to ask would you be disappointed if you didn't get a card/ present for motherday

[AuntiePickleBottom]

more of a discussion really.

over the school this seems like a hot topic, and some mums expect alot from there OH to deliver cards and presents.

as long as i get a card i really don't care

[flyingspaghettimonster]

I have low expectations - the two older kids will probably make or draw something at school, but to be honest that usually makes me nauseous as these Americans sure love soppy, bad poetry! One memorable 'artwork' was a printout of a poem about how I should treasure the sticky handprints on the walls and windows because I would miss them one day, but here is a paint version i can keep forever... pukeworthy. Anyhow, I swear the kids' nursery used to buy the artwork items in bulk from some underpaid child labourers in an LDC, because no way were those neat, tidy, multicoloured fingerprint paintings actually made by my kids, at least not without Ms. Trunchball forcing their grubby mitts into the paint pots under pain of death...

Anyhow, I kind of feel that mother's day is for older Mums. I see it as my chance to let my mother know I love her and am grateful for all the years she has been there for me. I am planning on booking her a weekend away in a gypsy caravan as her treat, because when we were little we used to see this cute gypsy caravan at the farm and long to have it in the back garden to sleep in... I think she'll get a kick out of it. I hope when I am 50-odd and my kids are grown, they will do something nice for me on mother's day. Till then, I am grateful for the laughter they fill my house with (not so much the screaming, mess, despair and frustration, but it's all part of the package deal :-))

[mmmerangue]

Fairly confident that MIL will have goaded my partner into buying me something 'from our 5 week old son'. In exchange i will probably have to buy her a card.... unless he thinks to get two!

When he's older I hope that DP will also help him make cards etc as I always did for my parents, and plan to on fathers day... But really a big cuddle and maybe a cup of tea in bed sounds like a good deal! I don't think i'll be too precious ;)

[figcake]

That is lovely Cory

[cory]

Tamashii, my Mother's Day treat has always been tea (cold water when they were too little to boil the kettle) and toast in bed, and then fish fingers and beans for dinner. The treat is that dcs prepare it (with help from dh in early years). By now, dcs have got to an age where they could, frankly, cook a much better meal, and we could afford a meal ot- but fish fingers and beans have got to be Mother's Day tradition. It's the I-did-this-for-you bit that matters. Even a very small child can help to dish up beans on a plate.

[SpeedyGonzalez]

Mamalovebird what a great attitude you have.

Weegie - how awful. Reading between the lines it sounds as though you're still in a lot of pain over this, however submerged it may be.

[PlanetEarth]

Agree with Housemum - I'd rather have attention - and someone else to do my jobs - than presents .

[Housemum]

Tamashii - he could just make an effort with DS to give you a nice day - depending on how old DS is they could make you breakfast in bed, or make dinner? Even if it's beans on toast it's a treat if someone else makes it and washes up :)

[Tamashii]

I doubt I will get anything for Mother's Day as we are absolutely skint and DH is always reminding me how completely skint we are so I might get a card but that is it. I don't care this year though because if he DID go out and get me stuff from DS I would just feel guilty since "we are skint!!!" would be ringing in my ears.

SIL on the other hand is getting a spa weekend with her best friend which would be amazing. How the other half live ;)

[knittedbreast]

i never get anything, my oh dousnt bother. I dont care though!

[PurpleLostPrincess]

We have a tradition in this house, that on birthdays and mothers/fathers days, the person it's for gets to relax all day and gets a 'day off'. So, just hoping for a lie in and for DH or the kids to make me tea when requested... I will also get my Mum something nice and go and visit her.

DH's mum wasn't much of a mum (understatement!) and I used to struggle to find a card that kept the wording simple and not about how wonderful she was/wasn't. Unfortunately she died in February, DH is still a bit raw from it (they hadn't spoken for a few years). I have asked him how he would like me to be and he said not to mention anything to him about her and to enjoy it for myself, bless him!

