To lie about friends being christened so that i can have them as my childrens godparents?

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I have booked my 2 boys Christening today for this year.

I have 6 people in line to be Godparents. My two best friends, 2 mutual Friends and a couple who babysat me as a young un and i babysat her boys when they were young.

BUT my two best friends are not christened and we dont think our mutual friends are either - waiting on replies from them.

I filled in the christening booking form today at the Church and when it asked about Godparents, i said No and ? to the ones that we dont know about and are sure they havent being christened?

AIBU to ring the church and tell them they have being christened or would they find out? The lady at church today said they check to see if godparents are christened - but my cousins who had their babies christened last year said 2 of their godparents (each) were not christened and the church never said anything or got back to them about it. I feel silly and stupid now for saying no and ? instead of YES

And to top it off everyone who i have told about the christening have commented on the date saying ''oh wont forget that date'' The christening is booked for September 11th :|

I know at my parent's church they ask for certificates to makes sure everything is legit.

I never had DD Christened or Baptized. I don't plan on making religion a big part of her life, so see no point. When she's older she can make up her own mind on the matter.

Why bother with a ceremony that means nothing to you? It's not a requirement to raise your child as a Christian you know.

I was asked to be a godparent and not christened. The vicar christened me first very quickly to accommodate!

I'm sorry but lying to the Church is not a very Chritian thing to do and with that attitude you really shouldn't be having them baptised at all!!

Christian not Chritian.

I would imagine that this is a done deal, with it being 3 and a half years later!

My brother was dedicated and I wasn't anything though my parents are both Christians and have even done missionary work. Not all branches of the church do Christenings. You can be a fully dedicated Christian and not be Christened as much as you can have been christened and not believe a word of it.

I know this is a 3 year old thread but Why are people moaning at op for christening her child when they don't go to church!? That is what a lot of people I know do as they like the celebration and if they want to they can! Whose business is it of those slating it

I know this isn't really the point, and I am coming to the thread late, but as a Christian with a strong faith I REJOICE when a non church family come to my church to get their child baptised or dedicated, or to get married. Hallelujah! I love that God works in people's lives even when the people themselves don't know it. Even when they say, we are only doing this for the photos or the party, I know God brought them to my church and will bless them. Yay! There are pretty secular venues, there are other places to party, there are alternatives to religious ceremonies, yet something (or someone?!) brought this family to my church. And I thank God for them!

With regards to OP, it is no ones business what truth or lies you tell except for you, and God. If you make promises you don't believe, that is on you, that is your call, between you and God. If you lie about the Godparents being christened, that's between you, the Godparents, and God. I personally wouldn't lie about it, but that is a decision you have to make yourself, and live with it.

I hope you find a way to have the christening you want for your children xx

Oh crapmi hadnt noticed it was old. I probably posted on it before and didn't even notice

Ahhh just realised this is a very old thread! Hope it went well, OP! My point about non Christians using the church still stands though! ;)

OP, I think you are getting so much grief because early on in the thread you said you were agnostic. And people, rightly or wrongly, feel agnostics shouldn't pretend to be religious.

But later on you talk about praying, and believing in god, so you aren't agnostic at all.

Anyway, think hard about it. I understand the desire to have the adults with a special role in your child's life. This may not be the way to achieve it if they aren't Christians. You should choose godparents who can believe what they vow to do.

Otherwise you might end up with godparents like me. :-) I'm a godparent to two young relatives. I am an atheist. I did not wish to be their godparent. To me, a godparent is someone who supports the child in their religion. I was not able to refuse without causing a big family rift. I did not believe what I vowed, it was a load of rubbish to me just to keep the peace, and I do not feel any special responsibilities or take real interest in these children, as my heart was not in it.

If I'd been asked to take a special role in a humanist or non-religious way, I'd have taken it totally seriously and had a very different relationship with those children.

force me to lie and make bizarre vows there's no way I'm going to keep, I'm opting out of the whole thing.

Your parents not going to church does not make them ignorant.

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