to ask would you be disappointed if you didn't get a card/ present for motherday

[AuntiePickleBottom]

more of a discussion really.

over the school this seems like a hot topic, and some mums expect alot from there OH to deliver cards and presents.

as long as i get a card i really don't care

[bonkers20]

Yep, I'd be upset. Mother's day was always a big thing for me growing up.
DH knows this and while I don't really need the cards/flowers etc it hurts my feelings when I think he can't be bothered to help the children get a card for me or that now our DS1 is older, that he doesn't remind him to get a card from the shop.
That's the issue really. It annoys me that I make more effort for Father's day than he does for mother's day.

[piebald]

Be quite glad not to, always makes me feel guilty about being so grumpy with them all the time

[pingu2209]

I would be upset with no card - don't expect presents, flowers or meals out - just a card. In fact a home made one would be better than shop bought. I have not reminded my dh. I am wating to see if he remembers. If he forgets I get more than if he remembers - terrible attitude I know! But if he forgets I may get a meal out etc. Whereas, if he remembers and gives me just a card with a 'sorry' but no money, I can't say anything else!

[greygirl]

i would like breakfast in bed and a card (which i bought myself). i am happy with that (and obviously hugs from children too!).

on father's day my MIL send my DH a card and sometimes a present. Now that does weird me out - he is most definatly not her father!

[pranma]

Never ever expected dh to be involved with my Mothers Day-I'm not his mother!!A home or scool made card and maybe some wildflowers when they were small-maybe a card now but it doesnt bother me at all :)

[mamalovebird]

For me mothering sunday is about honoring and remembering mums in general and what they give to their children and families. Doesn't matter whether i'm his mother or not. I'm the mother of his child.

The present we give to his mother will be just as much from me as him as she's has gone through all the trails and tribulations with him that I will go through with my DS and brought up a decent, kind man (albeit slightly too obsessed with football though).

Same for father's day. DP isn't my father (thank God) but is DS's father and a brilliant one at that so why shouldn't I be allowed to celebrate that?

[ArfurBrain]

i'd like a card and maybe either a couple of hours to myself (to read, or garden or whatever) Other than that, i don't mind. one son bought me a primrose on his way home from school the other day - with money i had given him to buy a drink for himself! I know I am loved and thought of.

[ThisFeelsWeird]

"Not fussed, it's a ridiculous, contrived, Hallmark sponsored pile of bollocks, like Valentines Day."

Mothering Sunday is actually a date in the liturgical calendar. It's only as Hallmark sponsored as Christmas, depends how you choose to mark it, whether you get caught up in all that or just take a moment to think about those who "mother" us.

BTW, Mothers' Day is an American import - Woodrow Wilson came up with it - they have it in May. Ours is uniquely tied to Easter, and therefore to the Church.

[Saltire]

I like to get a card, especially if DH ahs tkaen teh Dses shoping to get one which they pick. However he's doing crap again this year WRT work and is away so unless he takes them on friday then I won't get one.
present = not bothered

[2rebecca]

I would never expect my ex or current husband to get me a mothers day card. Think that is very weird behaviour. Like it if my 2 remember (usually drop hints) don't mind if they forget.
I don't remind my stepkids to get my husband a fathers day and his ex definitely doesn't. if they get him cards he is happy but not too bothered if they forget.
Find it strange some people expect anyone other than their kids to get them mothers day cards.
I have no expectation of presents. They don't have that much money, although it was sweet when they made stuff at primary school.

[theborrower]

Mamalovebird said: For me mothering sunday is about honoring and remembering mums in general and what they give to their children and families. Doesn't matter whether i'm his mother or not. I'm the mother of his child.

On a similar note, I've got to admit that I was a bit miffed when I asked my mum what we were all doing for mother's day, and she said something like "Why are you asking me??? I don't need to organise anything for you, your DH needs to" with a big angry tone. COming from my mum who gets annoyed if she isn't taken out for a lunch.

It's my first mother's day and I'm not expecting a present or anything, I'd honestly be happy with a nice gesture, perhaps a cup of tea in bed and a card. But it would also be nice for some people (like my mum!) to acknowledge that's it my first Mother's Day and you know what, we (baby and I) had a pretty tough start. I don't think a nice gesture and a 'well done' would go amiss.