[chocadoodle]

DS (2) is making his first Mothers Day card at playgroup this morning. He told me earlier :)

I told DH not to bother buying another card or flowers, really annoys me how they bump the price up for the occasion. That said, I bought my own Mum flowers yesterday for Mothers Day. I figured she'd get a nicer bunch for a tenner than she would if I were to buy them at the weekend, and she didn't mind having them early. DH will buy MIL some over the weekend and will probably get 6 flowers for the same price, but it'd be the end of the world if she was given them any day apart from Sunday .

What I'd really like is a lie in and dinner cooked for me for a change but that's not likely.

[wilbur]

My dcs are past the point of bringing cards home from nursery/school so dh does usually get them to at least sign a card he has bought. My ideal would be a bunch of daffs and the afternoon on the sofa watching a musical, so not a huge expecatation, but something of one. I never know what dh is going to do for days like these though, he is very random. We generally just do little tokens of affection at Valentines, for instance, but this year he went crazy and bought 2 really special gifts and I gave him 3/4 of a packet of Smarties....

[Housemum]

I wouldn't expect a card from DH himself, but I expect him to make sure the kids have either done something at school (the youngest 2) or gone to buy a card (don't think 6th form college does cutting & sticking!) Not fussed about a present, just having no housework to do that day would be my ideal. In my mind, that means him cleaning surfaces/washing up/cooking. In his mind that means cooking and leaving the clearing up for me to do the next day when he's at work! He even mentioned the idea of going to play golf on Sunday as he's missing Saturday's usual morning round so we can take the kids out. My look frightened birds out of the trees...

As he forgot my birthday yesterday, he knows he is in the doghouse already, so any slip-ups on Sunday and he'll be sleeping in the shed!

[QueenBathsheba]

I have bought my own, DH is useless and with 2 DS I have come to the conclusion that I should just either treat myself or go without.

I took the DS to buy my mother a gift, we have chosen an old leather bound copy of the Water Babies because it was the first book she ever read.

[mamalovebird]

I also find it hard with the plethora of 'aren't you a wonderful mother' type cards. My mum was the furthest thing away from being wonderful, caring supportive. In fact she was a cow who threw me out on my 16th birthday. But that was then and after nearly 20 years, we sort of have a relationship again, not that I'll ever forgive her for how she treated me. However, she is my mum and if I am adult enough to have built a few bridges I should also acknowledge her as my mum.

Although, her being crap has just taught me how to be everythign she wasn't so enjoy the day for you weegie, don't think about your mum.

[HavingAnOffDAy]

Cards & a pressie chosen by DD would be nice.

'Spect I'll end up with not much though - DH is rubbish like that

[mamalovebird]

Weegie - I know how you feel - my father died on Father's day so it can be a touch melancholic but I just have to let that go and enjoy it for my DP as it's his day now & I'd hate my DS growing up remembering me being all gloomy on father's day!

Good on you for not letting it get the better of you :)

[Fanilla]

I got a tumble drier last year.

This year I just want to not have to do anything for the day. A proper day off!

[weegiemum]

A "little birdie" (ie dh) has suggested that this year as well as the normal stuff of flowers and Easter Eggs and misery, there may just be a pair of baby guinea pigs coming my way! I have been bereft of pigginess since last August (RIP Benny) and I love my piggies, so this year could be a turning point ........

[iscream]

My dh never gives me a card or present on Mothers Day. He says I am not his mother. Hmpt! He always works on Sundays anyways, and leaves early to go visit him mom first on MD. But he did make sure the kids always had present and cards when they were little, now they remember on their own. They make me dinner and watch chick flicks with me without complaint, lol.
I would be very sad if the kids forgot me on Mothers Day.

[whoamamma]

I was just hoping for a day with dd and dh (first mothers day for me). Dh has invited pil and sil over. Great .

[ElenStone]

I'd be disappointed, DS is usually really thoughtful, so it'd be a shock. He's been asking for gemstones, wire and beads to make stuff lately, so I get the impression he's going to make me some jewellery this year. Which will be lovely, until I have to wear it

[wabbit]

I expect it will be about MY mum (as usual) grrrrrrrrrrrrr!