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Had a date today AIBU?

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DrPolidori · 07/08/2011 20:57

had a date, lovely day, really liked him. Really fancied him...had some quite steamy snogs...

Anyway. Got home, found I had a message from an old friend on the same site found date in saying, hey good to see you, fancy a drink some time?

To which I said yeah! Would be nice to catch up and have a chuckle about bumping into each other on a dating site.

Have just talked to today's date who has reacted really weirdly, saying, you are going on a date with another man.....Can't believe it etc ...after our lovely afternoon etc. In which we had agreed to just date each other for a bit.

AIBU to think this is a complete overreaction and rings massive alarm bells?

Or does he have a point?

Very interested in your views.

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izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 08/08/2011 00:39

There's a couple of underpasses along Park Lane and enough shrubbery to satisfy a lover of horticulture - next time take a sleeping bag.

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DrPolidori · 08/08/2011 00:40

I will give Old Man One More Chance to prove he aint a total dick.

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DrPolidori · 08/08/2011 00:41

I promise you, the undergrowth and attendant shrubbery cover was minutely inspected....the lycra event meant the place was heaving. We were having a snog to realise that an entire stretch of stationary traffic were virtually slow clapping our performance....

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izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 08/08/2011 00:43

Did he have a charming accent? Did he sound menacing like a character out of The Godfather?

AnyFucker · 08/08/2011 00:45

....or is he a "Don' push me" kinda guy ?

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DrPolidori · 08/08/2011 00:46

he has a lovely accent. Been in the Uk 26 years, but still a soft accent.

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izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 08/08/2011 00:46

Hang about, which Old Man? Are you referring to your old mucker or today's ex-fucker?

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DrPolidori · 08/08/2011 00:49

all confused. I shall see if todays fool grovels enough to permit another date. We shall have to a frank discussion about Trust and Honesty and not Tarring All Women with the same brush. I hold out little hope.

Oldpal, who I am still sure has no intentions of wearing getting into my knickers I shall meet up with anyway, because no one dictates what I do or not.

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Whatmeworry · 08/08/2011 00:50

D'you know, this could be the script of some bedroom farce that everyone knows requires impossibly obtuse characters for the plot to work, but here it is in real life!

Next up - Act 2 - The Date with the man who wants to get into her knickers - literally : o

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 08/08/2011 00:52

I feel for you - I love the pulsating beat of a little Latino now and again.

dadof4 · 08/08/2011 00:53

I think his reaction is quite revealing. You openly explained you were going to see an old friend for a chuckle and he translates this into 'a date' and has a go at you over it having only ever met you once. Best avoided in my view.

His controlling attitude revealed so early is only likely to get worse in the future in my personal opinion, from what you say. On the other hand sometimes a needy girl needs a controlling bloke to feel loved. Not a good basis for a relationship in my view though, and you don't sound like the needy type to me. Or maybe you are, and you sensed he was controlling, which is why you found the snogging so steamy :-)

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DrPolidori · 08/08/2011 00:53

whatsme, you missed out clearly on my last dating fiasco a few months ago where an admirer kept pouring double strength cocktails down me and then wondered why I got really pissed. I begged for food, tried to leave...it all ended horribly.

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AnyFucker · 08/08/2011 00:54

"Adrienne....I love you, Adrienne !...."

< only Rocky affiocionado's (or wives of such will get this >

AnyFucker · 08/08/2011 00:54

(or wives of such)

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DrPolidori · 08/08/2011 00:55

But whatever Pagwatch and Hullygully say, I did NOT push him into the swimming pool....

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DrPolidori · 08/08/2011 01:03

Did you know that Sylvester Stallone is only 5 foot 6 inches? that makes Dolph Lundgrun (sic) about 5" 11. And everyone else in that movie very short indeed. Or standing in trenches.

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DrPolidori · 08/08/2011 01:06

And I am only joking about the pool thing. 'twas an IPOAT jest.

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izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 08/08/2011 01:08

They're all tiny in Tinseltown except Clint Eastwood.

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 08/08/2011 01:09

Wouldn't matter if you had. I'd never tell on you.

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DrPolidori · 08/08/2011 01:10

Do you think its a short man thing or am I wildly overgenerliising?

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DrPolidori · 08/08/2011 01:11
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DrPolidori · 08/08/2011 01:12

Izzy, you get the Soul of All Discretion Crown tonight....

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izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 08/08/2011 01:15

Have you got that guy with the double strength cocktails round your place? I'd need a lot of treble strength mojitos to find any guy wearing my knickers attractive unless they were round his head.

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 08/08/2011 01:17

Blush Cheers Wine doc.

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DrPolidori · 08/08/2011 01:19

no, in reality, knickerboy could never do it for me.

Mojito boy , bah.

Risottochap has overstepped the mark. Damn, wish we had got a shag in first. Just to, ah keep my hand in, as it were.

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