I would post this in feminism but I've never posted there so .... AIBU to have emailed a company

[changingmynameagain]

Backstory - am looking to get a pop up tent - how boring.

Anyway, stockists locally are a major sports/camping retailer.

I was on the website looking to find out if they had the tent I wanted in stock to go and buy it, but also so that they could demonstrate it to me - how it goes up and down.

Anyway, I'm on the website filling in the "contact us" form and the only options for "Title" are

Mr

Mrs

Miss

Now, call me pedantic but I'm divorced, so I'm not a Mrs. I'm not a never married so I'm not a Miss.

There was NO OPTION for Ms.

For some reason this really got my goat and in the comments box of the page I actually typed

"Oh and for your information there's no option in your title box for Ms. I am divorced, therefore I am not a Mrs. I was married, therefore I am not a Miss. Please could you get some of your IT boffins to insert the option for Ms. In this day and age, I think it is unfair that the only options available on the form for a woman to have as a title refer to her marital status."

And yes, I know it's trivial but it got right up my nose.

YANBU :)

It is not trivial.

But your qualifiers about being divorced etc etc are irrelevant. I was Ms before I got married and I am still Ms now I am married. I have never been Miss or Mrs.

YANBU.

YANBU we're no longer in the fifties.

Am I allowed to name and shame?

i really wouldnt get worked up about it, you cant tell wether the man is married,single or divorced by him ticking MR so i cant see what the problem would be,im sure the office doesnt really mind (care) what realtionship status you are they just need it to head a letter

Babby - that's the point though.

They don't refer to a man by his marital status, why should they for a woman? It's a double standard

YADNBA!

You should of posted this in the feminist section, we are very nice and you definately would not get YABU

leave it blank then its your right not to answer

Ok will repost over there

Haha love it [bugrin]

Although, my mum has been divorced for about 8 years now, and she HATES it when people assume she's now a Ms, she's still a Mrs. Suppose it's whatever you prefer though, if/when I get married and if we ended up divorcing I think I would still stay Mrs, I don't like the title Ms. Like I say, personal preference [bugrin]

I think it's time we all started using MS and did away with Mrs and kept Miss for little girls the same way as Master is kept for little boys.

I've always hated having to choose Miss/Ms/Mrs.

Thing is, I might not want to be an ANYTHING - Mr doesn't differentiate on the basis of marital status, and I think it's unbelievable in this day and age that the same option isn't available for women.

And I don't normally get het up by stuff like this but it really got up my nose.

Chipping - agree completely

Yanbu. But I've reverted to Miss after my divorce as it is fairly generic.

BTW that bit of the form was a compulsory field, so I couldn't leave it blank.

YANBU... I've been a Ms since I became aware of the real meaning... It's no one elses sodding business if I'm married

Thats like my mum zukie she hates it when people assume she's a Ms. Hey, you're not my mum are you? She's been divorced 8 years too (I think anyway) [bushock] . . . .

YANBU
I am still Ms and I am married. Haven't changed my surname either. People insist on writing to me a Mrs husbands surname no matter how many times I tell people.

Never mind the lack of a Ms option, you would be fed up if you were a Prof or Dr too (not to mention a Duke or Lord or Lady or, gasp, Royalty).

YANBU!

I was cross recently because I didn't get the choice of Mrs. It had to be Ms-I loathe and detest it- I am not Ms and yet had to put it. We need the whole range so people are free to choose-not be told.

Why have either Mr or Ms on the form anyway, it's only to purchase a tent/camping equipment etc.

Surely this need only be used when knowing the sex of a person is relevant to the matter?

What's wrong with just writing the customers name?

I can understand why some people would not want to be addressed as Miss or Mrs, but what is some peoples' problem with Ms?