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to ask her to take someone else?

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sofaqueenie · 16/05/2011 14:28

I bought my best friend and I two Take That tickets for 30th June, which we've been really looking forward to.

I've recently discovered that I'm pregnant and it works out I'll be around 13 weeks when we go.

TBH - I really don't want to go now for that reason and a few others. I don't know how to tell her that I don't want to go, but that she's more than welcome to take someone else.

She's been looking forward to it so much with me, and she's confided in me that I'm her only real friend that she likes spending time with, so it makes it a little worse. She knows I'm pregnant, and she's already started to panic about how she's 'going to have to make sure I'm OK' and I just can't be doing with it!

Any advice?

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FetchezLaVache · 16/05/2011 14:28

Yes. Go! You'll be fine, enjoy it!

valiumredhead · 16/05/2011 14:30

Why on earth don't you want to go?

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bigTillyMint · 16/05/2011 14:30

Why couldn't you go? Are you suffering with hyperemesis or suchlike?

thestringcheeseincident · 16/05/2011 14:31

You'll be fine.
I don't understand why you think you wouldn't manage.

Trifle · 16/05/2011 14:31

Why does being 13 weeks pregnant stop you from a night out?

CurrySpice · 16/05/2011 14:31

Why on god's green earth won't you go?!

Iwantscallops · 16/05/2011 14:32

I watched Take That when 30 weeks pregnant. We had standing tickets but there was lots of space to sit down. Can you contact the venue to see if you can sit just in case you need to?

Is there more behind the reason why you don't want to go? If I was your friend it would sound a poor excuse to me.

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mum0fthree · 16/05/2011 14:33

Depends if your tickets are seated or standing tbh, I bought tickets many years ago for DD and myself. Got pregnant in the meantime, it worked out that baby would be nine days old. I went over attended the concert (not far from home) and had a great night, baby was kicking away and loving the tunes.

I am not admitting to who was playing though!

If she is a true friend I am sure she will understand your reasons.

TheVisitor · 16/05/2011 14:33

You're pregnant, not ill! Why on earth would you not go?

sprinkles77 · 16/05/2011 14:35

go, enjoy it, there will be fewer opportunities after baby is born.

EvenLessNarkyPuffin · 16/05/2011 14:35

You don't want to go 'for that reason and a few others'

So you just don't want to go? It's not really about being pregnant?

MayDayChild · 16/05/2011 14:36

Urgh I went to robbie at 11 weeks in ruddy Milton Keynes. It took another 2 weeksto recover as the late night and effort made me so so ill. Can't listen to his music anymore.

BitOfFun · 16/05/2011 14:36

Go gently, everybody, OP is pregnant, you know.

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 16/05/2011 14:37

Well yes, what everyone else has said. Why on earth can't you go? Confused

valiumredhead · 16/05/2011 14:37

Listen, I know TAKE THAT are getting on a bit now and all look like dads dancing at a wedding, but it'll be good fun, and you've got the ticket now! Grin

Fiendarina · 16/05/2011 14:38

I went to see Take That when I was a good 36 weeks pregnant, in the last week before I went on maternity leave, and it was brilliant. People I went with did joke that if I went into labour, I'd be forced to name it after one of the boys, even if I had a girl... So long as you're not feeling sick as a dog you should have a great time, but it sounds like you have other reasons for not wanting to go?

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 16/05/2011 14:39

What are the other reasons, OP? If you're trying to get out of going, then being pregnant is a lame excuse.

CurrySpice · 16/05/2011 14:39

I have a similar feeling about ColdPlay MayDayChild. First night out after giving birth. Took DAYS to build up store of breastmilk and convince DD to take it from a bottle. And screw up my courage to leave her. And they were shit Angry

Just hearing Chris Martin now makes me incandescent with rage Angry

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sofaqueenie · 16/05/2011 14:40

Oh my God, I know pregnancy isn't an illness - I have been pregnant before for fucks sake.

I don't want to go, because of the follow:

  • We're standing - I don't really want to get pushed or shoved thank you
  • Money - It wasn't an issue before, but now we have to save
  • Sickness - which has already begun and will probably continue
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teachermummy2011 · 16/05/2011 14:41

well not sure how crazy Take That is likely to be but...

I know I was very careful about what I did when I was pregnant, just in case. It's not about being silly or oversensitive or whatever, just about minimising any potential risks.

My friend wanted me to see Motorhead when I was pregnant. I didn't go.

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sofaqueenie · 16/05/2011 14:42

Thank you Teacher - thank God I'm not the only one with a little common sense, eh?

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