? Anyway, awesome thread, awesome new balls POL, will look forward to the dropping in thread :)

mumnotmachine 'I think "lunch break" is a euphemism for "afternoon off"
Although I'm surprised her school will let her!' ODW really does have to be back at work, I'm still reeling that she can get this time at all. NO mention of that when the heavy hints of 'oh, woe is me' were being bandied around.

StealthPolarBear I work basic hours when DH away, and CRAM the 'owed' and extra ones in when he is here...hence my covering @600miles an 'nth amount of additional hours in last week while he's home. It sucks when you actually like being with your DP and DCs...I do.

Well done POL.

she really does sound like an idiot. She could have helped you enormously in her long summer holidays enabling you to spend more time with your DP and you could have organised a recipricol arrangement. However, she is such a user that it seems the phrase "I'll scratch your back if you scratch mine" would mean nothing to her.

Hi POL,

My bastard internet has died. Am at my mums now, especially so I could log on and find out how you are getting on. I had engineer out today and still the problem isn't fixed, so am waiting on phone call tomorrow and hopefully BT will have identified the problem. Don't think I've forgotten about you.

Well done on everything you have said and done regarding ODW.Amazing set of balls you've got there! I can't believe that she now thinks her SAHM neighbours will be willing to do her child care for free.

POL ! Have more fun with her. Next time she says she is thinking of asking x or y neighbour (who doesn't work) you should reply 'oh really, how much are they charging you?'

Then just leave it hanging in the air and stare at her brazenly with a big smile on your face!!!

POL, you were magnificent Don't let your guard down yet, but at least you can now carry on down the same road.

Bet ODW is properly confused

As an aside, do some working people assume that SAHM Mums are just sat twiddling their thumbs all day? Why would people presume that they're willing and/or able to look after other children. FFS, makes me really cross.

We love you too! You need your own series! Such a great lesson in standing up for yourself and not letting the piss takers win!

I'm dreading this happening to us in years to come since DH is SAHD and we live a stone's throw from the school DS is most likely to go to.

Fortunately I already have Advanced Certificate in West African Bluntness, and DH is currently doing very well on the training course...

totally agree MrsKwazii, it is a huge assumption! So annoying!

I think you need to do her, her children and everyone else a favour and tell her that she needs to sort her childcare out and stop abandoning her child/ren with anyone she can. It's totally unacceptable. I'm a single mother and I have never done this. Her poor children, they must feel like a burdon.

Well done for standing up to her, people like this are hard work.

I have a sneaking suspicion that even if the ODW is a MNer, she wouldn't recognise herself from this thread. I wonder how she sees her behaviour? Would love to see a thread from her perspective

OP, you are a feckin' inspiration. Well done for standing up to her.

Oh well done you POL, although I fear in 8 weeks time she will back rattling your doorhandle in the morning

Have so enjoyed catching up on this weeks antics

Well done OP!

I'm back POL! and once again I am at this woman's nasty ramblings. I have to say this... She is a fucking, fucking, pissing nasty cow and I can't believe anyone wants to associate with her! What fucking planet is she on?!

I would love it if you said this to her...

'im really curious as to why you haven't arranged appropriate childcare with a CM for your DC like anyone else in your situation would have done? Why do you feel it is ok to expect other people to do this for you? I find your sense of entitlement quite awful actually and you would do well to change your attitude.'

Ahhh... Imagine her face if you said that...

Well done on everything so far - ms big balls 'ere is proud of ya! X

"you would do well to change your attitude"!!!!

LOVE this!