to phone my ex over something he wrote on DDs FB wall.

[SmellsLikeTeenStrop]

DD1 logged on to FB and noticed that her status update said ''DD1 has a smelly bum''. She didn't write it, couldn't have wrote it because at the time it was posted we were all at my sisters.

DD1 had been at my exes earlier on that day and she said she'd used facebook. She never logs out properly and when I'm logging on to facebook I usually find myself on her page instead of my own so I strongly suspect that my ex when he logged on decided to have a bit of 'fun'.

Well mumsnet jury, would I be unreasonable to phone my ex up, ask him if he has done this and if he has would IBU to tear him another one for embarrassing DD.

Sibs do this sort of thing to each other all the time. It was a harmless daft comment. She needs to learn to log out. He could have done something that really mucked up her facebook account but instead just showed her what can happen if you don't log out in a harmless family teasing sort of way.

Agree with all TheMightyToosh said

I repeate I am not Rhinestone, I dn't feel the need to namechange to state my opinions.

I'm also not so insecure about my opinions, that I need to personally insult you for not agreeing with me Vinegartits.

You send very angry.

HerBeX... My issue with what you've said is that YOU perceive unintelligence in the posters who do not agree that the action was 'stupid, crass and insensitive'. Your yardstick for stupid, crass and insensitive is different from what somebody else perceives them to be. It has nothing to do with intelligence and the way you've posted is pompous in my opinion.

Where exactly do you feel that you've been insulted?

Sorry you sound very angry

oh i havent insulted you herbex, merely stated -the obvious though you were rhinestone

if i called you a cunt them that would be an insult, stop being so sensitive dear

Gawd whole load of fuss over nothing. Me, DH and SD do this to each other ALL the time, in our house it's your own fault if you've forgotten to log out.

i think tis all more annoying cos you dont love him
if htat were your h you wouldnt give a toss

VinegarTits, you haven't read the thread if you think that Rhinestone and HerBeX are the only ones that think this was an inappropriate 'joke'. Others have agreed, myself included.

LyingWitch, I assume that the reference to being insulted is about being told you have no sense of humour / must be no fun at parties / have a pole up your ass because you disagree with what others are saying.

I can understand that for some people and in some families, this kind of (telling your teenager's friends that she has a smelly bum) thing is viewed as harmless fun. I can't understand people being so narrow-minded and self satisfied as to assume that anyone who doesn't share their view must be humourless, or that there couldn't possibly be more than one person who disagrees with them, and therefore posters must be name-changing.

Bizarre.

LyingWitch ... party ...sense of humour... pole up arse...

All insults on my planet! I also think it's a bit wank to accuse me of name changing. I acknowledge that I've been insulting implying people are stupid but I think I only did that after several people told people who didn't agree with them to lighten up. IMO telling someone to lighten up, is really dismissive and bad mannered, so it makes me not feel bad about calling people stupid. Plus I'm very very uncomfortable with the notion that children's feelings don't matter and it enrages me to see adults dismissing children's feelings, as I think that's such a crass and stupid thing to do, but you're right, not everyone who agrees this guy's behaviour is OK is going to be someone who habitually dismisses children's feelings, so I shouldn't give in to the urge to call them stupid. I apologise, I'll only call someone stupid if they personally insult me from now on, howzat?

I agree with Mightytoosh. I think whether this sort of thing is awful or OK, depends very much on what sort of relationship the kid has with her dad. And I guess none of us knows that.

I don't consider being called a cunt an insult vinegar tits.

But don't call me dear, you cunt.

See what I did there LyingWitch?

Seems like you have a great sense of humour to me HerBeX - that made me lol

oh lighten up you cunt

i did read the thread cloudy, at one point i though herbex was you too

most people give their opinion then bogoff to the next thread, certain people hang aroud (usually when no one else agree with them)trying to justify their views until someone agrees or namechange to back themselves up

I can't believe this thread is still going.

HerBex, I would say she has a pretty good relationship with her dad. If it upset her that much she'll speak to him and then he'll say sorry and they'll make up. I don't need to be involved.

So there you have it.

All fine and dandy now.

Hope this thread has entertained you SLTS

I am not Herbex - I also don't need to namechange in order to hold a minority view.

And anyone over the age of 14 who uses the term 'frape' - what the fuck is wrong with you.

HerBeX... No, I missed it... What did you do?

I think Mark Twain summed it up best. He said, "Show me a person who thinks something is funny - and I'll show you a person who doesn't".

Different strokes for different folks... is it time for a mojito yet?

Rhinestone... so... under 14 is ok then? Who decides the age limit to stop using foolish words? Some sound very silly at any age... doesn't stop people using them, or from thinking that there's nothing wrong with them for doing so.

Called VT a very norty word