to phone my ex over something he wrote on DDs FB wall.

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DD1 logged on to FB and noticed that her status update said ''DD1 has a smelly bum''. She didn't write it, couldn't have wrote it because at the time it was posted we were all at my sisters.

DD1 had been at my exes earlier on that day and she said she'd used facebook. She never logs out properly and when I'm logging on to facebook I usually find myself on her page instead of my own so I strongly suspect that my ex when he logged on decided to have a bit of 'fun'.

Well mumsnet jury, would I be unreasonable to phone my ex up, ask him if he has done this and if he has would IBU to tear him another one for embarrassing DD.

Tear him one for having a laugh with his Daughter? NO.

Tear her one for lax internet security? YES.

Sorry but if she's old enough to use FB then she's old enough to log out. If she uses online bank accounts, she'll really need to learn this lesson.

How old is she?

YANBU at all. Very inappropriate and slightly creepy actually. How old is DD?

Perhaps this was his way of trying to teach her a lesson about making sure she signs out? Would it bother you if he was still your OH or is it a classic case of "its U because my ex is doing it"?

I am guilty of that, going OTT at him doing something I would probably do myself, because if I did it...well....its different. It just is!

What Worra said.

Creepy? Really?

I agree wholeheartedly with worraliberty. She needs to learn to log out properly and it sounds like her dad was trying to make her laugh (whether that's misguided or not is another issue). Surely you need to choose your battles a bit more carefully.

how old is she

its just a silly game that lots of people do, i wouldnt pay it any attention whatsoever

Was anyone else at your exes home? Just seems a very childish thing to do. Does she use FB on a mobile that a friend could have got a hold of?

Jesus wept! Since when was a very obviously juvinile joke creepy. We'd better teach all our boys not to use the word bum in front of a female because it might be deemed inappropriate.

OP - if your DD is going to be embarrassed by that she really is too young to be on FB unsupervised.

Yes, I really do find it creepy. A father should not be thinking of his daughter like that or trying to embarrass her in that way.

She's 13.

Worra, true - we have had this discussion before and she obviously needs a reminder.

Bogeyface - this is why I brought this to the mn jury. I tend to view all his actions through a twat coloured pair of glasses.

Sounds like her dad being daft and metaphorically poking his tongue out in jest at her. She needs to learn to log out. Certainly don't agree that it's creepy!

My DD and her close friends are forever posting on each others' status - it seems to be a rite of passage. I agree that she needs to log out properly if she doesn't want this to happen.

my son and his gf does this all the time, and ive seen her mum do it to her and her sister

its no big deal

and the poster who thinks its creepy i think is the one with the problem/issue

Rhinestone thinking of his daughter like what? Seriously I don't understand what you mean.

what does your daughter think

Too young for fb... Isn't it supposed to be for over 14's?

no, 13

OP - I think you're well within your rights to have a go at him. He shouldn't be writing things like that. She's 13, a rather self-conscious age and he should grow up. He does sound like a twat.

I still think it's creepy - inappropriate boundaries in my view.

leave the barrrrrrrrrrstarrrrrd

oh you have

as you were

Megatron - I mean he should have a bit more respect for his daughter and her privacy rather than thinking he can post things like that about her.

Yes, I really do find it creepy. A father should not be thinking of his daughter like that or trying to embarrass her in that way

Thinking of his daughter like what??

I call my sons smelly bum all the time (they do smell rancid at times!) Should I not be 'thinking of my sons in this way'?