to ask would you be disappointed if you didn't get a card/ present for motherday

[AuntiePickleBottom]

more of a discussion really.

over the school this seems like a hot topic, and some mums expect alot from there OH to deliver cards and presents.

as long as i get a card i really don't care

[knittedbreast]

i never get anything, my oh dousnt bother. I dont care though!

[Tamashii]

I doubt I will get anything for Mother's Day as we are absolutely skint and DH is always reminding me how completely skint we are so I might get a card but that is it. I don't care this year though because if he DID go out and get me stuff from DS I would just feel guilty since "we are skint!!!" would be ringing in my ears.

SIL on the other hand is getting a spa weekend with her best friend which would be amazing. How the other half live ;)

[Housemum]

Tamashii - he could just make an effort with DS to give you a nice day - depending on how old DS is they could make you breakfast in bed, or make dinner? Even if it's beans on toast it's a treat if someone else makes it and washes up :)

[PlanetEarth]

Agree with Housemum - I'd rather have attention - and someone else to do my jobs - than presents .

[SpeedyGonzalez]

Mamalovebird what a great attitude you have.

Weegie - how awful. Reading between the lines it sounds as though you're still in a lot of pain over this, however submerged it may be.

[cory]

Tamashii, my Mother's Day treat has always been tea (cold water when they were too little to boil the kettle) and toast in bed, and then fish fingers and beans for dinner. The treat is that dcs prepare it (with help from dh in early years). By now, dcs have got to an age where they could, frankly, cook a much better meal, and we could afford a meal ot- but fish fingers and beans have got to be Mother's Day tradition. It's the I-did-this-for-you bit that matters. Even a very small child can help to dish up beans on a plate.

[figcake]

That is lovely Cory

[mmmerangue]

Fairly confident that MIL will have goaded my partner into buying me something 'from our 5 week old son'. In exchange i will probably have to buy her a card.... unless he thinks to get two!

When he's older I hope that DP will also help him make cards etc as I always did for my parents, and plan to on fathers day... But really a big cuddle and maybe a cup of tea in bed sounds like a good deal! I don't think i'll be too precious ;)

[flyingspaghettimonster]

I have low expectations - the two older kids will probably make or draw something at school, but to be honest that usually makes me nauseous as these Americans sure love soppy, bad poetry! One memorable 'artwork' was a printout of a poem about how I should treasure the sticky handprints on the walls and windows because I would miss them one day, but here is a paint version i can keep forever... pukeworthy. Anyhow, I swear the kids' nursery used to buy the artwork items in bulk from some underpaid child labourers in an LDC, because no way were those neat, tidy, multicoloured fingerprint paintings actually made by my kids, at least not without Ms. Trunchball forcing their grubby mitts into the paint pots under pain of death...

Anyhow, I kind of feel that mother's day is for older Mums. I see it as my chance to let my mother know I love her and am grateful for all the years she has been there for me. I am planning on booking her a weekend away in a gypsy caravan as her treat, because when we were little we used to see this cute gypsy caravan at the farm and long to have it in the back garden to sleep in... I think she'll get a kick out of it. I hope when I am 50-odd and my kids are grown, they will do something nice for me on mother's day. Till then, I am grateful for the laughter they fill my house with (not so much the screaming, mess, despair and frustration, but it's all part of the package deal :-))