AIBU?
altinkum · 16/04/2011 08:35
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onceamai · 16/04/2011 08:38
Disgusting and FWIW I once gently and without force pulled dd (3 then) towards me when she was lying on the floor and wouldn't get up for tea and dislocated her elbow. Had to go to a&e to have it clicked back (manipulated) into place. She was in a lot of pain. With force it could have been much much worse. More details OP.
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devonsmummy · 16/04/2011 08:43
No not me ! I had just put him on back door mat and H came downstairs picked him up by the arm threw him on sofa ( he says dropped) and hit him 4 times.
I told him it was out of order he stormed upstairs and slammed door.
DS was almost sick - retching afterwards
HecateQueenOfTheNight · 16/04/2011 08:44
I think it was OTT, yes. Physically lifting the child and throwing them onto the sofa? Not on. 4 'mansize' - I assume that is a way of saying very hard indeed? - whallops as well?
If my husband picked me up and threw me onto a piece of furniture and then hit me 4 times, I'd divorce him. I don't think it's any more acceptable when it's a parent doing it to a child.
onceamai · 16/04/2011 09:13
Four hard smacks this time - how many more next time? You said your son retched afterwards. Don't waste any more time on here - get to a solicitor. Why do you even have to ask if you are being unreasonable about this. Was our husband abused as a child - does he know no better and require counselling? If he doesn't see his behaviour as unreasonable then he is not, IMO, a fit parent although I am aware that in some cultures it is considered appropriate to physically punish the child.
Having said all that mine have had the odd tap over the years - but not with force or violence.
GeekLove · 16/04/2011 09:21
What you are describing here is DV pure and simple. So the child is whining? That is no excuse children are meant to make mistakes. However as an adult he should no better. As others have said it's about his loss of control rather than a meaningful punishment. What would you have done if it was amstranger who assaulted your son?
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