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Original poster

to think he shouldn't have had a serious strop at this? - A bit sexual, sorry!

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YodelOdelTee · 28/06/2011 11:14

I have namechanged for this for obvious reasons :) I am a regular - I remember pirate sex, lavender, judge and the MN bat and that the special word for spiders is LOOOOOFAH'S ha ha ha ha!!!

I have been having casual sex with a man for little under 12 months. No feelings are involved, just sex and a friendship. We go back 10 years to when our friendship began but have only ever been friends, or now more recently friends and fuck buddies.

He has some mental issues, depression is one. During intercourse he goes soft so I give him oral as he stays erect for that and we play around, but lately he is very selfish and it mostly consists of me giving a bj but nothing for me Angry.

So this morning, Steve and I were on messenger just chatting and joking around and the conversation went like this;

S - So if you're not busy today how about you come and suck on my lollipop

Me - Sounds good, but what do I get in return? (hoping he'd say something along the lines of he'd perform oral sex or at least play with me.)

S - My company and a cup of tea

Me - You can't buy me with tea and biscuits, i'm not a prostitute! Ha ha ha (insert smiley emoticon)

And from that moment on it all kicked off. He accused me of only thinking that he's using me for sex and that all along i've thought that he only thinks of me as easy sex etc etc. He's refusing to speak to me now and has sent a few emails which basically say how low I think of him and our friendship. Did I do something wrong?

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kaluki · 28/06/2011 11:30

I think he knows really that it is getting a bit one-sided and your comment hit a raw nerve and his kicking off was a defense mechanism.
It does sound too much like hard work though especially if your not even getting full blown sex out of it.

Rockerchic · 28/06/2011 11:31

If he's getting upset and huffy it means he wants more.
You have to decide if that's what you want of you don't sadly you need to sever ties with this man as he will become emotional baggage and you can't stay friends with him as he will always want more.

StewieGriffinsMom · 28/06/2011 11:31

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Rockerchic · 28/06/2011 11:32

If you don't do walking on egg shell you need to get out.

PfftTheMagicDragon · 28/06/2011 11:33

AF is right, of course Wink

Move on.

ShirleyKnot · 28/06/2011 11:34

He sounds just delightful

It's not your problem his chupa chups can't stay hard. Hmm

Get rid, he's an arse.

spookshowangel · 28/06/2011 11:34

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm yodel do you really???????? i mean you have been fucking for a year so that can muddy the waters a bit emotionally speaking. i had a friend that i was sleeping with. similar situation penis problems, emotionally stunted, but available and good fun. we had been friends for years before and after a while i started to think could this be more...thank god i dont hate myself. if his reaction here is anything to go by he would be a nightmare bf and he cant even have sex which doesnt particularly bode well. my advice would be its time to stop fucking the safety net and get back on the real horse and find yourself an honest to god bf friend if your fuck buddy is looking like an appealing prospect you are probably ready for the real thing. with a working penis.

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YodelOdelTee · 28/06/2011 11:34

I think, ANyFucker, I like your name very much!, I might have to walk away. I can't be doing with the aggro of having fall outs everytime I've done or said something in jest that he has taken the absolute wrong way.

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TheSecondComing · 28/06/2011 11:35

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Rockerchic · 28/06/2011 11:36

Can I ask OP is the sex really that good? Sorry if that's personal but unless he's a sex god on bed then I'd scarper.

Rockerchic · 28/06/2011 11:37

Shirley I was trying to think of the name of those lollies Grin

MumblingRagDoll · 28/06/2011 11:38

He's not your "buddy" is he? He's taking the piss.

spookshowangel · 28/06/2011 11:38

why do you feel the need to point that out second coming?

GetOrf · 28/06/2011 11:38

lol at TSC caps, italics AND bold Grin

at chupa chups.

OOH do you remember those lollipops which were whistles as well?

ShirleyKnot · 28/06/2011 11:40

TSC totally has loads of sex chats on MSN with her DP. He's all like, "Fancy a ride of my saddly of love later babes?" and then TSC is all "Yeah, I'm gonna ride you cowboy"

Al0uiseG · 28/06/2011 11:40

Tell him that his lollipop has lost its appeal and its about time he tried your bearded mussel.

:o

Hullygully · 28/06/2011 11:40

You do so have SEX CHATS, tsc

MumblingRagDoll · 28/06/2011 11:40

also if you enter into this kind of "arrangement" it always ends in tears.

spookshowangel · 28/06/2011 11:41

and he wears stirrups as well.

Hullygully · 28/06/2011 11:41

Great minds, shirl. (Tho yours is funnier damn you)

GetOrf · 28/06/2011 11:41

TSC has a pager on which she pages her DH with lurve imaginings.

She likes the pager because it has a strong vibrate action.

MorelliOrRanger · 28/06/2011 11:41

Seems a bit one sided to me. Like PP's I thought FB's were supposed to be that. Not a one sided blow job.

Sorry another vote for bin him.

GetOrf · 28/06/2011 11:42

at alouise

AmberLeaf · 28/06/2011 11:42

Sounds like he is just wanting his cock sucked and cant be arsed to return the favour for whatever reason.......you called him on it and he got all defensive.

spookshowangel · 28/06/2011 11:43

surely get he would have to page her for her to get the benefit of the vibe action?