to ask would you be disappointed if you didn't get a card/ present for motherday

[AuntiePickleBottom]

more of a discussion really.

over the school this seems like a hot topic, and some mums expect alot from there OH to deliver cards and presents.

as long as i get a card i really don't care

[Mum2Luke]

Its nice to gets something but I just like having the kids about and miss my eldest who is at Uni

Hubby, DS and I are going to a match together so looks like a beefburger and chips meal on Sunday!

Well the DH has bought me a new car after my one had to be scrapped last week so am not complaining if I don't get any flowers from him haha.

[BaggedandTagged]

If DH doesn't get his shit together and get me something from DS (6mths) there is going to be BIG trouble. It's my first mother's day and I want it acknowledged.

[ewille]

I'd be gutted. But I don't think that'll be a problem.

[valiumredhead]

Ds 9 gives me a card he's made and usually makes me breakfast in bed. Last year was toast and slice cucumber and a small bowl of olives! it's hard to be enthusiastic about olives at 7.30 am

[valiumredhead]

Oh and dh usually lets ds choose some flowers for me.

[candleshoe]

Olives at dawn !

[jugglingjo]

A couple of hand made or hand illustrated cards from the DC's will make my day

A cup of tea at some point would be a bonus

But it's DD1's birthday this weekend so mainly we'll be celebrating with her. My DC's birthdays always mean at least as much to me as mother's day, which I agree can feel like one celebration too many. Will have to get something in the post for Granny to keep her happy too !

< slightly cynical and ungrateful emoticon ? OR easily pleased ? >

[Swiddle]

My expectations are zero. I am completely uninterested, and so is my DH. Kids will probably bring home something handmade from school (found later crushed at the bottom of their book bags).

However, for my own mother both a card and flowers are expected, plus probably a present too (to keep up with my siblings), plus I will have to sort out the mother-in-law's gift and cards too, cos DH never really quite manages this.

Extra effort, extra expense, extra tedium. Where's the love in that?

[lazylula]

DH has tried the 'You are not my mother' line on me, but then strangely forgetting that I am not his father on Father's Day when making his 'demands' of what he wants to happen on the day.

[Nuttybod]

At the risk of being shot down in flames I hate mothers day & object to kids being forced to appreciate their mothers/fathers.

I chose to be a mum & do what I do because I choose to so why do I need thanks for it?

Just my opinion :)

[jugglingjo]

I think the olives at dawn says it all really !

[halfcaffodils]

Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed! I wish I could remember that every birthday/Valentines/Mother's Day...
It's not the cards/flowers/chocolates which count for me, I usually get something along those lines. I would like it to be a bit of a special day when the family shows appreciation for everything I do for them, and I get a bit of a treat, a rest and above all with good grace, and no whingeing and arguing. That would be the best Mother's Day present for me - harmony in the house!

[mamalovebird]

I've already been informed DP is going to a footie match on Mother's Day which upset me a bit as I would have loved to spend the day together as a family, but I think he plans to make up for it in advance on Saturday.
On being asked if there was anything I'd like, I simply replied, ' a cleaner'.

Not bothered about a present really but i'd like a card.

[Changing2011]

I will probably get a nice little handmade card from DD and possibly a cup of tea in bed. Might push for a chocolate croissant but thats my lot. Then I am cooking a huge roast for DP's Mum! Oh well, my Mum is not with us anymore and I might as well..... I will make him wait on me later :)

[NettoSuperstar]

I'm not getting one, as I'm a single parent and DD is too old to make one at school now.
It doesn't really bother me.

[jugglingjo]

Hi halfcaffodils - Harmony in the house for a whole day is quite a lot to hope for
I think many mothers could do with lowering their expectations for this day to avoid disappointment.
I am quite cynical and see it as a bit of manipulation by consumer society too tbh

If you have some healthy, fairly happy children, clean water to drink, and the sun shines on the daffodils and spring blossom, be happy, people !

[halfcaffodils]

More of a wish than a hope, yes jo! Any fairy godmothers about?

[UnquietDad]

It's looking ahead, but what I want on Fathers' Day is for the family to bugger off and leave me to have a lie-in in peace, then bring me a cup of lovely strong coffee at about 11am, then go out for lunch and be nice to me without anybody moaning that I had a lie-in :)

[mrsbiscuits]

I think I'd rather have a lay in than a card ;)

[jugglingjo]

Of course I completely get that anything given really needs to be given with good grace

Some things have been given with immense charm over the years ( son on doorstep with a bunch of pink tulips a few weeks ago " Happy early mother's day !" ) Other years it's not gone quite so well. eg. tears over something broken etc.

It's one extreme to the other with kids sometimes, isn't it ?

[jennymac]

Dd (aged 4) has been talking about Mothers Day for ages now. Apparently I am getting a card, necklace, ring, flowers, breakfast in bed and will be allowed to watch both Emmerdale and Coronation St! In reality I will get a card and probably either flowers or chocs (or both) and not be allowed near the tv all day!

[FollowMe]

I dont care if I get anything at all, as long as teh occasion is noted in some way and some appreciation is shown.
A cup of tea in bed and a 'happy mothers day' would do just as well as a card or a present would tbh. If it wasnt mentioned at all then I would be gutted.
DS1 has just started school and I think will make a card (he told me he had drawn something but it was a secret the other day!) so that will be lovely.

[Haribojoe]

Personally I wouldn't, partly because we are absolutely skint at the moment and I'd rather DH didn't waste money on it this year.

I would say that a couple of years ago this is the sort of thing that I would have made a massive fuss about. I don't know if it's getting older or going through a challenging few years which have made me really look at my life, values etc and realise that my priorities are a lot different now.

That said I hope all MNers get lovely lie ins bunches of flowers and are totally spoilt

[Amateurish]

I didn't get anything for the OH when it was her first mother's day. But then, why would I? I had literally no idea any such thing was expected - she's not my mother! Equally, I don't expect anything from a baby when it comes to father's day...