AIBU to think that 11 year old primary school children do not need this level of sex education?

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Friends DS came home with a leaflet that had been handed out at school (aimed at girls, but he took it because of the content). It contained:

-Advice telling the girls to get a mirror and examine their genital area plus -picture of said area
-Information about discharge and STI's
-Information about going further with your boyfriend and masturbation
-Advice about contraception
-Advice and information about homosexual relationships
-Pictures of people in fairly intimate positions
-Information telling children that if they tell a doctor or a teacher that they are having sex that they are not allowed to tell their parents

Given that the law is that children should not be having sex until 16 and that this is a primary school I was a bit shocked that this information was being handed out without the parents knowledge. I would expect that this sort of content would be dealt with in secondary school in year 8 or 9 (that was when we had it when I was at school).

What do you think?

'earn a reputation '

I can think of quiter a few reasons not to sleep with more people than you would choose.

That's not one of them. I mean, really? In 2011?

Somehow I don't think SGB has sex with lots of people due to low self esteem. High sex drive maybe. nothing wrong with that, as there is nothing wrong with my own monogamous lifestyle.

I would hope a child of mine was sufficiently able to choose between the whole gamut of non harming safe sex options and pick the one that suited them best. Whether it's swinging, abstinence or monogamy. And choosing- genuine choice- takes information.

I;d like it set out so I could make sure Ive told ds1 the stuff in advance (I try but not always eprfect). However if they issued exact dates kids would be kept away. I grew up in a PLymouth Brethren town and saw that a lot, would be a shame for that to happen.

The point is, having lots of sex and sexual partners is not a bad thing - DC need to be taught that other people's sexual choices, as long as those don't involve coercing or hurting others, are perfectly valid and that it's NOT OK to condemn other people for their (non-coercive, non-malicious) sexual behaviour just because it isn't what you like to do.

What Crapola said.

I love sex, personally. And I want my DS to have all the facts and enjoy it too, but I do not want him having sex at 11 or 12. At all. And if that makes me some kind of prude (which honestly I don't believe it does and frankly couldn't be convinced otherwise), so be it. I don't think any 11 or 12 year old can handle a sexual relationship.

"DC need to be taught that other people's sexual choices, as long as those don't involve coercing or hurting others, are perfectly valid and that it's NOT OK to condemn other people for their (non-coercive, non-malicious) sexual behaviour just because it isn't what you like to do."

Definitely.

I am very surprised this was given out withour your knowledge. Parents are usually informed when sex ed. takes place and should be invited to read the material or watch the videos before the children do. I would certainly want to know what my son was being told so that I could discuss it with him.

I admit that when I read your OP I was a bit but reading the replies it's made me think more openly about it.

Did the children have a lesson (or 5!) which covered all the things you mention. I think it would be rather poor to just give the leaflet out when many of the children won't know much at all about sex yet.

I dont know anyone that didnt already know about sex and masturbation by 11/12. Most girls and boys are already masturbating at this age. Its hardly a big deal, also of course its good to tell them about stds and contraception as in a couple of years (between 14-16) ime the vast majority will be having regular sex its best they know everything they need to.

it is a big deal if they didnt send a slip home before having the lessons as this is required and all the schools ive been involved with send a permission slip to sign and explain roughly what the content of the lessons would be yes some dcs do get pregnant very early but its not common and un uk dcs are in secondary a year earlier now, even in secondary they send out permission slips so to come home with a leaflet like that sounds odd if you were not informed first

It wasn't the OP's DC.

Completely agree. I don't think in ks2 need sex education at all (SHOCK KLAXON). I think they should teach first aid instead - it is far more useful. Children who are having sex at 12 will not be helped/stopped by sex education at 11!

They need that information. Otherwise they get their info from 1) Internet 2) internet porn 3) kids their own age who aren't well informed 4) older kids, bros, sisters with stuff on their mobiles they shouldn't have.
5) because many parents don't talk to their kids about this, or don't give tham all the info. It's nothing to be ashamed of. It's not ruining their innocence, they're alreasy hearing versions of most of this at that age anyway. It's giving them facts and putting them in context.

Williams91 appears to be spamming old threads this morning

stripes, it formalises it when they hear it from school. They can't zone it out, they can't store it away for later. It makes it formal and serious. A lot of kids really hate it (my dd is one of them).

sorry didnt realise this was such an old thread!