to think women CAN have casual sex?

[GastonTheLadybird]

I have read a few things recently that have said that women and men are essentially wired differently and that women will always feel rejected, cheap and used after casual encounters.

I think this is just as bad as saying that casual sex is empowering etc. For some people it will be, and some people will feel rejected but equally some women can just enjoy casual sex without it being any more or less than that.

Or AIBU and we are 'wired' differently?

I'm perfectly capable of casual encounters. But I never enjoyed them much compared to having sex with someone I love.

Horses for courses, innit.

Yep I can and have. Totally enjoy sex just for sex but also enjoy it as part of a relationship it's just different that's all - but equally fun

Expat - your post about passing a man around confimed my views. I'm so glad I levitated sexually - casual sex sounds really grim.

oh and PA4PM - I've just had a quick look at another thread - I had no idea you were a hairy feminist

carmina...you just love my chest plaits dontcha ?

'Expat - your post about passing a man around confimed my views. I'm so glad I levitated sexually - casual sex sounds really grim.'

I didn't partake. But each to his own. None of those women was unattractive or needy. Don't know how good they were in bed as I don't have sex with women.

They all liked to have a lot of sex with different people at the time. I only know one now. She's been with one partner for 14 years now.

I guess it's only the women who are casual about sex that are the ones who should be denegrated, though, according to some.

Whatever.

'Cock sisters' is a great term, though :o.

Listen - I like everything in my life smooth

plus I'm a moondog admirer ( that's why I looked on that thread - I had to check out what she was saying - she's hardly ever on here these days >)

so it's looking like what we had really was casual after all - still, I have half a ton of your body hair to remember you by - I will stuff a few pillows with it in your honour. >

a moondog admirer ?

blimey, you need to get out more

or get more of it

expat - you do make me laugh

Likewise :o

Expat, we used to call it 'proxy shag' so if you shagged someone your mate had previously shagged, you and your mate were proxy shags. I've had loads of those.
Mind you I like group sex, as well.

I am happily married but if I was not I could definitely see myself up for casual sex/fucked buddy sort of arrangement.

Sometimes you just went a good fuck, no cuddling or messing around.

I feel neither hard (Oo-er), ugly or needy.

I honestly couldn't see myself seeking out another permanent partner if something were to happen to/with DH but I like sex very much.

The casual thing leaves me cold. It's all or nothing for me! I won't accept anything less.

poop - not less, different.

I'm snorting at all these 'pencil dick' recollections A friend of mine reckoned she could tell by a bloke's fingers, but even that wasn't foolproof - now you really don't expect a strapping 6ft4in bloke with plates for hands to be a disappointment, she was most put out

Proxy shags is good, too!

These young men were fine with being passed around, I should point out.

They laid around like rugs.

And what Morloth said. Sometimes, I just fancied a right good seeing to and wasn't in a relationship (and didn't want to be).

I never thought about the casual thing. The way I looked at it, I enjoyed sex, and therefore wanted to do it as often as possible. It was a hobby and after a lot of practise I got quite good.

Not now, but yes I used to! I used to have sex just for fun because I fancied someone not because I thought he was Mr Right or the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. It does piss me off when people think that women are all about trapping men into marriage! When I met DH at 23 he was the one who wanted to be all serious and move in together- I had only been in London six months and though I'd be shagging around happily single for a few years rather than months.