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being upset by my husband demolishing part of my restaurant meal today.

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snowaddict · 30/05/2011 21:19

I had been looking forward all weekend to going to my favourite pub/restaurant.

This afternoon when my meal arrived - a very neatly constructed dome of fragrant rice etc etc. - I commented straight away on how lovely the meal looked and before my eyes he demolished the rice dome in seconds.

It was not just that he spoilt the look of the dish. He know how I had been looking forward to it.

I had been quite chatty before he did this. When I asked him why he had spoilt it he said he was sick of hearing me go on about the rice.

I felt I did'nt want to eat it anymore and felt upset he just kept saying its only rice. But that's not the point.

I'm so upset with him. He just does'nt get it. I would not dream of doing something like that to him.

Am I being too sensitive - He says I should just forget about it move on.

OP posts:

chelstonmum · 30/05/2011 21:20

You are being to sensitive but he is being an arse!


curtaincall · 30/05/2011 21:22

That's just mean !


MrsSippy · 30/05/2011 21:22

childish twonk!



curtaincall · 30/05/2011 21:22

... and very childish


piratecat · 30/05/2011 21:22

what a childish thing to do, is he a sulker?


BornInAfrica · 30/05/2011 21:23

Sounds like a grade A prat to me


olibeansmummy · 30/05/2011 21:23

Tbh I wouldn't care in the slightest!


barbie007 · 30/05/2011 21:24

How annoying, I would have hated it too


GypsyMoth · 30/05/2011 21:24

he's right though!!!

you really should do as he says....forget about it....and 'move on'!!!!Grin

idiot that he is!!


2rebecca · 30/05/2011 21:24

He is behaving like your 10 year old older brother not your husband.
I wouldn't have been upset, I'd have been angry. Can't imagine being married to a bloke who'd do something like that though. Aggressive and bullying.


kaid100 · 30/05/2011 21:25

Well, if my wife went on about a dome of rice I'd roll my eyes and be gently joking about it, but I generally try not to spoil people's fun so I'd leave the rice dome for her to demolish by eating it.


DorisIsAPinkDragon · 30/05/2011 21:25

He is being a knob and a bit of a bully to spoil something he knows asethetically pleases you.

Is he a knob over other things too?


CoffeeDodger · 30/05/2011 21:25

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pinkdelight · 30/05/2011 21:26

You sound quite sulky too - he spoilt it so you didn't want it any more and weren't going to enjoy yourself. Sounds like major subtext. Or else you're both just tired and tetchy.


chicletteeth · 30/05/2011 21:27

He's a twat.
But, it is only rice.....


HerHissyness · 30/05/2011 21:27

Red flag here. what a total arse, what ELSE does he ruin, just because you like it.


WhoAteMySnickers · 30/05/2011 21:28

YANBU to feel upset with him, what a knob.


ohmyfucksy · 30/05/2011 21:28

I would be annoyed.

Is this symptomatic? Does he usually enjoy putting down things you enjoy?


FabbyChic · 30/05/2011 21:29

Messing with someone elses food is childish and twatish.


LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 30/05/2011 21:30

I understand where you're coming from, OP, it's not the rice, it's the fact that you firstly had looked forward to going and secondly, expressed pleasure at the format of your dish. Your husband spoiled it for no reason that I can see. Like sandcastle-smashing... he sounds a bit of a bully actually.

I would have walked out and left him to it.


MalkieFraser · 30/05/2011 21:30

How much were you going on about it? A dome of rice is a dome of rice, not the Sistine Chapel. He must have been really pissed off. You can recreate the dome quite easily with some Mr Ben's and a cup. Take photos, frame, keep forever. YABU.


ohmyfucksy · 30/05/2011 21:32

I simply don't see the need to get so pissed off about someone expressing pleasure at something. Unless you are a complete twat with issues...


SmethwickBelle · 30/05/2011 21:33


Next time he orders a nice steak pie, lean over and punch it flat on the plate. Hand him his fish and chips after you've squashed the fish in your hands.

Sometimes people only get it if you demonstrate your point I find.


ClaireDeLoon · 30/05/2011 21:34

He spoils things just because you enjoy them? He sounds awful tbh. Makes me sad when I read posters saying it's nothing, your DP being mean to you is not nothing.


activate · 30/05/2011 21:34

I'm sorry but it spoiled your meal because he knocked over a rice tower?

and then you didn't want to eat it at all?

how old are you both?

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