[MakesCakesWhenStressed]

DH and I got cats about 18 mnths ago. Last year, with no kids at all I wasn't expecting anything, but got a card from my 'DCs' (darling cats) instead - made me laugh. Not expecting anything this year though, think they just had novelty value last year

[cocoachannel]

It's my first, DD will be five weeks on Sunday. For the first time in the seven years we've been together DH has bought the cards for his Mum and even mine, so I'll be a bit if I don't get one!

[figcake]

DH wont even be here - he will be with my horrible old MIL - they do not even have Mother's day on the same date in their country. We only realised the dates clashed after he had ordered his tickets. I am not fussed tbh. I expect a fancy meal around the date though no more special than I get several times a year really. I love the card which DS brought home from school last year - Not sure how many more years of that left though

[LittleOneMum]

If I don't get a card from DS (3) and DD (11 months) there will be tears.

[bebejones]

DD is 2.7 so doesn't really 'know' about Mothers day! I doubt DH will remember & he has more important stuff going on than worrying about getting me a card etc. So I'll probably get up on my own with DD in the morning & take her to church on my own where I might possibly get given some daffodils!

[Woodlands]

It's my first Mother's Day as a mother so I'm kind of hoping DH might get me a bunch of flowers and a lie in. Recently it was DH's birthday and I tried to get DS (8 months) to scribble on some paper to make a card with - it wasn't terribly successful as he just wanted to eat the crayon! A handprint would have been a better idea, I might try that for Father's Day. I don't think it would occur to DH to do anything for me on Sunday but I suspect his mum will have had a word!

My mum hates Mother's Day, she thinks it's the Church's way of celebrating women for one day a year and relegating them to making the tea for the other 364. so I've never sent cards etc to her - I just give her a call at some point.

[LittleMumSmall]

Won't be bothered, really. DH has learned in the past two years to remember Valentine's Day but don't think Mother's Day is on his radar yet - DS still tiny and DD not here yet!

[HecateTheCrone]

I already know I won't be getting anything. My eldest told me he is sending a card to "mama peach" and my youngest hasn't got a clue about mother's day, and I don't want my husband to organise anything because a) I'm not his mother ) and b) it would be a forced, fake gesture just for the sake of getting something, which imo renders it meaningless.

It'd be nice if the kids wanted to spoil me but since they don't, ne'mind.

[thinNigella]

I expect cards, diamonds, sunshine, birds singing, flowers and chocolates.

What's wrong with that?

[TBJP]

This is my first mother's day as a mum, and I am really not bothered if I get a card or not! Really! I've got my baby and my DH, and I don't need a card to tell me anything! I think I'll like cards when DS is old enough to make them himself, but I am not bothered about DH getting one from the shop for me.

[LaWeasel]

As I have moaned on many threads, we are broke so I'm not 'getting' anything.

Thus: I would like homemade cake, a lie in... in fact a friend is visiting that day, so maybe we could go out and DH could babysit...

[LizaTarbucksAuntie]

I'd be bloody tamping if I got a 'mothers day' card on Mothering Sunday.

Mother's Day is not the same thing as Mothering sunday when girls in service used to return home to visit their family and take/make the simnel cake for easter.

DP knows I have very strong feelings on the subject - bit then he does as well. Before we got together he delivered a lovely planted flower arrangement to me on behalf of littlemad on my first mothering sunday. (exh had buggered off by then)

My mum usually comes to church with us, we have lunch and there are flowers for all the Mothers in our family.

Littlemad and I usually plant our sunflower seeds on Mothering Sunday as well.

That said littlemad often 'buys' a bunch of flowers for me while we're out shoppng and DP regularly does so. they know I'm the only one who can work the cooker and we all like it that way. i look after them, they look after me :)

[Drizzela]

I've never got a present as not with DD's dad. It all depends on how much fuss the dad makes I think. I always get something 'beautiful' made by my DD (now 5) and she loves giving me a gift. It means so much more than some old tat bought by her dad could whether I was with him or not.

i always spoil my ma though in the hope that DD notices and in turn spoils me when she's earning

[Drizzela]

Still holding out for a step mum card though...