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AIBU?

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...to be utterly disgusted that people - especially women - use the word 'frape'. It's not big or clever, is DISGUSTING

218 replies

hairfullofsnakes · 05/08/2011 23:17

...a stupid, awful word that should be banned. How can people use this word and not feel ashamed of doing so?

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muminthemiddle · 05/08/2011 23:18

I've never heard of this. what does it mean?

AitchTwoOh · 05/08/2011 23:19

it is mind-boggling. (although this is a thread about a thread, i think, but i take it you took it up with the OP of that thread as well?)
but yes, i find it unbelievable that someone would be so crass as to use a 'word' like frape...

thenightsky · 05/08/2011 23:19

Frape is a cold coffee isn't it? Confused

MorticiaAddams · 05/08/2011 23:19

YANBU, I hate the word too. I just can't disassociate it with rape and can't believe that adults use it (presumably to show how cool and down wiz da kidz they are).

ZillionChocolate · 05/08/2011 23:20

Probably because they haven't thought about it.

LemonDifficult · 05/08/2011 23:20

YANBU.

LesserOfTwoWeevils · 05/08/2011 23:20

YANBU at all

Haggisfish · 05/08/2011 23:20

It's Facebook rape, where someone else posts on your wall while you are distracted and logged on (ie my brother posts 'My brother is the best bro in the world' on my wall while I am changing my baby's nappy). I use the term but feel slightly uncomfortable when I do. If it bothers you that much, just don't use it - it's not like it is in common parlance.

DontCallMePeanut · 05/08/2011 23:21

YANBU and I will gladly argue with anyone who says YABU.

Pinner35 · 05/08/2011 23:21

yanbu.....it's awful.

bubblesincoffee · 05/08/2011 23:21

Because they didn't make the word up themselves?

Because they simply didn't realise it would be offensive, as pointed out, and apologised for, on the thread you are rudely referring to?

Because rape is a word with more than one meaning?

TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 05/08/2011 23:21

I agree. To have someone post something on your facebook is in no way anything like being raped and I very much doubt they think it is either. (Actually, I doubt they think about it at all Hmm) It's a stupid word to use.

AitchTwoOh · 05/08/2011 23:22

how about, haggis, if you feel uncomfortable when you use it... you be the one not to use it? the reason it makes you feel shitt

hairfullofsnakes · 05/08/2011 23:22

It's so so disrespectful to women who have been through rape. It sickens me when people use it so blithely. It makes me rage.

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AitchTwoOh · 05/08/2011 23:22

y is because it is shitty

Sandalwood · 05/08/2011 23:22

yanbu. I'm amazed people use it.

Rosemallow · 05/08/2011 23:23

YANBU it is a vile term.

I cringe when people, particularly those of a usually respectable nature, use it.

I often wonder if they actually know what it means.

YABU to be more disgusted at women using the term though.

It is equally vile, said by a man or a woman.

DontCallMePeanut · 05/08/2011 23:23

Haggisfish, it most certainly is becoming common "parlance". At least, it is in my circle of friends. I tend to see it on quite a regular basis. Very upsetting.

caughtinanet · 05/08/2011 23:23

I've only recently found out what the word means and was very surprised to see one friend in particular using it on FB. I can only assume that most people just aren't thinking when they use it.

AitchTwoOh · 05/08/2011 23:24

how many meanings to the word rape, though?

hairfullofsnakes · 05/08/2011 23:24

I'm being rude now am I bubbles?! If you think that then you really do have bubbles in your coffee

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slartybartfast · 05/08/2011 23:25

i hope the original op is feeling too got at Hmm

BaronessBomburst · 05/08/2011 23:25

It's when somebody else posts on your Facebook account. So Facebook rape - frape. I find it completely distasteful and inappropriate.

lockets · 05/08/2011 23:26

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hairfullofsnakes · 05/08/2011 23:26

Rose - I see what you mean, but you would think a woman would be a bit more sensitive to using such a vile word bur I have found they are often the worst offenders when this term is used

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