to ask would you be disappointed if you didn't get a card/ present for motherday

[AuntiePickleBottom]

more of a discussion really.

over the school this seems like a hot topic, and some mums expect alot from there OH to deliver cards and presents.

as long as i get a card i really don't care

Mothering Sunday, St Valentine, Easter, Christmas, etc all have roots in ancient lore/adopted religious celebrations.

Mothering Sunday is a religious celebration that pretty much fell out of practice. It was mainly about domestic servants returning to worship at their parish of birth (their "mother church") and visiting their families at the same time.

The pressure on children and husbands to purchase cards, expensive flowers and gifts and the right to pout if these are not produced with sufficient attendant genuflection is a modern day invention. Nothing to do with religion and the Mothering Sunday of old. Much like Christmas trees and chocolate eggs.

at notahappycamper's DH.

notahappycamper ... I would sob if that happened to me. How thoughtless of DH.

I do mind about Mothers Day being forgotten, and - unfortunately - my husband is completely hopeless at remembering it. I don't want a present or anything - I just would like a homemade card and a little bit of fuss from the kids ... on my birthday, DS (aged 4) announced he was going to give me a special hug and pour out my breakfast cereal "because it is Mummy's special day", that sort of little thing.

Um, no. Not bothered. Certainly wouldn't make a fuss if I don't get anything. DD is only just 3, so not particularly great at reading the calendar, and I am not DH's mother.

Furious.
I have been spoilt in previous years I guess.

just thought you'd like to know my current forecast as I'm a bit insomniaish (which almost certainly eill change between now and then!) is for quite a nice day for most of us. dry (unless you are in the nw) and not too cold.

DD (3) will either make me a card at nursery or do so with my mum when she sees her later in the week. That's enough for me.

I'm not bothered by presents, flowers etc as long as I get to spend the actual day with DD. DP wont remember mothers day. I do howver remember fathers day, but again DD just makes something- a card, a hand a mess etc.

and OMFG at notahappycamper's wanker husband!

Hope you give fathers day and his birthday a wide berth. What a big meanie

Yes I would-but then I always get spoiled for the day and I like it!

yes, i would. i think if you have a dp, he should encourage the dc to make a card, and he should ensure you get whatever constitutes a lie-in in your house (about 8.30am here ). presents/flowers/lunch out is optional.

There would be trouble.

But I am a high maintenance PITA.

That saying 'If Mama Aint Happy, Aint Nobody Happy' applies in our house.

Very happy to be home for Mother's Day this year (which is in May here). We are spoiling Mum and MIL like crazy this year to make up for the missed ones (where we did send flowers, but it isn't the same).

We do birthdays, Christmas, Mother's Day and Father's Day but not valentines day.

Mine are old enough to organise breakfast in bed etc if suitably reminded. I'm reminding them.

Nope, can't be arsed with it. I'll be getting up at the usual time and certainly don't expect to be treated like I'm somone special - I'm not, I'm just a regular mum like most. It's my job to be the best mum I can be to my kids and as long as my kids are happy and healthy, then I don't give a stuff about Mother's Day.

DH forgot it was Mother's Day on my first one and I was gutted.

I wouldn't expect anything particulary grand now but I would be disappointed if he completely failed to acknowledge it (kids are still teenies).

Ah see I am special and expect and deserve to be treated as such, as are my Mum and MIL, very special.

Last year (DD and my first Mothers day) DP bought me a lovely card and a lovely little willow tree figure, it almost brought me to tears, as a result I told him he was off the hook for doing Mothers Day until DD was old enough to do it herself.

So I'm not expecting anything this year and will not be disappointed

I know I got a card and a present because I bought them

I'm not overly bothered. I only got myself a card and present because DD wanted to get me something but DP won't be home to take her shopping.

I would be a bit upset if I didn't get anything but I know that isn't going to happen because I made my own Mummy mug yesterday with DS's handprint on it, matches the mug I made for DH at Christmas. I know DH has remembered to buy me somethingon behalf of DS as I have been forbidden to look in a bag from debenhams! I did buy The cards for both mums though ( the last birthday card DH bought his mum was a mothers day card. I told him to get a proper birthday card but he just crossed out mothers day, wrote birthday, and said she would find it funny!)

I didn't get a card or anything last year. Now bearing in mind DS was one at this point it wasn't exactly his fault. It was my first mother's day - I was pretty disappointed. DH will not be making the same mistake again this year

I am not a mum (yet ). DH and I send a lovely bouquet of flowers to our mothers... both in different countries. I also text my sils' (who are great mums to my nephews and nieces) a little msg on the day.

I get nothing from my eldest he doesn't do birthday cards let alone Mothers day cards. My youngest buys me something and gets me a card from him and the dog, he is 17.

DH doesn't believe in organising/doin/buying anything for me from him or on behalf of the children as I'm not his mother. I can kind of see his point, but it also seems to me that by the time your DC are old enough to do something for you off their own bat, you're not doing as much for them anyway and don't feel the need to be recognised so much. Well thats my view on it, anyway.

As it is, the PTA organise a Mothers Day gift scam session at school where I give the DC money to buy me a little pot of primroses or something, which is sweet.

In previous years, I have invited my mother and MIL over too and cooked. This year, as MIL is on holiday and my parents are going to my sisters ( for the first time, like, ever ), I have taken it upon myself to book a table for lunch locally for our family. For the first time ever, I am looking forward to Mothers Day.

I actually think it is nice for children, once old enough, to be given a chance to do something for someone else; it's not because I think I'm a wonderful mum who has to have recognition that I engineer Mother's Day, it's creating memories for them. I have happy memories of treats I arranged for my own parents- everybody wants to be the giver from time to time, not just the receiver. Admittedly, black toast with cold water slopped over my bed may not actually be my favourite culinary treat, but it's memories. Though it is nice these days to be able to get a decent cuppa.

I'd agree with that, cory. I might ask DH to help the DC make me breakfast in bed, but suspect I will be pushing it. I, as you say, have fond memories of doing that for my mother.

DP has forgotten the last 2 years (DD is two) but I'm hoping the arrival of DS and my hint of getting his mum a card will remind him to get me one! Failing that, DD might make one at nursery on Wednesday.

Still, at least he remembers my birthday!