to be angry 16yr old step --slut-- daughter is pg when i cant?

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Pretty sure I am being unreasonable, but desperately need to vent. My dp is 15 years my senior and had two children (teens....ack) from a previous marriage. We have 1 ds who has just turned 2 and are trying for our second. Have been trying for about 6 months so far. I feel like my life is on hold. There is nothing I want more than to be pregnant again.
Oops, sidetracked. Sorry. So a few weeks ago, his 16 yr old daughter announces she is due at the end of effing August. To a boy she had been dating for a month prior to conception.
She is still smoking, planning on getting herself a nice little council house and lots of juicy benefits, just like her mother. She is not sad or ashamed about any of this.
But now any children I have will be younger than their niece/nephew. I am furious. I don't want to be a Jeremy Kyle statistic. I would rather she wasn't either. I don't want her in my house anymore. I know so much of this is jealousy, she is and I seem currently unable. She has that which I so desperately want.
What would you all do? Should I just get over myself? What would you lot all do?

Slut?

YABVU to refer to a 16 year old girl as a slut. Your fertility issues are not her fault.

She's nothing to do with you so I'd just be bloody thankful she wasn't my daughter.

YABU.

What do you mean, what should you do? She is your husband's daughter, part of your family. Be welcoming, be supportive and seethe quietly.

Good luck with the TTC.

Nice OP....

YABU. Your whole post is incredibly negative towards his kids.
It's all 'I don't want' blah blah. Calling 16 year olds 'sluts' is not cool. What would your DH say?

What would I do? Probably wash my mouth out and grow up

Life's a bitch. Harden the fuck up and stop calling your DHs daughter a slut.

You seem to be a very bitter person with no empathy at all, and certainly no concern for your poor (D)H's feelings. This is his daughter and it will be his grandchild!

I understand why you are upset but I'm not sure what you have said about your step daughter will do down well on here.

YANBU to be upset about not being pregnant (just yet)

YABU to call you sdd this way, she is only 16, still a child.

YABVVU. A slut? Wow I'd hate to catch you on a bad day. And 6 months is nothing.

In the nicest possible way... she is a child. Whatever she says on the surface, underneath she is shitting herself. Even if she wasn't very careful, it doesn't make it a plan. You are an adult. Stop worrying about the way it makes your family look (Jeremy Kyle statistic etc) and look after her. I'm not saying I don't understand how you feel- I had three miscarriages before my lovely DD- but you made a life with this man knowing he had children, so it is your responsibility to accept her and care for her.

Slut?

I would hate to have you in my life...Seriously

'I don't want to be a Jeremy Kyle statistic.'

Too late, and it isn't your step daughter's doing.

You sound like a complete bitch and hopefully one day your DH will realise how you feel about his children. What will you do when your DS disappoints you? Want him out as well?

If you are real you should take yourself apart, remove the horrid bits, replace with some human and loving bits, and reassemble yourself before trying again.

Lovely sentiment Hully

horrible horrible post, fgs you should be looking out for her

YABU. She's probably made some very silly choices but she will now have to live with them. She doesn't need one of the key adults in her life to be insulting and behaving like a brat about it. You don't have to like it, but she's your DH's daughter so you do have to live with it. Be a grown up and support her.

And calling the OP a bitch etc is singulalry unhelpful. She needs love and guidance to help her change and thereby help the sd. Not a slagging, that's about your feelings, not her actions.

While I can understand that you are angry, I think it would be better if you tried to speak of her as a person rather than a statistic or a slut. Because the way we speak does influence the way we feel and there is no way encouraging these feelings in yourself is going to help your relationship with your dh: his first duty is to be there for his daughter.

You need to separate a few issues here. Your stepdaughter's pregnancy may well be a tragedy if it's going to wreck her life (you don't know that yet). But how it reflects on you, or what kind of statistics it conforms to, is neither here nor there: noone can lead their life with an eye on Jeremy Kyle or on the family expectations of their stepmother (mustn't get pregnant before her).

Rant away, punch a pillow, but for goodness sake don't let your dh know how you feel. He needs to be there for his daughter.

But good luck with your own conception- hope it happens soon!

I think you should go away. Calm down and then come back and say nicely you need to vent because you upset and frustrated because people around you are getting pregnant when you want nothing more.

I sure hope you havn't said any of your op to anyone in RL and this is just you get feelings of frustration off your chest

Oh and you PFB will be a teen one day. Ack.

Fast forward 14 years.

What would you say, what would you do, how would you feel if it was your DS who was having a child ?

Oh and what the fuck has having neices and nephews younger than your child got to do with it?

You sound horrible.

And YABU