to ask would you be disappointed if you didn't get a card/ present for motherday

[AuntiePickleBottom]

more of a discussion really.

over the school this seems like a hot topic, and some mums expect alot from there OH to deliver cards and presents.

as long as i get a card i really don't care

I had words with dh last year over this. He organised nothing, and ds made a nice card at school. I was expecting a little something, even lunch or some breakfast in bed. I had dropped hints like bricks too.

His excuse was the same as MrsS' dh, you're not my mum, whilst asking what I had sent his mum. Was livid. He says it's manufactured crap, and would rather give flowers just because. Yes, I said, but am fed up waiting for the 'just because' day. And, I make a huge effort for Fathers day. Don't spend a lot, but do make it thoughtful.

I want him to encourage ds to see it as a nice thing, to appreciate his mum. I always made a fuss of my mum, still do.

So long as I get a kiss and a cuddle (and perhaps an hour alone to shower/do my toenails etc. instead of trying to patrol the fights and act as a climbing frame ), I'm not bothered about the 'stuff'.

I would be happy with a cup of tea in bed - at a reasonable hour, not 6am!

No, I really don't want to expect anything because I don't want to be like my mum, who used to pull emotional blackmail on mother's day. I still send her something because now I'm kind of stuck in it and I'm scared not to

It's nice if I get cards made by DC at school or nursery but I would hate to make anyone feel obliged. Or feel bad if they didn't.

i like the idea of a cup of tea in bed about midmorning (not at 7am) and a peaceful bath (does these actually exist lol)

may start hintting tomorrow lol

I know it's a bit twee

I know it's manipulative by the likes of Hallmark

I know my 3 mo dd will not have chosen the card or flowers

But I've never been a mum before and I'm excited by my first ever mothers day.

I would be disappointed if I didn't get a card and a cup of tea in bed.

On my first year as a mum I had such high expectations as I had given birth to DD about a month beforehand and thought DH would go overboard for me. Suffice to say he forgot all about it until the actual day and had to rush out (to the garage I presume) to get a card - I got this awful card which was nothing to do with mother's day and just had a big picture of Homer Simpson showing his bum on the front. I burst into tears!! - hormones eh!!

We still joke about the Homer Simpson bum card and I wont let him forget it.

Invention of Hallmark? Are you kidding? As a day of worship to mothers it can be traced to both ancient Greece and Rome, it was around March even then. Mothering Sunday as a Christian religious festival is dated to at least the 15th Century, although its importance and popularity went in and out of fashion.

Its not a modern invention at all.

No. If the DC made a card themselves I'd appreciate it though. Would hate to get those generic "mother's day flowers", "mother's day chocolates", "mother's day cards" etc. that everyone up and down the country would be getting at the command of Hallmark et al.

Unlikely to be recognised here and I would be upset because I would like them to want to recognise it rather than because I would especially like card, pressie or whatever. Friend today was telling me she had asked for a particular thing for mothers' day and I did find that odd.

I would be disappointed if I didn't get home made cards from my daughters, they love making cards and they are usually works of art! I am also pretty confident of at least chocs and flowers from my DH, he is good that way, so I would be disappointed not to get that, too.

I usually spend mother's day taking my mum out for afternoon tea with my sister, which is a nice mother's day treat for all three of us.

It wasn't invented by Hallmark but what it is today is what commercial establishments like that have conditioned people into doing/expecting.

Nope, I can't be doing with Mother's Day, Father's Day, Anniversaries and all that crap.

We're having friends and their kids round for a boozy afternoon on Sunday while half of the country goes out for lunch having spent a stupid amount on flowers, chocolates, etc.

You know, because we're not talking, I don't have to send shite to sainted mil (she's so amazing don't ypu know?). Yeh!!

thats true of anything though, its all commercialised. I don't see anyone giving up Christmas though because of it.

I expect this year I will organise a gift for my MIL while I get shag all, again.

As long as I get a lie in and a cup of tea I'll be happy. Last year DS came down with chickenpox the day before so DH slept on his floor, which didn't stop DS then waking up and wandering off to climb into bed with me at 4am and grizzling on and off until 7 am. I was insufficiently princessy to make DH get up and take charge of the DCs, so he got my lovely Mother's Day lie in, albeit on DS's floor.

i dont expect anything from dh - peoples dh's who buy them stuff which aren't from the kids...well...thats just fucking freaky.

anyway, i do expect a card - 29p from card factory whoch is a 10 min walk away.

I wouldn't expect anything from dh as I am not his mother, but I will send my mum a card and I'm sure he will send his mum a card. What annoys me is that he forgets to 'enable' dd to make a card, not that I need one, but she will be upset if she realises that it is mother's day and she has not done anything. She is 8, and very dozy, so quite likely to forget until the last minute, unless someone says "do you want to do something for mothers' day?" and then helps her find card etc. I'm really not bothered for myself, but I know she will be.

I'd be lucky if I get a card, won't get anything else cause Sunday morning is for golf, Sunday afternoon is for DP have a nap cause he got up early for golf, and I am not his mother and he heard somewhere and has kept it too heart that women don't like getting flowers cause they think they are being buttered up or expect their DP has done something to be guilty about - total crap excuse for not ever having to buy me flowers if you ask me! Roll on Fathers Day!

My mum does a hundred and one little things for us throughout the year, I'm very grateful and do say thank you at the time. However, I feel that Mother's Day is a good day to specifically tell her how much I appreciate everything she does for me.

DD was only 10 days old last year and I didn't expect DH to get me anything as it was still a haze at that point. I was disappointed that both our mums visited and not one of them got me a little something (although I have since learnt that me and DH are now redundant in our ILs eyes).

Last year, DH ignored my birthday (just before Mother's Day), not even telling the kids it was my birthday. Then we trailed round John Lewis on Mother's Day getting presents for MIL. He said I wasnt a good enough wife apparently .
I thought my birthday would be a bit better this year. All I ever want is a card on the morning, not something bought later on from the garage. Ha ha stupid me . My 6 year old made me a beautiful little card and a badge, bless her.
My mum died when I was young just before my birthday so it does mean something to me now I'm a mum. Every year at school was crap when everyone was making cards and I got sent round the school doing jobs to avoid any embarrassment
I would like a card but wont hold my breath